She stopped texting me and I did the worst thing possible

[hamedsf]

On 6/27/2019 at 9:46 PM, assx95 said:

"I have a dream, and it is for you to be my girlfriend"

 

putting a girl as a first-priority in your life screws the game of flirting  better than anything! 

Edited June 30, 2019 by hamedsf

[universe]

When the emotion is there, its best to embrace it fully.

So cry and feel miserable however you like. Dont try to "hide" your emotion.

But ask yourself, where this emotion is coming from. What led it come out? How could it arise so fast and get so big?

Really this is a good opportunity to look inwards.

[ValiantSalvatore]

The point is the more masculine you can be the more feminine you can be, especially for people with a more masculine side. It's a dynamic dichotomie you can look at the ying and yang symbol and see that both symbols reach into each other. I can't tell you the meaning but dian ying ... means cinema dian electronic and ying shadow. So, yang is light.

Anyway, I can also recommend any audibook from david deida, you can find other quality women when you get to the point of being a quality man. Or 

I am by no where near this, I thought about this for sometime and made some notes.

I can recommend listening to enlightend sex as an audiobook from david deida to have a better perspective around sex in a spiritual context and the idea of femine and masculine, also the dynamics of them and pratices for sex. 

Or the way of superior men, is also a great book. (I have the audio version..)

Edited June 30, 2019 by ValiantSalvatore

[assx95]

@ValiantSalvatore Thanks for the Book  

 

[kev014]

 @assx95 I can relate to everything you have said. You professed your love to this girl, after what appears to have been no serious communication or connection with her (I'm not sure, just based on you not explaining any history or context this appears to be the case). You met her a few times, went on one date and then wanted to be in a relationship. This probably freaked her out, you got very serious and emotional with her without any serious history or connection. This is important to understand, if you are in love with a girl after barely knowing her, this communicates to her that its not real. How could you love and adore her if you don't truly know her? Its just infatuation, lack of options and lack of self worth. I say this with compassion and understanding, I've been here myself many times and in some regards am still working through this.

 

Over enthusiasm, lack of grounding, and becoming overly excited in the beginning stages of a relationship with a woman (whether the first interaction or a month in to a relationship) communicates a lack of previous relationships and a sort of neediness. Mainstream culture and movies like hitch have romanticized this needy, desperate approach to dating (not suggesting this is you, just trying to further explain the dynamics) that is actually the opposite of what women are attracted to. Our mainstream propaganda has us totally fucked up with what healthy, positive relationships actually are. We are constantly inundated with on again off again, needy misconceptions of love - this is not love, this is the manifestation of deeper emotional traumas and issues playing out between two people. True genuine love takes time to develop, it takes connection, commitment and understanding/respect of both the good and the bad in another person. The 'honeymoon phase' of any relationship is largely hormonal and getting what we may have been previously deprived of throughout our youth (emotional connection, intimacy, worthiness, sex, validation, etc.) 

So the question arises then, what can YOU practically do to be happy on your own (most important thing in any relationship) then how can you engage in a healthy relationship (whether its with this girl or someone new)? I'm going to make some assertions here that may be totally incorrect and I say them respectfully, if it resonates with you, run with it, if not, no harm no foul throw it away. I'd suggest taking a look internally, how do you feel about yourself, how much do you respect yourself, how worthy of love, respect, and appreciation do you feel? Answering these questions for ourselves honestly takes time, vulnerability and courage. Also, I'd consider looking at your relationship with your parents and particularly your mother. How comfortable have you been giving and receiving love, attention and praise from your mother? Was she supportive and nurturing throughout your youth or was she emotionally distant and disconnected? These things will effect our relationships with women more than anything - going and doing cold approach can teach you to be attractive and sleep with girls, but if the 5 year old in you feels unworthy of love/respect, you'll always find a way to sabotage a long term relationship, I know from personal experiences. The conscious mind may say 'look at me, of course I'm worthy of all these things and more.' But the true answers will come from our emotions as we respectfully allow them to unravel and reveal deeper and deeper layers of our psyche. Attracting girls and having healthy, mutually beneficial relationships are two totally different things. 

I just threw a lot at you but hopefully its of some value, let me know if you have any questions.