Desire to get a girlfriend - right or not?

[gar-4-field]

Hey guys, I am 18, pretty shy, I have never kissed a girl and I lack social skills so I am a little desperate and I want to make my first experiences with girls. I also got the desire to make some money and I value physical appearance. I have got these desires but I dont really know what is right to do and whether the solution is to let go of these desires or to fulfill them?

I guess i will have to foucs on making money in order to survive and I think I should also get into dating and relationships, to move up the hierachy of needs and to live a life aligned with my values.

According to "Fake Growth vs Real Growth" and "Happiness Spectrum" it would be wrong, I assume, to chase love (gf, sex, pick up), money and physical appearance as these are more egoistic desires.

I guess it is more about the place it is coming from and how obsessive you are with those issues. 

So my question is: Will it make me more fulfilled if i somehow try to let go of the desires to find love, make money and maxing my physical appearance?

[Gili Trawangan]

You're 18. Go chase some girls and have a good time!

Always follow your passion, not what other people tell you, or what you think you should be doing.

[theking00]

you have to approach as many girls as possible. eventually you will get a girlfriend 

[Leo Gura]

@gar-4-field Not wrong. Go enjoy some sex.

Will it fulfill you? Will it solve any existential problems? No.

But ignoring it would create its own set of problems.

Don't guilt yourself for wanting a girlfriend. Totally normal.

[Truthority]

yeah we all gotta go a little Dan Blitezerian now and then 
(please dont google if you don't know who he is, i wish i didnt know

On 8/7/2019 at 2:37 PM, gar-4-field said:

I am 18

You need to fuck up your life a few times. 

Get that content for your autobiography otherwise it's just turtles all the way down.