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On 11/8/2019 at 6:12 AM, Derek White said:

@MsNobody When people talk they talk like that. Saying “10 per day” doesn’t mean he is making women look like animals. He is saying talk to 10 women per day so you can get good at attracting women, because for men attracting women is harder than it is for women to attract men,generally.

How is this one simple point so hard to understand? No one is being treated like an object.

The more attractive I have become (through PRACTICE), the more I've raised the people around me and spread positivity.
The more sexually abundant I've become, the more kind, loving and well intentioned I've become.

It's a pretty fucking simple causality and extremely reproducible.

I can't believe I'm actually reading posts by women implying it's selfish for a man to be improving himself and taking care of his needs. Sure it is, like everything a self does, but what are you really  arguing? Hypocrisy. Oh wait, I can believe because self awareness is such a damn rarity even here.

Edited November 13, 2019 by Display_Name

[Aeris]

On 10/11/2019 at 2:39 AM, modmyth said:

If you listened and watched carefully, you would see that in many many cases, there is the craving for emotional affirmation (and affirmation of the soul, in a sense), which is just as powerful, if not more powerful, than the simple urge to get off.  It is like the craving to be reminded that you are alive, that you exist, that you fucking matter. Is it being expressed in the most conscious and positive way? No, obviously not.

So even though I'm not in the same situation, empathy in this case is pretty simple, I think. Take something that you yourself crave emotional affirmation with, even if it's not with sex. Like, even just someone telling you that you're awesome. Now imagine that everyone 1) either ignores you. 2) tells you that you are shit. This gets to you eventually, even if no one owes you sex or affirmation. If you're young especially, this shapes you.

Saying that this thing shouldn't be sex.... not helpful. Some of us can't help it.

I have great compassion for the awkward, the late bloomers, and for those who are not naturals, and get no support/ guidance, etc., so all that is left is PUA, the best and the worst of it all.

In general, I wish everyone just got theirs, whether it was emotional satisfaction, sexual satisfaction, etc.... Honestly, it makes me sad...

WHY CAN'T EVERYONE LEARN HOW TO GET ALONG?!

because nature caused all our needs and thinking turned upon this rigorous "need pattern" for self satisfaction/ seeking for pleasure / avoiding pain / avoiding death.

if you want to stop the whole structure of human, you will have to makes them " robot ".

our organic natures makes us, drug addict with mouth.

sex is the root core of all addiction. We are all some sort of natural drug addict, sex becomes just like a hit on a pipe for a crack addict, and everyone is a bit of a crack addict.

we are all rushing for the next plan for getting "pleasure". etc..

like for instance, porn is part of what you wish for then, ( in a way )

most men can now fap all days instead of trying to rape all girls as they probably were in old age. 

now we choose people under " love ", before it was social family and choosen mariage, people in our society doesn't fucking have a clue about this fact, all womans were basicly put with a random man to be bearing his child and being raped by him whenever he wanted, and guess what, it was NORMAL at this time..

I think that porn and violent video games, doesn't created violence or sexual abuse, I think those things litteraly reduced the "natural instinct" for being a violent animal with needs.

people want to see the whole reality is something non biological.

to not see reality from a "cynic point", but we are big animals, not something HIGHER than animal, that is totaly deluded.

We are animals.

not that we are only pure organic product, but we are, and our words are translations of thoses natural needs.

the need for hunting ( and in humans, it start to look, like , life purpose, etc.. )

even the feeling of "borringness", create disturbing thing.

you could unconsciously destroy a good relation, because unconsciously, you wanted it to end for reasons that are in the scope of your animality ( and avoided by your "conscious awareness" ) 

the world is not only "biological", biological is an arbitrary term

maybe there is such a thing as a "free human spirit" inside the body.

maybe I m not a bio product of my environnement and my basic instinct.

but maybe you can get rid of your entire human body, in this case, maybe we could all agree on not having this problem of "need".

for a perfect society you would need that EVERYONE have the same things.

 

same amount of good sex

same amount of food

same amount of "beautifulness"

competitivity thinking ( competitivity is not something created by some human, it's in a facet of who we are )

battle for glory, recognition, etc...

 

in fact you would have to put all humans on the form of robotic cells that are all the same.

 

Are you angry people when humans doesn't act logic ? are you angry when a monkey doesn't act logic ??

see you see things wrongly, we are animals with mouth. Not mouth that looks like animals.
 

and for me I live it pretty well now. I try to live a decent life, happy and not bothering to survive, but anyway,

our body mostly move and think by itself without anyone.

 

this is just one perspective, probably biased, we are more than just "biologic".

but it's important that people have some knowledge in those areas, dalaï lama is passionated by neuroscience.

Edited November 13, 2019 by Aeris

[Aeris]

1 minute ago, modmyth said:

@Aeris Is this directed to me personally? If so, I don't get it. I don't see my actual perspective in what you're saying at all. I was being a bit facetious with my last comment that you quoted with the ALL CAPS, although there's the spirit of truth in it. I am a practical optimist at heart, no matter what life throws at me. I do desire and expect better from humanity, and that we will become better is an inevitability.

People can get really carried away with this... naturalistic kind of worldview, to excuse all sorts of human behaviours. Consciousness is the antidote. It amusing to me though, what people think "higher consciousness" looks like. It doesn't mean that you're necessarily going to be free of desires or get a complete personality lobotomy... although I mean, if that's what you want??? (to each their own I guess...). It is your relationship to your wiring transforms completely, and it many many cases, the wiring inevitably transforms itself in the process.

No, I don't get angry when humans don't act logically. (I don't feel this way about logic.) Not usually.

 

 

no really I never point to people.

I just jump on words that trigger my writting, sorry about that

[Aeris]

3 minutes ago, modmyth said:

@Aeris Oh, carry on then. I actually kind of agree with you

especially because I don't know you.

people have a whole universe inside their brains. ( or soul/mind )

but anyway, it's the ennemy of better to think we know a thing. I m more of a socratic school. Nothing can truly be known.

we never know for sure, all thinking is mostly speculation, rumination, until the plan work and is observable in real direct experience.

And even the direct experience could be hallucinated. 
 

Edited November 13, 2019 by Aeris

[Nickyy]

On 10/11/2019 at 10:57 PM, modmyth said:

What you are saying is true, and I don't think this perspective will do anything for healing/ resolving the world

It's not a perspective. It's the truth. Reality. 

My advise is to get to start working on yourself and you will soon be experiencing what I'm saying. Until you do that you're not really going to know first what what we're talking about on the forum. 

[Forestluv]

47 minutes ago, Nickyy said:

It's not a perspective. It's the truth. Reality. 

Be careful handling universal objective reality.  ? 

[Aeris]

26 minutes ago, Serotoninluv said:

Be careful handling universal objective reality.  ? 

unless it point to this fact that there is no universal objective reality,

but you're right to make that clear.

 

what about the sentence :

"I m not able to tell the truth"

 

! O !

 

@modmyth Don't you watch the hour ?  tell me more though, seams cool, what do you refer as past life ? you mean, your old self, or living inside the dream of others people ? how do you know it wasn't your own intuition ?

[Aeris]

@Nickyy don't be mean with people  

I m still ignorant myself, I can only recognize ignorantewereness

 

Edited November 14, 2019 by Aeris

[Nickyy]

14 hours ago, Serotoninluv said:

Be careful handling universal objective reality.  ? 

Hiss... I see what you mean. Yeah, I found myself getting caught in the belief that there is an absolute truth. I see now that reality is neither objective nor subjective. These two things are dualities 

[Nickyy]

@Aeris in fact, even the notion of "reality" is a clinging to something 

[Nickyy]

14 hours ago, Serotoninluv said:

Be careful handling universal objective reality.  ? 

I think I just had my first peek into green ?

[Beginner Mind]

@Anna1 I'm putting my dating profile together and I'd appreciate your input on something.  A few years ago I had a psychosis episode and I was thinking of including that briefly in my profile.  Would that be too much information, too soon?  I don't wanna weird the ladies out, but I also want to be honest and also weed out anyone who might be turned off by my medical history.

[Ananta]

7 minutes ago, Beginner Mind said:

@Anna1 I'm putting my dating profile together and I'd appreciate your input on something.  A few years ago I had a psychosis episode and I was thinking of including that briefly in my profile.  Would that be too much information, too soon?  I don't wanna weird the ladies out, but I also want to be honest and also weed out anyone who might be turned off by my medical history.

Hi @Beginner Mind, I'd advise you to not put it in your profile, once you are chatting with someone and if they already like you, then bring it up, if you still want too.

Give yourself a chance first though, putting it in the profile would be like shooting yourself in the foot. Ppl are more apt to be understanding once they already like you/are interested in you.

It won't be dishonest not to say that upfront, that's personal information and one isn't privy to that sorta info, until they earn the right to be...or that's my opinion.?

[Beginner Mind]

@Anna1 Yeah, I think you're right.  I'll leave it out.  Thanks for your input!

[Ananta]

@Beginner Mind You're welcome

[Aeris]

On 16/11/2019 at 0:39 AM, modmyth said:

Past life as in, before I was born in this body; I was in another body.

I'm not really sure how you're using the word intuition here. Do you think intuition is inherently separate from knowledge?

yes.

knowledge is what makes intuition connects dots.
intuition is a mental state where all your knowledge come as a phenomena of feelings. ( mostly in my experience )

you can have high intuition as a kid, and be clueless about data/knowledge, so your intuition doesn't create powerful solutions, but they are still in this process of exploring/discovering and not taking things as one metaphysical consensus.

high knowledge without intuition is useless.

intuition is more linked to a mental state / flowing