Re-integraton Of Suppressed Emotions - Teal Swan Process

[Light_Ray]

Hello there,

at the moment I watch lots of videos of Teal Swan who emphasizes that you have to completely feel your emotions, fully allowing them with no resistance to integrate parts of yourself that you split off as a child.

But this alone seems not to be enough for integration. She also has a video where she proclaims to go back into your past visiting the root cause of the specific emotion giving your inner child love and whatever unmet needs it has in order to integrate the emotion that you had split off.

Her concept is that you suppressed all emotions as a child that your parents punished you for or did not accept. These emotions have to be reintegrated by allowing them and experiencing the cause of it again.

Leo has a video about emotions where he says that it is enough to just observe your emotions. He also says in respond to a question that its most powerful to observe how and why the mind creates the emotion. How does this actually work to observe the mind creating a emotion?

For me observation alone hardly creates that kind of relief that makes me feel  as if I had integrated a "lost" feeling.

What am I doing wrong if observation alone does not give relief?

I mostly use deep breathing after I feel like I have observed enough which has a highly reliefing effect.

Also I try to find the root cause of the feeling experienced in early childhood and give my inner child love or whatever it needs. But its difficult for me to get in contact with my inner child and be with it for longer.

What I actually would like to know from you is, how do you integrate emotions?

I think its not enough to just feel and observe. This feels like sumptom curing to me. You have to go deep to the core into your past when you splitted off the specific emotion I think.

Leos approach is very spritual depnding on the no-self concept, but this brings no psychological healing as long as you are not enlightened still living with the Illusion of "I".

Whats your experience with integration of suppressed emotions?

Thanks for answering

 

 

Edited May 3, 2016 by Light_Ray

[Emerald]

14 minutes ago, Light_Ray said:

Hello there,

at the moment I watch lots of videos of Teal Swan who emphasizes that you have to completely feel your emotions, fully allowing them with no resistance to integrate parts of yourself that you split off as a child.

But this alone seems not to be enough for integration. She also has a video where she proclaims to go back into your past visiting the root cause of the specific emotion giving your inner child love and whatever unmet needs it has in order to integrate the emotion that you had split off.

Her concept is that you suppressed all emotions as a child that your parents punished you for or did not accept. These emotions have to be reintegrated by allowing them and experiencing the cause of it again.

Leo has a video about emotions where he says that it is enough to just observe your emotions. He also says in respond to a question that its most powerful to observe how and why the mind creates the emotion. How does this actually work to observe the mind creating a emotion?

For me observation alone hardly creates that kind of relief that makes me feel  as if I had integrated a "lost" feeling.

What am I doing wrong if observation alone does not give relief?

I mostly use deep breathing after I feel like I have observed enough which has a highly reliefing effect.

Also I try to find the root cause of the feeling experienced in early childhood and give my inner child love or whatever it needs. But its difficult for me to get in contact with my inner child and be with it for longer.

What I actually would like to know from you is, how do you integrate emotions?

I think its not enough to just feel and observe. This feels like sumptom curing to me. You have to go deep to the core into your past when you splitted off the specific emotion I think.

Leos approach is very spritual depnding on the no-self concept, but this brings no psychological healing as long as you are not enlightened still living with the Illusion of "I".

Whats your experience with integration of suppressed emotions?

Thanks for answering

 

 

I think that observation is a big part of it. Sort of like checking your emotional email. You can't delete it until your read it.  But I think that psychologically, you have to change your beliefs relative to the situation that the emotion stems from and find approval for the emotion, the thoughts that the emotion causes, and the traumatic situation. This has to happen before you can truly check your emotional email. 

For example, if I got fired and made it mean that "I'm worthless and I'll never find anywhere to fit. I'm going to be homeless in the street." that's going to continue to cause me pain because worthlessness will become part of my self-concept. But if I make it mean that "I was wasting my talent at that job anyway. They just didn't see my potential." I might reinterpret the situation to mean something positive about my self concept. So, the pain and low self-esteem won't be an issue.

Also, with regard to emotions, you can do the same thing. For example, if you think "Why do my emotions do this to me. I just want to feel good. Why can't I just be normal and feel good." It's going to cause resistance to that emotion. But if you focus on the emotion and seek approval for it by saying "Emotions carry wisdom with them. All emotions are good because they are my body's way of imparting self-knowledge and wisdom to me." That's when focusing on your emotions just as sensations in the body can be helpful to you. 

So, you have to change the meaning that YOU ASCRIBE to your emotions and the events that cause your emotions in order to actually be receptive enough to do the thing that Teal Swan talks about in "How to Heal the Emotional Body" and Leo talks about in his video about "Dealing with Strong Negative Emotions." Only then can you be a superconductor for emotion when you've let go of all conscious and unconscious resistances and negative meanings associated with certain emotions. 

[Salaam]

Is your focus relief or connection and reintegration? I ask because relief can mean a lot of different things and often times, most people repress and suppress emotions because they seek relief or escape from them. Life can be stressful and painful and so to can be the experience of our emotions. But, even that stress and pain can add to the richness and beauty of life if balanced and applied in the right contexts. In order to be intimate and close to a thing, we have to be vulnerable to it, whether the focus be other people or our own feelings.

I'm going to go ahead and answer based on the assumption that your intent is primarily connection and reintegration. 

I have a lot of experience and success with re-integrating suppressed emotions over the course of my life. I was the super sensitive kid who got hurt and ran away from his emotions and created an armor of distance and intellectualism. Only to throw away that armor when it became a cage of empty gray. I worked and worked, stepping again and again into the fire of my emotions and facing the weight of who I really was. Becoming more and more sensitive and vulnerable, but also more and more authentic and resilient. All while doing it in a grounded and very systematic way, to be the man I am now and to feel the deep and rich things I feel.

Connecting with our emotions, means having a relationship with them, and that means how you treat and relate to them and how involved you are with them, will determine the strength and richness of your connection (just like in a relationship with another person).  Not just when it's easy to do so, but when it's hard and stressful, or mundane and normal. In each of those environments, we have to see and feel authentically and with balance, rather than automatically jumping to conclusions or ignoring and distracting away from it's impact. Facing those places where we're twisted up and shifting the chemistry there, so things can work in harmony with each other. Examining and opening up the richness, subtlety, and nuance so each emotion has the chance to fully "breathe" and express itself to you, adding it's music to the song of who you are.  As an example, for a lot of my life, I've been focused on understanding how things work and are organized, but as I grew and became more capable I began to feel how knowledge alone wasn't enough. I felt why I originally made such a choice and processed all the deep and painful feelings around it. I wrote an account of that process and I'll include it for you at the end, for you to read if you want (plus a more cathartic account).

So what that all means, is we have to be more sensitive so we can feel our emotions deeper and see the subtle details and inter-relations that are involved with them. You can't do that by just being an observer, you have to feel and process. But, at the same time you have to have focused awareness as well as sensitivity, so you're not just caught up in the emotion, but processing and connecting it with your story and what it means. Shifting reactions from the past, with the difference of who you are now. Examining blanket statements, reactions, and assumptions and smoothing them out so their coherent and grounded in reality, which shifts the feel, the context, and the eventual meaning. Taking the binary, black and white thinking and adding richness and more context. Facing the dissonance and resistance of old beliefs as they shift and change from this processing of a new view. All the while restraining our compulsions to intellectualize these feelings with our mind because of some expectation, before they have a chance to finish speaking to us. No, we feel fully, authentically, consciously, and coherently and after that experience changes us, our view, and our beliefs, then we analyze and narrate/categorize it all, like I did below in my writing. 

If you have any questions, please let me know. I hope this helps.

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I am so grateful for no longer being blind to all the pride I'm carrying inside me. I didn't realize how it was drying me up and choking out my natural, joyful curiosity and sense of intrigue. It was also creating a distance from my own growth process, diluting it, because it made the growth about something else, more a justification or condition, than about my life.

God, I felt like I got more of my voice back after I started processing it. I could feel it's burning heat course through me and my voice to myself that I consider "me" changed, down-shifting like treble to bass and calming, softening, in very slight but deep ways, if that makes sense.

When I was young, it seems my pride in my intelligence, my ability to figure things out, was all I felt I had. It's what I leaned on in so much of my life and drank from, when I didn't have other things to nurture me. For so long, I've been operating under this desire to understand the foundation of the whole universe and while I've been succeeding in spectacular ways, it's not enough. I wanted to be so good at figuring things out, that I eventually grew to figure out, that I chose such a path because it was the only road I could see at the time. The only thing that didn't immediately remind me of how much I felt I sucked at everything else.

I had to get behind that desire, to the person hurting underneath, who chose this way to protect himself and what little trust he had in his own capability. That kid was doing the best he could, but I can help him do better now. I can help him, be him, and do things for the reasons he would choose if nature wasn't fucking with him. The barriers he felt then, I've surpassed now, deficiencies have grown into strengths and my why, my deep, deep, indescribable why of what I do, can grow and be more than a spire, built in reaction to pain and deprivation.

How much of our motivation is a reaction to pain and pressure and things out of reach? How do we balance and bridge that part with the other facets of our nature, so they work in harmony together? So that, we can become more than the branches made from a single choice in our past and get closer to our trunk and roots? The way I see it now, is that I'm letting humility shoulder some of the burden, my pride has been carrying all these years. I give the stunted things behind my pride, the chance to blink their eyes in pain to the sunlight and adapt and grow and stand on their own. So they can play. So they can breathe and add their notes to the song that is my voice and my presence.

I'm fucking tired of the edges of my pride cutting into me and my joy. I'm capable enough to softly take the incredible pain life has and not use pride to shield and shadow me. It's why I dance and laugh so much more now, making up stupid songs as I go, or jump up and down like a little kid on Christmas when I wake up on Saturday mornings. I will choose that every day over pain cloaked in sophistry and the pride of knowing. My brittleness is being burned and pressurized out of me. I feel it's etching on my insides, running me ragged, taking me to the edges of my fragility and I'm so glad, no matter how much it feels like it sucks at the time.

There are parts of me that suck, that burn and hurt, and need to be untwisted and turned around. I will go to those places. I won't leave them alone. There will be no doors in this house of who I am, where ghosts of me in my past, sit alone, crying in the dark. I will be there and if I can't handle the heat behind that door, I will wait and play just outside so he can hear till my hand can handle the pain and turn the knob.

I promise.

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We have many songs to sing and it is so beautiful to me that each string added, does not over-shadow the one it came from before. This change is not a way of replacing one for the other, but like the universe itself, the pressure of life gives birth to new and the space of all expands and grows to accommodate.

I chose in the past year or so, to add, not replace. That everything has a space and place where it can breathe and be. If I need more space, more earth, more air, I will create it so every part of me, from pain to beauty has a home. That is the beauty of the instrument we can be. We are not limited to just a few, we just have a lot of growing to do, to get to the point where we can handle and grasp how deep our song can truly be sung.

Fine tuning each string, so the note it plays can better compliment it's brothers and sisters, creating a harmony where in that space, more strings can be discovered. The vibrations of ourselves coming into tune, awakening more of the potential hidden in our roots, so more branches can be coaxed to grow and try to stand and feel the light of day.

We call out to the world around us, just as much as we call to ourselves. Expressing the depths of who we are and how we feel, becoming and being, both at the same time. Growing and bleeding, burning and breathing, as alive in the fires of our passion as we can stand. Involved in the deepest of ways with the brutal beauty that is nature. Awakening ourselves to ourselves like infants crying out from birth.

 

Edited May 3, 2016 by Salaam

[Light_Ray]

4 hours ago, Emerald Wilkins said:

I think that observation is a big part of it. Sort of like checking your emotional email. You can't delete it until your read it.  But I think that psychologically, you have to change your beliefs relative to the situation that the emotion stems from and find approval for the emotion, the thoughts that the emotion causes, and the traumatic situation. This has to happen before you can truly check your emotional email. 

 

To change your beliefs and thoughts is working on the surface I think.

The root of emotions is an experience in the past where you did not have the capacity to think yet. The beliefs and thoughts were made around the emotions later. So the root is the emotion, not the thought.

If the root experience is revisited and integrated, thoughts will automatically change or are way easier to change.