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How do I let go of friends and make better ones

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This is a reoccurring problem I have been dealing with for about five months now. Overall I feel like me and all my current friends are not the same. I feel like I cannot relate to these people on a deeper level. I want to do things like chase my passion, travel, and live to my full potential. Of course I can do these things regardless of the type of friends I have but, I feel like they do not contribute to my success and overall take a negative, pessimistic view to life. ESPECIALLY when it comes to talking about dreams and visions for the future, they are not people on the same page as me and its not a group of people who are helping each other be better. Multiple times i've tried to cut these people off but if im being brutally honest, I always end up talking to them again because I get bored and very lonely. Mostly because I don't have friends as close as I am to them and Im afraid of putting myself out there to my acquaintances and other friends im not so close too. Ive tried to befriend friends more that I feel are more like me but its intimidating because everyone already has their own set friend groups already and it would be difficult to add myself in the mix. But back to the point, I just feel like these people aren't for me. The fact that I always end up talking to them makes me wonder, does that make me weak? I can admit yes I do want friends (alot) but I often wonder if the need for others makes me weak? I wonder, If i cant have fun by myself does that mean me wanting friends is just a way to distract myself from a deeper issue I don't want to face? I want to have fun and go see new places ive never seen with great people and be creatively driven. My current friends never want to do anything. Always rejecting my invites to go to the beach, city, or anything outdoors but will jump up just to go to my friends house to smoke. Either that or everyone else Is busy with their girlfriend that they already spend 100+ hours a week with. Its summer so im out of school (about to start my first year of college) and even through working on my fitness, job, creating my art, and planning for my future I still have a lot of time on my hands. I know I can do all the things I want to do by myself but it would be cool to have a group of people that share the same interest and are as adventurous as me. I always wonder if I am weak though for wanting all of this cause maybe it means I cant be happy by myself. Im open minded and ready to hear any hard truths that I may not be realizing that involve myself. Thanks guys. 

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