Anger How To Let Go

[ZenTwizzle]

I'm dealing with that letting go of anger thing too. I have especially noticed it bubbling up unexpectedly and inappropriately lately, which I just attribute to part of this whole process which entails, for me, peeling back layer after layer and uncovering things, beliefs you never knew existed. Ouch! painful stuff sometimes! Anyway, I keep trying different tools to help navigate through the process and one thing that is working for me with the anger is becoming ultra aware that I'm beginning to feel anger, and I engage the ego, with the thought in mind that even though the ego creates this feeling, it doesn't really experience ii, because, surely if the ego got a feel of what it was creating, it would want to stop that. So, I talk to the ego and show it what this anger thing feels like in the body and for me lately it is my heart pounding like crazy and just all tensed up. Now, while this is going on, I ask the ego, once it's felt it, what possible good can this be serving? And if the ego is honest, it will admit, anger is serving absolutely no purpose, then we agree to do whatever we need to do together to calm all. The theory being that the ego does not want to relinquish control, so instead of battling it, make it part of the solution.  May seem like a silly mind trick, but what that process is actually doing is bringing increasing awareness to your current state, it's taking control rather than a knee jerk reaction, and you self calm. and, what I'm hoping is also building new neuro pathways that become the new natural response. That's just my little construct that is helping me, but just wanted to give you the idea of coming up with some tools that resonate with you and deal with your anger without reacting to it. I would repeat as others have said though, you have to allow yourself to feel it, you can't let it go if you suppress it . And it also doesn't mean you don't still have to do the hard work of digging deep too.

[werlight]

13 minutes ago, ZenTwizzle said:

I'm dealing with that letting go of anger thing too. I have especially noticed it bubbling up unexpectedly and inappropriately lately, which I just attribute to part of this whole process which entails, for me, peeling back layer after layer and uncovering things, beliefs you never knew existed. Ouch! painful stuff sometimes! Anyway, I keep trying different tools to help navigate through the process and one thing that is working for me with the anger is becoming ultra aware that I'm beginning to feel anger, and I engage the ego, with the thought in mind that even though the ego creates this feeling, it doesn't really experience ii, because, surely if the ego got a feel of what it was creating, it would want to stop that. So, I talk to the ego and show it what this anger thing feels like in the body and for me lately it is my heart pounding like crazy and just all tensed up. Now, while this is going on, I ask the ego, once it's felt it, what possible good can this be serving? And if the ego is honest, it will admit, anger is serving absolutely no purpose, then we agree to do whatever we need to do together to calm all. The theory being that the ego does not want to relinquish control, so instead of battling it, make it part of the solution.  May seem like a silly mind trick, but what that process is actually doing is bringing increasing awareness to your current state, it's taking control rather than a knee jerk reaction, and you self calm. and, what I'm hoping is also building new neuro pathways that become the new natural response. That's just my little construct that is helping me, but just wanted to give you the idea of coming up with some tools that resonate with you and deal with your anger without reacting to it. I would repeat as others have said though, you have to allow yourself to feel it, you can't let it go if you suppress it . And it also doesn't mean you don't still have to do the hard work of digging deep too.

Beautiful @ZenTwizzle fighting your ego is not the solution to anything.

Your ego is not you enemy! Stop hurting yourself !!!!

Your ego is part of who you are!. Imagine your ego as a lonely child begging for your attention and love.. the ego MUST be loved and accepted not rejected !!!

Love your self please