should i listen to this guy?

[Natasha]

1 minute ago, Shin said:

I don't know what kind of men you dated, but try men that can feel emotions

I take it as a yes then. Good for you. Now get to real relationship work and learn to attend to her needs at the expense of yours and we'll see the kinds of emotions that will come out of you

[dinone]

Women Don't Care About You...post of another hypocrite.

Another self promoting coach?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Stevo]

 

It shows a lack of respect to say women are "community property" and to say that they have "been passed around" because of the consensual sex they have had.  

His description of women is unlike any of the women I have been close to as those women are my examples for selflessness, caring, and non-transactional generosity.  

[noselfnofun]

I think I posted on a thread of yours before just do the following, learn how to get a girlfriend and alongside that start improving your life in all aspects holistically. Its practice is simple as just doing the following.

 

 

1. Make a strong pact to yourself you will get this area of your life handled. You can do this, it will just require work. How much work you will need to put in none one will know until you start going out and interacting with different  girls. May take weeks, month, or years. It took me around 5 years of a lot of very hard work to get it handled.  I literally started from the complete bottom, I had extremely bad social anxiety, and was just completely useless with women. 

2. Start learning some basic social dynamics, however one thing you must be very careful of is getting wrapped up in PUA culture. Learn how attraction works, RSD can show you but you must watch out for falling into the following traps. Caring about lay counts, bragging rights, becoming a sex addict, becoming addicted to the validation of women, thinking women will somehow make you happy, thinking its ok to lie or be dishonest to attract women, letting dating consume your mind. Once you start seeing improvements you have to really start to tone down how much emphasis your have on this area as one thing you will notice about people learning how to get better at dating is they becoming very unbalanced with it and obsessed. 

3.  Start getting real life experience with women, go out and interact with them applying some of the things you have learned. Go to big cities, you will need to be anonymous when doing this so you can't really learn this in a small town.

4. Don't watch anything negative, completely cut out anything to do with black pill, MGTOW, Intel ect. Do not poison your mind with ideas that are not constructive to you on growing yourself. 

5. Self love, self love, self love. Start practising self love, learn metta meditation, write down all your limiting beliefs about yourself and see how they are not true, how you have literally just created them. Use the truth to dissolve them.  The true self is love, but you can hide it by hating yourself. 

6. Make an effort to start socialising more and actively seek out people who are positive, open and happy. Got to meditation meet ups, self help meet ups ect. Go to places where you will meet open minded none judgemental people.

7.  Start fixing up your appearance, learn about mens fashion.

8. You can look at hire a dating coach or get advice from people who have got what you want. 

9. Learn mens fashion and work on improving your appearance.

 

 

You are probably doing most of this already I'm sure but you are just going to have to take action and work it out yourself, we can show you the door now you have to go walk through it.  If you have any more questions let me know I'd be happy to help. 

Note to clear up some points: Having a girlfriend absolutely will not make you truly happy its impossible, but can only realise this by getting one and thats the whole point of this journey is to transcend it, realise that the thing we all search for in dating, love cannot be truly found in another person but yourself. Once you start getting this it can really help you spiritually as you just start to care less and less about dating as you know it won't really make you truly happy. 

 

 

Alongside improving life generally

Phase one (simple self help)

1. Start seeing a therapist. 

2, Start cleaning up your diet, learn about nutrition.

3. Start exercising, start going to the gym.

4. Stop watching anything negative, completely cut out anything to do with black pill, MGTOW ect. Do not poison your mind with ideas that are not constructive.

 

Phase two

1. Start outlining what your passions are in life, find what you love and do it.

2. Start making amends with any broken relationships you have in the past and with family.

3. Start doing alternative therapies, Dr Gabor Mate is someone you should look into.

4. Start doing biohack ticks to increase your mood, float tanks, mindfulness, breath work, suanas.

5. start outlining your fears and taking small steps in facing them, what are you sacred of ? Face them.

6. Start researching how you can develop a positive mindset.

 

Phase three ( self transcendence and learning the actual truth) This part is optional in how far you wanna go with it,

1. Start learning about spirituality and spiritual pratices.

2. Learn meditation and yoga.

2. Start spiritually cleansing yourself.

3. Immerse yourself in an intense spiritual retreat, do a meditation retreat or go live in a ashram for a brief period.

4. Do shadow work and start self analysing why you are the way you are and what makes you unhappy.

5. Develop a strong morning routine and evening routines before bed. Start the day with meditation, cold showers, exercises.

6. Cut out all bad habits, porn, bad food, negative influences, negative friends.

7. Start giving back to your community, do voluntary work, help friends and family ect.

 

Get out there now and start interacting with real life people and get real life feedback, lifes to short not to have a girlfriend. Its yours if your willing to do the work. make sure your in live in a place with a high vloume of people so you can go out and socailse as much as possible, like I have said before and keep saying stay well clear of red pill, MGTOW,Black pill ect. Come on man lets do this!!

 

Edited July 3, 2019 by noselfnofun