How to deal with neurotic clinginess?

[Justincredible76]

I have, for what i believe is the first time, fallen in love with a person. Different from the love that i share for my friends though, i would say. But this newly found feeling has allowed me to uncover some of my biggest insecurities and fears, so for that i am glad i can access these a-lot easier now. Its like an obsessive attachment. When im not talking to this person, all i can do is think about them, but this is very new so maybe that may fade with time. But also what has been happening is when they dont reply to my messages, even though they haven't given me any concrete reason to believe so, i continue to fear that they are disinterested in me, even though they state the opposite. Also, i have reason to believe they would be present around when i was messaging them so, with that in mind, one thing that might add on to why this is is because i always try to guarantee to message someone back, no matter my level of attraction for them. But when im attracted to a person in some way, i cant help but neurotically keep thinking about them over and over, and i jump at the chance instantly when they message me to message them. So basically, i think my mind tells me that since I will jump at the chance to message due to my attraction, if they dont jump at the chance to message me then that means they arent attracted to me. Then i grow fear, much fear from that. I sit with it, i observe it, i let it be how it is. I want nothing more than for this person to love me how i do them, but even though they said they dont mind clinginess at all, i cant help but fear that my obsession may drive them away. I dont want to have that happen, what should i do?

[Spiral]

Have a look at attachment theory. If I remember correctly you’re the anxious type.

Edited September 21, 2019 by Spiral

[oMarcos]

The root of the problem is the fear of being alone

[TalkIsCheap1]

I feel the same. I always imagine mother earth, in a symbiotic relationship  

Its in a certain sense, childish, primitive.. And when I first hang on, it very hard to give up. But think rational, sometimes objective, and stand up for yourself.