Can imagining someone’s death many times make their actual death easier to cope with?

[Kaity]

One night I was thinking about what would I do if let’s say my mom died. How would I cope with it? Naturally, I experienced immense fear, sadness, and resistance towards even imagining such a scenario. The ego-defense mechanism instantly activated the need to find some solutions and sparked up some thoughts. Personally, I've been so out of touch with the feeling of loss that I think it would be impossible to cope with it once I actually face the loved one's death for the first time in my adult life. From the biological perspective, the more you practice something the easier it gets, right? So could the coping muscles also be strengthened if one imagines their loved one's death many times and sort of pre-mourns the potential loss? Is this a petty inclination to have? 

On the other hand, I think this "practice" would actually be healing in a way that after you've almost made yourself believe your loved one's death, the next day you get a chance to interact with them again and treat them as "you should've."  

[Nahm]

8 minutes ago, Kaity said:

Naturally, I experienced immense fear, sadness, and resistance towards even imagining such a scenario.

Resistance isn’t natural, in accordance with your feelings, which are never wrong and entirely trust worthy. 

Go straight to the beliefs about death. Have a look with the open minded perspective that you are creating the fear, sadness and resistance - by believing thoughts which your intuition tells you are not true. Choose how you feel, over what you believe.