This woman gets it.

[Charlotte]

 

[loub]

She has an amazing energy. Great share, thank you :).

I'm currently going through Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton and it has presented me with a scary and exciting new vision for honesty, authenticity, interpersonal relationships, connection and psychological health. If you haven't already you might want to check that one out 

I recently shared the story on this forum of how I overcame the neurosis most prevalent throughout my adolescence and it was quite a relief as I was now telling the truth about believing to be the person who got over it.
Telling the truth let's us see, dismantle and outgrow beliefs we hold, and leads the way into a new way of wholesome, sensitive and present being

Where in your life do you not tell the truth, why do you feel this talk is relevant to you? I'd really like to hear your beliefs stated aloud 

Edited September 5, 2019 by loub

[bejapuskas]

Well, I watched the whole 3 part series and also the new self-bias video so I think I don't have to watch this, but thanks for sharing  

[DrewNows]

  Good talk, responsibility can be so humbling ?

[remember]

check your selfbias on femininity it`s super toxic.

if i was a moderator i would close the thread for low quality.

Edited September 5, 2019 by remember

[Zigzag Idiot]

@DrewNows  I agree. 

Just watched it for a second time.

"At the core, we lie to ourselves because we don't have enough psychological strength to admit the truth and deal with the consequences that will follow." 

"Understanding our self deception is the most effective way to live a fulfilling life"

[Aeris]

On 05/09/2019 at 1:27 PM, loub said:

She has an amazing energy. Great share, thank you :).

I'm currently going through Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton and it has presented me with a scary and exciting new vision for honesty, authenticity, interpersonal relationships, connection and psychological health. If you haven't already you might want to check that one out 

I recently shared the story on this forum of how I overcame the neurosis most prevalent throughout my adolescence and it was quite a relief as I was now telling the truth about believing to be the person who got over it.
Telling the truth let's us see, dismantle and outgrow beliefs we hold, and leads the way into a new way of wholesome, sensitive and present being

Where in your life do you not tell the truth, why do you feel this talk is relevant to you? I'd really like to hear your beliefs stated aloud 

I still think that self value are important. And that doing nothing and wanting to be nothing is a new form of neurosis.

You should create your meaning and wanting to be godly.

Wanting nothing that's neurosis and delusion. After total death -> your own castle not 'no castle'

But words are meaningless. Most people will follow a delusion that they like.

As we all do.

Who is the chooser of belief but god himself

I m Reading radical honesty.

I would tell the truth and be Always honest.

But which one ?

Telling the truth mean nothing.

All talks is by physiology corrupted in lie or bias.

All things is lie & truth

 

Edited September 6, 2019 by Aeris

[loub]

@Aeris  I don't really see how that relates to what I wrote here, I'm sorry but I don't understand what you are trying to say.

[Charlotte]

@loub brilliant book! Worth the read. Haven't finished it all but almost! 

On 05/09/2019 at 0:27 PM, loub said:

Telling the truth let's us see, dismantle and outgrow beliefs we hold, and leads the way into a new way of wholesome, sensitive and present being

100%!! Also uncovers all sorts of hidden manipulative behaviours we demonstrate. 

Well done on overcoming also! That's great to hear. 

On 05/09/2019 at 0:27 PM, loub said:

Where in your life do you not tell the truth, why do you feel this talk is relevant to you? I'd really like to hear your beliefs stated aloud 

I mostly hide the truth from other people in the subtlest of ways. 

I felt this talk was relevant to me because I like alternative perspectives to topics. Also self deception is a never ending loop hole that requires a constant watchful eye, it never ends @bejapuskas

 

 @DrewNows ?

 

[Charlotte]

@remember ?

[bejapuskas]

@Charlotte  I know I was kidding

[Charlotte]

@bejapuskas sorry I didn't pick up on it ? my bad. 

 

 

[bejapuskas]

@Charlotte  Yeh I was also a bit unsure, but I really tried to make it too stupid to be true  This tells us something about our expectations of this forum's members though.

[Zigzag Idiot]

On 9/7/2019 at 3:11 AM, remember said:

doesn`t fly

ignorance and naivety are your biggest tools to manipulate, i told you your femininity is toxic it is sexism through the backyard. you can`t even stand to an answer, all you can do is throwing an image of you.

? @remember How is this not an example of feeding on negative emotions?

[remember]

13 hours ago, Zigzag Idiot said:

? @remember How is this not an example of feeding on negative emotions?

because this toppic is a reuptake from a situation we had when i had another identity she posted it the moment she realized who i was while laying out a trail so i would follow to what she was doing. before she wasn`t even posting in the forum anymore only in her diary. i think it`s less toxic to address my real emotions and the person who is playing out toxic behavior towards me, than trying to have a white west by saying i know i`m toxic but i can`t change it that´s why i go on with my white west behavior.

but she`s so much in denial that she can`t even talk about why i think she`s toxic. she knows that`s why she can throw a heart. so of course i mirror her toxicity, i have emotions, too. doesn`t change that she is in denial about it. toxic masculinity is addressed here in the forum all the time, so why not address toxic femininity when it`s playing out. how is it different addressing it from my position than from her position? because i didn`t post a heart or what? she says it herself she get`s how she is doing it, then why doesn`t she change. could accept all that if she wasn`t a moderator. if no one says it out loud someone has to.

she`s painting herself perfect, instead of helping people to resolve problems, she creates them. you can`t solve that by not addressing the problem.

Edited September 10, 2019 by remember

[Zigzag Idiot]

@remember  You serve many here by providing an example of what projection is. 

Thank You.

[Zigzag Idiot]

Once you Witness your own projection, It no longer feeds the painbody as it did prior to that.

[remember]

i got two warning points for calling her toxic, someone else had to do it whyever.

Edited September 10, 2019 by remember

[remember]

addressing it again, how can someone be a moderator if the person is not able to solve conflicts by herself? then should everyone do her work, she maybe even created? i don`t get it.

Edited September 10, 2019 by remember
tried to be gender neutral but doesn`t serve the concrete situation

[Zigzag Idiot]

Perhaps she is an embodiment of the message she brings forward. To go forward, despite fear and doubt.

That is the Warriors way.


      For a sorcerer, reality, or the world we all know, is only a description that has been pounded into you from the moment you were born. The reality of our day-to-day life, then, consists of an endless flow of perceptual interpretations which we have learned to make in common. I am teaching you how to see as opposed to merely looking, and stopping the world is the first step to seeing.
      The sorcerer's description of the world is perceivable. But our insistence on holding on to our standard version of reality renders us almost deaf and blind to it. When you begin this teaching, there is another reality, that is to say, there is a sorcery description of the world, which you do not know. As a sorcerer and a teacher, I am teaching you that description. What I am doing with you consists, therefore, in setting up that unknown reality by unfolding its description, adding increasingly more complex parts as you go along.
      In order to arrive at seeing one first has to stop the world. Stopping the world is indeed an appropriate rendition of certain states of awareness in which the reality of everyday life is altered because the flow of interpretation, which ordinarily runs uninterruptedly, has been stopped by a set of circumstances alien to that flow. In this case the set of circumstances alien to our normal flow of interpretations is the sorcery description of the world. The precondition for stopping the world is that one has to be convinced; in other words, one has to learn the new description in a total sense, for the purpose of pitting it against the old one, and in that way break the dogmatic certainty, which we all share, that the validity of our perceptions, or our reality of the world, is not to be questioned.
      After stopping the world the next step is seeing. By that I mean what could be categorized as responding to the perceptual solicitations of a world outside the description we have learned to call reality.
      
      A man goes to knowledge as he goes to war, wide awake, with fear, with respect, and with absolute assurance. Going to knowledge or going to war in any other manner is a mistake, and whoever makes it will live to regret his steps.
      When a man has fulfilled those four requisites there are no mistakes for which he will have to account; under such conditions his acts lose the blundering quality of a fool's acts. If such a man fails, or suffers a defeat, he will have lost only a battle, and there will be no pitiful regrets over that.
     

* * *

A man of knowledge is one who has followed truthfully the hardships of learning, a man who has, without rushing or without faltering, gone as far as he can in unravelling the secrets of power and knowledge. To become a man of knowledge one must challenge and defeat his four natural enemies.
      When a man starts to learn, he is never clear about his objectives. His purpose is faulty; his intent is vague. He hopes for rewards that will never materialize for he knows nothing of the hardships of learning.
      He slowly begins to learn--bit by bit at first, then in big chunks. And his thoughts soon clash. What he learns is never what he pictured, or imagined, and so he begins to be afraid. Learning is never what one expects. Every step of learning is a new task, and the fear the man is experiencing begins to mount mercilessly, unyieldingly. His purpose becomes a battlefield.
      And thus he has stumbled upon the first of his natural enemies: fear! A terrible enemy--treacherous, and difficult to overcome. It remains concealed at every turn of the way, prowling, waiting. And if the man, terrified in its presence, runs away, his enemy will have put an end to his quest and he will never learn. He will never become a man of knowledge. He will perhaps be a bully, or a harmless, scared man; at any rate, he will be a defeated man. His first enemy will have put an end to his cravings. 
      It is not possible for a man to abandon himself to fear for years, then finally conquer it. If he gives in to fear he will never conquer it, because he will shy away from learning and never try again. But if he tries to learn for years in the midst of his fear, he will eventually conquer it because he will never have really abandoned himself to it.
      Therefore he must not run away. He must defy his fear, and in spite of it he must take the next step in learning, and the next, and the next. He must be fully afraid, and yet he must not stop. That is the rule! And a moment will come when his first enemy retreats. The man begins to feel sure of himself. His intent becomes stronger. Learning is no longer a terrifying task.
      When this joyful moment comes, the man can say without hesitation that he has defeated his first natural enemy. It happens little by little, and yet the fear is vanquished suddenly and fast. Once a man has vanquished fear, he is free from it for the rest of his life because, instead of fear, he has acquired clarity--a clarity of mind which erases fear. By then a man knows his desires; he knows how to satisfy those desires. He can anticipate the new steps of learning and a sharp clarity surrounds everything. The man feels that nothing is concealed.
      And thus he has encountered his second enemy: Clarity! That clarity of mind, which is so hard to obtain, dispels fear, but also blinds. It forces the man never to doubt himself. It gives him the assurance he can do anything he pleases, for he sees clearly into everything. And he is courageous because he is clear, and he stops at nothing because he is clear. But all that is a mistake; it is like something incomplete. If the man yields to this make-believe power, he has succumbed to his second enemy and will be patient when he should rush. And he will fumble with learning until he winds up incapable of learning anything more. His second enemy has just stopped him cold from trying to become a man of knowledge. Instead, the man may turn into a buoyant warrior, or a clown. Yet the clarity for which he has paid so dearly will never change to darkness and fear again. He will be clear as long as he lives, but he will no longer learn, or yearn for, anything.


      He must do what he did with fear: he must defy his clarity and use it only to see, and wait patiently and measure carefully before taking new steps; he must think, above all, that his clarity is almost a mistake. And a moment will come when he will understand that his clarity was only a point before his eyes. And thus he will have overcome his second enemy, and will arrive at a position where nothing can harm him anymore. This will not be a mistake. It will not be only a point before his eyes. It will be true power.
      He will know at this point that the power he has been pursuing for so long is finally his. He can do with it whatever he pleases. His ally is at his command. His wish is the rule. He sees all that is around him. But he has also come across his third enemy: Power!
      Power is the strongest of all enemies. And naturally the easiest thing to do is to give in; after all, the man is truly invincible. He commands; he begins by taking calculated risks, and ends in making rules, because he is a master.
      A man at this stage hardly notices his third enemy closing in on him. And suddenly, without knowing, he will certainly have lost the battle. His enemy will have turned him into a cruel, capricious man, but he will never lose his clarity or his power.
      A man who is defeated by power dies without really knowing how to handle it. Power is only a burden upon his fate. Such a man has no command over himself, and cannot tell when or how to use his power.
      Once one of these enemies overpowers a man there is nothing he can do. It is not possible, for instance, that a man who is defeated by power may see his error and mend his ways. Once a man gives in he is through. If, however, he is temporarily blinded by power, and then refuses it, his battle is still on. That means he is still trying to become a man of knowledge. A man is defeated only when he no longer tries, and abandons himself.
      He has to come to realize that the power he has seemingly conquered is in reality never his. He must keep himself in line at all times, handling carefully and faithfully all that he has learned. If he can see that clarity and power, without his control over himself, are worse than mistakes, he will reach a point where everything is held in check. He will know then when and how to use his power. And thus he will have defeated his third enemy.
      The man will be, by then, at the end of his journey of learning, and almost without warning he will come upon the last of his enemies: Old age! This enemy is the cruelest of all, the one he won't be able to defeat completely, but only fight away.
      This is the time when a man has no more fears, no more impatient clarity of mind--a time when all his power is in check, but also the time when he has an unyielding desire to rest. If he gives in totally to his desire to lie down and forget, if he soothes himself in tiredness, he will have lost his last round, and his enemy will cut him down into a feeble old creature. His desire to retreat will overrule all his clarity, his power, and his knowledge.
      But if the man sloughs off his tiredness, and lives his fate though, he can then be called a man of knowledge, if only for the brief moment when he succeeds in fighting off his last, invincible enemy. That moment of clarity, power, and knowledge is enough. 

      Anything is one of a million paths. Therefore you must always keep in mind that a path is only a path; if you feel you should not follow it, you must not stay with it under any conditions. To have such clarity you must lead a disciplined life. Only then will you know that any path is only a path and there is no affront, to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do. But your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. I warn you. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary.
      This question is one that only a very old man asks. Does this path have a heart? All paths are the same: they lead nowhere. They are paths going through the bush, or into the bush. In my own life I could say I have traversed long long paths, but I am not anywhere. Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn't, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere; but one has a heart, the other doesn't. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.
      
      Before you embark on any path ask the question: Does this path have a heart? If the answer is no, you will know it, and then you must choose another path. The trouble is nobody asks the question; and when a man finally realizes that he has taken a path without a heart, the path is ready to kill him. At that point very few men can stop to deliberate, and leave the path. A path without a heart is never enjoyable. You have to work hard even to take it. On the other hand, a path with heart is easy; it does not make you work at liking it. 
      I have told you that to choose a path you must be free from fear and ambition. The desire to learn is not ambition. It is our lot as men to want to know.
      The path without a heart will turn against men and destroy them. It does not take much to die, and to seek death is to seek nothing.

For me there is only the traveling on the paths that have a heart, on any path that may have a heart. There I travel, and the only worthwhile challenge for me is to traverse its full length. And there I travel--looking, looking, breathlessly.

From: http://www.prismagems.com/castaneda/donjuan1.html

 

That is why this woman gets it. It's not just about the men.