Oh shit. My sister is a hikkikomori.

[CreamCat]

Today, I realized my sister is a hikkikomori. She sleeps a lot, and she doesn't want to do anything other than sleeping and eating and watching videos and going to church once a week.

She is very lazy about brushing her teeth. She doesn't wash her face as often as she needs to.

She hates meeting people. She complains a lot about wage slavery.

What is my sister but a hikkikomori? That's not a good place to be in.

I'm not sure what it will take for her to get out of her rut.

Edited September 19, 2019 by CreamCat

[Aakash]

thats tough, i would not advise you to let that continue. 

THATS if she is not doing spirituality, if she is - then its all gucci.

Edited September 19, 2019 by Aakash

[CreamCat]

2 minutes ago, Aakash said:

THATS if she is not doing spirituality

She goes to church. I don't.

[Aakash]

@CreamCat Yeah that's not spirituality, that's religion. 

that's like me saying, yo babe give me a apple to my girlfriend and her returning with her clothes off   ... i asked for a apple 

[Aeris]

Show her Leo gura first vidéo

[allislove]

Forget about your sister. Start from yourself, man. When you fix yourself you fix everyone. Or better there is no one to fix. 

[CreamCat]

1 hour ago, Aeris said:

Show her Leo gura first vidéo

She learned english in schools, but she doesn't understand english well. Showing her Leo Gura's videos is like speaking in english to a donkey.

The donkey would spit in my face for annoying it.

Or, she would just think Leo Gura looks like a cool neo-nazi.

Edited September 19, 2019 by CreamCat

[d0ornokey]

@dimitri can you explain this more? I keep hearing that insight 

[LeoIsMe69]

OP, you believing there is 'something wrong' with your sister makes it such that there is

[allislove]

2 hours ago, d0ornokey said:

@dimitri can you explain this more? I keep hearing that insight 

English is not my native language, so I think I will fail to explain.

But I will try. I had troubles in relationship. I tried to fix it by fixing everything outside. Nothing good happened. Then, I took responsibility for myself and started to meditate, went to Vipassana retreat, tried psychedelics and everything started to go in a positive direction in all areas of my life.

Well, I have a long way to grow to the state when I am able to surrender to the Flow and realize that everything is God. So, there are no problems whatsoever. There is no one to fix.

But from my direct experience, when you change yourself (shrink your ego) everything around changes in a positive way. That's what I suggested to OP.

Of course I don't know the situation precisely and of course this is a good thing to help people (if they ask for the help or you *must* help otherwise a person dies for example).  In general I would suggest to not try to be a smart ass  and start from yourself.

[d0ornokey]

@dimitri cool thanks for your story

 

i also find that when i am in a good, kind, loving state, everyone else is in this good state too and i get that reflected back to me

[Odysseus]

21 hours ago, CreamCat said:

I'm not sure what it will take for her to get out of her rut.

The dissatisfaction with the existential meaninglessness of her life(style), expierienced through suffering will activate her. 

Your judging, shoulds and formulars of 'how to be better' (whatever that means) won't change anything.

Let her be, be a rolemodel and help her if she asks you for help.

Edited September 20, 2019 by Odysseus

[whatishappeningtome]

Make her watch Welcome To The NHK

[CreamCat]

2 hours ago, Odysseus said:

The dissatisfaction with the existential meaninglessness of her life(style), expierienced through suffering will activate her. 

It could take more than one lifetime to activate a soul. By the time she wakes up, it might be too late.

[ajasatya]

@CreamCat Who are you?

[Pramit]

I am a hikikomori too. Perhaps you should introduce her to me. She might find it easier to socialize with a fellow hikikomori! 

[CreamCat]

2 hours ago, ajasatya said:

@CreamCat Who are you?

Joke aside, my sister and I share the same soul. But, what works for me may not work for others.

Edited September 20, 2019 by CreamCat

[CreamCat]

Some actualized.org forum users use spirituality as an excuse for inactivity.

[Rigel]

Nice label I like the sound of it. Very rhythmical

[universe]

2 minutes ago, Rigel said:

Nice label I like the sound of it. Very rhythmical

I also like the title, made we want to click immediately.

@CreamCat You seem very concerned. How long is this been going? Did you talk to her if she has any ambitions or goals in life?