Keep projecting myself in the future

[ChrisZoZo]

I keep projecting myself in the future then prepare for this scenario which would 99/100 time be me talking to other people. What can i do to try to reduce this projecting. With the goal in mind of trying to be present all the time.

[SoonHei]

@ChrisZoZo come into the present moment awareness by focuing on ur breath... consious breathing

[DualityHurts]

"What can i do to try to reduce this projecting"

Don't do anything. Every time these thoughts come up that you have about talking to others, surrender those thoughts. Let them go. Suffering will likely be a byproduct of letting go but thats how you know its working!

Do this over and until it becomes a habit. Gradually these type of thoughts will not come as often. There is no quick fix. You will need to make letting go a habit and apply it to all of your repetitive thoughts for them to not appear.

 

[ChrisZoZo]

14 hours ago, DualityHurts said:

surrender those thoughts.

@DualityHurts What do you mean by this.

[Mihael Keehl]

I have exactly the same condition. What helped me is to make thoughts into my meditation object. Focus on thoughts and label them to keep track. You can use the labels : "see in" - for mental images and "hear in" - for mental sound. I personaly like to label them more  specific as for example "self talk", "planing", "phantasizing"etc. When you become good at it you can progress further by making more subtle destinctions. This techique makes me more aware of my phantasies and future-projections and the habit of labeling thoughts makes it much easier to meditate throughout daily life because I have thoughts all the time.

Antoher exercise which helps a lot is Kriya Yoga. There is an exercise where you meditate and focus your eyes on the point between your eyebrows. Your eyes are closed and you try to look at your third eye (read the book for a better explanation). I recently discovered that when I am lost in phantasies - my eyes are usually in motion. But when I do my best to focus my eyes on the point between the eyebrows, my eyes are still in one position and that makes it much more difficult to get lost in phantasies or future-projections.

Good luck