When You Align Yourself With The Truth Do People Manipulate You

[Huz]

I came clean about how I was completly manipulating a girl who really like me a year back. Was devastating. How do you draw boundaries without lying?? Because she asks questions that I don't want to answer. I was getting the feeling she was using this truthfulness as my vulnerability. I said no to some questions which weren't as involved with her in it

Edited May 7, 2016 by Huz88

[charlie2dogs]

18 minutes ago, Huz88 said:

I came clean about how I was completly manipulating a girl who really like me a year back. Was devastating. How do you draw boundaries without lying?? Because she asks questions that I don't want to answer. I was getting the feeling she was using this truthfulness as my vulnerability. I said no to some questions which weren't as involved with her in it

to try and get around telling the truth it will still be a lie. a lie of omission is when you don't tell the whole truth,  if you conjure up a way in your mind to say something so that you wont be lying, it is still a lie.  The moment you lie in your mind you have judged yourself, when you tell the lie you have condemned yourself.  Your own actions will judge and condemn or liberate you, but a self realized being is truth, is love, is peace and has integrity.

When the identity plays it creates consequences that have to be faced at some point. The only way to avoid consequences is to live in the moment and function from consciousness and not the identity body.  When observing events from consciousness it gives you the opportunity to see the reality of the event, it also gives you an opportunity to make right decisions if one needs to be made.  You will also be able to see the consequences of your actions before you commit them. The only way you will ever be forgiven for anything, you will have to give it yourself by changing, change brings resolution and forgiveness, you stop doing it. 

If you are trying to do these things from the identity body, you will fail some place, ego and desires of the flesh will trip you up unless you are rooted and grounded in the self and see these things from the self.  The identity body will never touch truth or reality, and those who function as the identity only fool themselves when they claim they know  the reality or truth.  Truth and reality are not  found in the identity body.

[Huz]

8 hours ago, charlie2dogs said:

to try and get around telling the truth it will still be a lie. a lie of omission is when you don't tell the whole truth,  if you conjure up a way in your mind to say something so that you wont be lying, it is still a lie.  The moment you lie in your mind you have judged yourself, when you tell the lie you have condemned yourself.  Your own actions will judge and condemn or liberate you, but a self realized being is truth, is love, is peace and has integrity.

When the identity plays it creates consequences that have to be faced at some point. The only way to avoid consequences is to live in the moment and function from consciousness and not the identity body.  When observing events from consciousness it gives you the opportunity to see the reality of the event, it also gives you an opportunity to make right decisions if one needs to be made.  You will also be able to see the consequences of your actions before you commit them. The only way you will ever be forgiven for anything, you will have to give it yourself by changing, change brings resolution and forgiveness, you stop doing it. 

If you are trying to do these things from the identity body, you will fail some place, ego and desires of the flesh will trip you up unless you are rooted and grounded in the self and see these things from the self.  The identity body will never touch truth or reality, and those who function as the identity only fool themselves when they claim they know  the reality or truth.  Truth and reality are not  found in the identity body.

Thanks dude. I didn't go out of that way, it came up in conversation that I lied a lot in my past. I said I lied to her a lot in the past. She asked how I lied to her, then in that moment I told the truth of that happened 

i feel like telling the truth of your past lies, which you ego can't let go of is a way of release. It my not be coming from a place of being. But if your ego is suffering because of the lies you have told. Then come clean to strengthen it.

If you ego is in constant fear of other people finding out the fabrications that you have created in your life, there isn't a better way to get over the suffering then coming clean with the lie.

Edited May 7, 2016 by Huz88