Addicted to findom

[themovement]

I'm addicted to findom (financial domination), I think its shame from being a beta my whole life. It's not good because I can't keep affording findom sessions with findom dominatrix's. I don't have the best job, is liking findom and femdom bad? 

[hamedsf]

is it good or bad? 

is it positive or negative?

should I do this or not?

are all the white and black or binary questions which could be imposed from others perspectives  while there are no absolute right perspective. it's related to individual's brain or EGO, remember there's no accounting for taste!! 

if you like it and it's your passion to pursue findom or whatever you call it, do it full-heartedly! 

speaking for myself,  I prefer playing the game of status and love to be an alpha male! 

[themovement]

1 hour ago, hamedsf said:

is it good or bad? 

is it positive or negative?

should I do this or not?

are all the white and black or binary questions which could be imposed from others perspectives  while there are no absolute right perspective. it's related to individual's brain or EGO, remember there's no accounting for taste!! 

if you like it and it's your passion to pursue findom or whatever you call it, do it full-heartedly! 

speaking for myself,  I prefer playing the game of status and love to be an alpha male! 

@hamedsfSo its ok then? I feel like it could stem from the shame that I am a beta and let women dominate me. Will it be bad for my masculinity? I sometimes edge all day then meet a findom at an ATM to give them money.

[hamedsf]

Most of the time, masculinity is better choice to attract women so yeah, embrace that fucking power!

And remember masculinity isn't forcing somebody or...

Try to get the real sense of what true masculinity means... 

For example, invulnerability and being emotionally strong, is one of the characteristics of masculinity...

 

[Shadowraix]

24 minutes ago, themovement said:

@hamedsfSo its ok then? I feel like it could stem from the shame that I am a beta and let women dominate me. Will it be bad for my masculinity? I sometimes edge all day then meet a findom at an ATM to give them money.

If you want personal development it's beneficial to pursue your interests but it is also beneficial to pursue your fears or shadows. 

Ultimately it is not about bad or good but about how such behaviors affect the goals you want to reach. Decide yourself whether these are things you need to tackle. 

[XYZ]

Pathological submissiveness and extreme desperation for validation. A desire for being submissive is the antithesis of masculinity and is not at all attractive. E-thots who cater to this fetish are taking advantage of the male psychological need to be seen as useful and validated by a woman, and are literally just using you for money. It's an obvious indication of painfully low self esteem, that's the root issue to address.

You do realize they don't actually care about you at all, and would completely ignore you if you didn't keep throwing money at them. Just stop doing it, go jerk off to porn until your nuts run dry, that at least will temporary purge the horniness so you can get a grip on your mental state. I try to be a no-fapper myself, but one absolutely great thing about binging on porn and masturbation for a few days is that it saps your drive to interact with women, making you see how deluded you were when you were horny.

@Mods move this thread to the psych help forum

[Emerald]

Isn't findom where you literally just give the women money, and that's it. They don't even do anything other than take money? No sex. No talking. No interaction of any kind past just giving money to them. Is that right?

I had heard about it but didn't even think it was a real thing. 

So, what is it that you get out of this arrangement? It must give you some sense of release, perhaps like self-harm... but financial self-harm. 

Bottom line, you should keep your money as you're paying money just to be financially harmed. And you're using this to reflect the wounds and feelings of powerlessness that you feel and attribute to women.

You should look into the topic of Anima possession, as this can cause these very types of behaviors. A lot of guys into Red Pill and especially Incels deal with Anima possession internally, and it causes all these distortions in how they view women and it makes them feel powerless. Those in MGTOW and MRA types cope with Anima possession by trying to feel a false sense of empowerment through masculinity. Those who are Incels, go the opposite direction and become submissive and self-flaggelating, preferring to tongue their own wounds and avoid taking personal agency. 

So, the former has a coping mechanism that's primarily destructive to others. And the latter has a coping mechanism, that's primarily destructive to the self. But both are self-destructive and destructive to others as they're going around and around with the same internal split, and are doing things to create a greater rift inside themselves as opposed to integrating the Anima.

Here is a video I made on the topic...