Insecurity

[jes]

Hello !! I am having insecurities , I believe because my subconscious Mind has trained that way ,I want to change myself , I feel I need approval of other people in whatever I am doing, for example, when I am studying , I send send my notes to my friends to check and give me appreciation. Even in small steps of my life i have realized it. How to overcome insecurities

[charlie2dogs]

33 minutes ago, jes said:

Hello !! I am having insecurities , I believe because my subconscious Mind has trained that way ,I want to change myself , I feel I need approval of other people in whatever I am doing, for example, when I am studying , I send send my notes to my friends to check and give me appreciation. Even in small steps of my life i have realized it. How to overcome insecurities

i see you are a new member, welcome to the site.  To overcome insecurities,  some try to do that by creating huge egos and some by believing things that are not true about themselves, in other words they create a false belief system that justifies what they are doing.  But those will eventually create a world of pain and suffering for them and others.  The only lasting solution is to love yourself, live with integrity, being secure within yourself.  The only way to do that is get to know that real part of yourself, your core being, it is an all knowing, fully secure, all powerful source of power within you.  This source of life created the universe and the world around you, it created the identity that you think you are.  Seek this deeper part of your being, everything you need can be had from there, it is all right inside of you.  Right now you are primarily functioning as the identity, the actor playing this little role in life, but what is behind that is what will give you the security and strength you need overcome all obstacles in life and then you can live and speak from a place of authority rather than as a victim called the identity.

[jes]

 

7 minutes ago, charlie2dogs said:

i see you are a new member, welcome to the site.  To overcome insecurities,  some try to do that by creating huge egos and some by believing things that are not true about themselves, in other words they create a false belief system that justifies what they are doing.  But those will eventually create a world of pain and suffering for them and others.  The only lasting solution is to love yourself, live with integrity, being secure within yourself.  The only way to do that is get to know that real part of yourself, your core being, it is an all knowing, fully secure, all powerful source of power within you.  This source of life created the universe and the world around you, it created the identity that you think you are.  Seek this deeper part of your being, everything you need can be had from there, it is all right inside of you.  Right now you are primarily functioning as the identity, the actor playing this little role in life, but what is behind that is what will give you the security and strength you need overcome all obstacles in life and then you can live and speak from a place of authority rather than as a victim called the identity.

thanks

[Vigi]

This is a great opportunity for you to practice openminded awareness. It is simply a force in your subconsciousness. When you notice the force acting, like for instance getting the urge to send your classmates your notes, just observe it. Do no take it personal and do not argue with it. Do not feel bad for it happening. Notice what caused it, notice how it makes you feel and notice what it makes you "want" to do. By just giving it space, the force lose its power. However, it will probably not be enough for it to cease completely. Therefore, the next action step would be to notice how this force holds you back, which if you do not already know will be found out when you practice awareness. Then, you simply take action anyway, even if the force holds you back.

Today, you probably have a self fulfilling prophecy that makes the force stronger. For instance, you might receive corrections from you classmates on your notes, which you see that as proof that you are not good enough. Therefore, you view it as good that you're insecure. But what really happened might was that you intentionally left some errors subconsciously or deep down you might know that you could have worked harder on it before you sent it to your classmates, which would have led to that you would have found the errors yourself.

So, both make sure that you do not increase the strength of the force as described in the second paragraph, and eliminate it by doing what's described in the first paragraph. Do not take the force personal. Just view it as a part of nature, like a virus or something. Simply notice what makes the virus stronger and weaker.

Hope that helps!

[jes]

On 18/05/2016 at 11:25 AM, Vigi said:

This is a great opportunity for you to practice openminded awareness. It is simply a force in your subconsciousness. When you notice the force acting, like for instance getting the urge to send your classmates your notes, just observe it. Do no take it personal and do not argue with it. Do not feel bad for it happening. Notice what caused it, notice how it makes you feel and notice what it makes you "want" to do. By just giving it space, the force lose its power. However, it will probably not be enough for it to cease completely. Therefore, the next action step would be to notice how this force holds you back, which if you do not already know will be found out when you practice awareness. Then, you simply take action anyway, even if the force holds you back.

Today, you probably have a self fulfilling prophecy that makes the force stronger. For instance, you might receive corrections from you classmates on your notes, which you see that as proof that you are not good enough. Therefore, you view it as good that you're insecure. But what really happened might was that you intentionally left some errors subconsciously or deep down you might know that you could have worked harder on it before you sent it to your classmates, which would have led to that you would have found the errors yourself.

So, both make sure that you do not increase the strength of the force as described in the second paragraph, and eliminate it by doing what's described in the first paragraph. Do not take the force personal. Just view it as a part of nature, like a virus or something. Simply notice what makes the virus stronger and weaker.

Hope that helps!

oh my goodness thanks , that makes sense , I can work harder and harder , and you are right , i might be doing mistakes subconsciously to get that pseudosatisfaction , that i am not good enough , or psedusatisfaction that i am good enough may be I need a false value from others BUT how to train my subconscious mind , to prevent doing this,and  stopped urging to ask from others ( their opinions)

THis second paragraph is so true

(Today, you probably have a self fulfilling prophecy that makes the force stronger. For instance, you might receive corrections from you classmates on your notes, which you see that as proof that you are not good enough. Therefore, you view it as good that you're insecure. But what really happened might was that you intentionally left some errors subconsciously or deep down you might know that you could have worked harder on it before you sent it to your classmates, which would have led to that you would have found the errors yourself.)

[Natasha]

@jes Leo has a video library  on how to overcome insecurities:

http://www.actualized.org/articles/the-power-of-self-acceptance

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-stop-judging-yourself

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-love-yourself

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-be-more-confident

http://www.actualized.org/articles/self-esteem

http://www.actualized.org/articles/low-self-esteem-in-women

http://www.actualized.org/articles/understanding-the-authentic-self

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-stop-caring-what-people-think-of-you

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-deal-with-criticism-trolls-and-haters

[jes]

1 hour ago, Natasha said:

@jes Leo has a video library  on how to overcome insecurities:

http://www.actualized.org/articles/the-power-of-self-acceptance

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-stop-judging-yourself

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-love-yourself

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-be-more-confident

http://www.actualized.org/articles/self-esteem

http://www.actualized.org/articles/low-self-esteem-in-women

http://www.actualized.org/articles/understanding-the-authentic-self

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-stop-caring-what-people-think-of-you

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others

http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-deal-with-criticism-trolls-and-haters

Thanks Natasha , You are truly a blessing, 

best wishes

[Natasha]

3 hours ago, jes said:

Thanks Natasha , You are truly a blessing, 

best wishes

Thank you, any time 

[Vigi]

21 hours ago, jes said:

oh my goodness thanks , that makes sense , I can work harder and harder , and you are right , i might be doing mistakes subconsciously to get that pseudosatisfaction , that i am not good enough , or psedusatisfaction that i am good enough may be I need a false value from others BUT how to train my subconscious mind , to prevent doing this,and  stopped urging to ask from others ( their opinions)

THis second paragraph is so true

(Today, you probably have a self fulfilling prophecy that makes the force stronger. For instance, you might receive corrections from you classmates on your notes, which you see that as proof that you are not good enough. Therefore, you view it as good that you're insecure. But what really happened might was that you intentionally left some errors subconsciously or deep down you might know that you could have worked harder on it before you sent it to your classmates, which would have led to that you would have found the errors yourself.)

I'm glad it makes sense to you. I can relate to your situation. Hopefully, you'll share an update after you have worked on this. It would be really interesting to hear.

[jes]

1 minute ago, Vigi said:

I'm glad it makes sense to you. I can relate to your situation. Hopefully, you'll share an update after you have worked on this. It would be really interesting to hear.

I will Vigi