What are the benefits of ceasing to watch porn?

[Justincredible76]

Ive started doing a thing called semen retention and its been only a few days now, i don’t think ill have a huge issue stopping myself from ejaculating either. But what i’m wondering is why exactly is porn bad? What bad things has it done to me that i can’t see? I recall hearing that it can be good for your energies if you become aroused but retain your semen especially if your able to control where you move the energy within your body, so why would it be bad for me to accomplish that with the use of pornography? Is it specifically related to videos? Is it specifically related to just watching other people have intercourse? Or is it not the content itself that matters but instead the way my brain reacts to whatever it sees?

[Shin]

https://fightthenewdrug.org/5-ways-porn-changes-your-brain-and-body-for-the-worse/

[hamedsf]

The answer is it all happens in your brain.

by watching porn you're conditioning your brain to the video ( the conditioning of the mind happens during the orgasm ), every time you watch the porn the neural network related with that gets stronger and stronger and the dopamine release after watching porn is somehow responsible for the deterioration and that paves the way for psychological addiction ( not physical addiction ) 

the benefits of ceasing to watch porn is that you never use it for instant gratification but you make an endeavor for delayed gratification like trying to take your personal development further, learning how to attract women and etc...

if you have any further question about this subject, don't hesitate to ask!

Edited June 21, 2019 by hamedsf

[ajasatya]

@Justincredible76 Porn teaches a distorted approach on sexuality and intimacy.

If you want to have amazing sex, quit porn.
If you want to use women as sexual toys just to please yourself, then go for porn.

[Bill W]

There are no benefits to stopping watching porn or stopping yourself from masturbating. It's just another thing us obsessives think will lead to a better life if we conquer it. 

 

Edited June 21, 2019 by Bill W
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[Justincredible76]

5 hours ago, ajasatya said:

@Justincredible76 Porn teaches a distorted approach on sexuality and intimacy.

If you want to have amazing sex, quit porn.
If you want to use women as sexual toys just to please yourself, then go for porn.

I guess i cant predict the future but the way my life is going, at least for a long time, i dont see that ill ever want or need to have a partner. I plan on going to a monastery to be a monk soon, where ill quit porn there. But for now i think the most benefit id get by quitting would be delayed gratification & semen retention. Maybe i can use it as a rewarding system.

[ajasatya]

24 minutes ago, Bill W said:

There are no benefits to stopping watching porn or stopping yourself from masturbating. It's just another thing us obsessives think will lead to a better life if we conquer it.

What you said conflicts with my experience. The quality of my life increased dramatically after quitting porn and masturbation. Not just in the sexual part, but in many other aspects.

[Justincredible76]

@ajasatya besides sex, tell me of the  benefits you got. Was it really the deciding factor that changed your life, or was it your drive to change yourself that did so?

[ajasatya]

1 hour ago, Justincredible76 said:

@ajasatya besides sex, tell me of the  benefits you got. Was it really the deciding factor that changed your life, or was it your drive to change yourself that did so?

I went through a surgery that made me unable (prohibited) to get an erection for two months. So it was my initial reason.

In the process of learning how to domain my sexual impulses, everything got better. My relationships got better. I could sleep better at night. I felt more energized to live my days. My creativity went off the charts.

So, after the two months, I just continued. My perspective on intimate relationships changed completely. My perspective on women changed completely.

In the beginning, before surgery, I thought I was being cursed. But in the end, it felt much more like a blessing. I am very thankful for what happened to me until this day.

[Charlotte]

12 hours ago, ajasatya said:

@Justincredible76 Porn teaches a distorted approach on sexuality and intimacy.

If you want to have amazing sex, quit porn.
If you want to use women as sexual toys just to please yourself, then go for porn.

This 

[Psyche_92]

11 hours ago, Bill W said:

There are no benefits to stopping watching porn or stopping yourself from masturbating. It's just another thing us obsessives think will lead to a better life if we conquer it. 

 

How you know? Have you tried it at least?

[Jonac]

Sometimes I think porn is bad just because is a general consensus  And you by believing that make your body react negatively

[Aeris]

when I was coming like an happy turtle she was finding it fine.

but when I was the pornstar rabbit, that's when she loved me the most.

 

[CreamCat]

On 6/22/2019 at 6:54 AM, ajasatya said:

What you said conflicts with my experience. The quality of my life increased dramatically after quitting porn and masturbation. Not just in the sexual part, but in many other aspects.

But, if you quit masturbation and have no sex, you are going to have wet dreams and wet your underwear. I hate wetting my underwear. I don't have a sex partner or a girl friend. I don't pay for a prostitute, either.

You have a wife. I don't. I don't think I'm going to have sex anytime soon. I choose masturbation because it is a cheap realistic option.

I just tightly regulate when I masturbate. I decided to masturbate once or twice on sunday every two weeks so that I don't waste any more time and energy on it than necessary. Plus, masturbation feels good.

On 6/22/2019 at 1:07 AM, ajasatya said:

@Justincredible76 Porn teaches a distorted approach on sexuality and intimacy.

If you want to have amazing sex, quit porn.
If you want to use women as sexual toys just to please yourself, then go for porn.

If there is no guarantee that you would ever have sex, porn is a realistic option. If you are not going to have sex anyway, amazing sex doesn't matter.

I think it's possible that I could die as a virgin. Don't mistake me with an incel. I'm not an incel. I just have more urgent priorities than chasing women and having sex. You can't have sex while metaphorically running away from a tiger.

Edited June 25, 2019 by CreamCat

[Psyche_92]

28 minutes ago, CreamCat said:

If there is no guarantee that you would ever have sex, porn is a realistic option. If you are not going to have sex anyway, amazing sex doesn't matter.

Have you ever considered the possibility that you are not having sex because exactly you are watching porn and are not really motivated towards getting the real deal?

[Sleyker]

Do some research about the topic, porn addiction is a real thing. It affects not only your sexual life but your social life as well. Your confidence, motivation, creativity are all going to drop if you're a heavy porn user. 

[CreamCat]

11 minutes ago, Psyche_92 said:

because exactly you are watching porn and are not really motivated towards getting the real deal?

If you haven't had sex for more than 3 decades, desire for sex vaporizes, and I feel that it's too much hassle with a lot of risk and little upsides. When I was in my early 20s, I was curious about sex. Not anymore.

If you kept up with your good food habits or have quit smoking for more than 10 years, would you ever think about eating junk food or smoking cigarette? Sex, cigarette, junk food, etc, ... are the same from a mind's perspective. If you don't do it for long periods of time, you simply stop wanting it. You stop thinking about them.

Edited June 25, 2019 by CreamCat

[Shin]

2 minutes ago, CreamCat said:

If you haven't had sex for more than 3 decades, desire for sex vaporizes, and I feel that it's too much hassle with a lot of risk and little upsides.

If you kept up with your good food habits or have quit smoking for more than 10 years, would you ever think about eating junk food or smoking cigarette? Sex, cigarette, junk food, etc, ... are the same from a mind's perspective. If you don't do it for long periods of time, you simply stop wanting it. You stop thinking about them.

There is a big difference.

Sex is a natural desire from the body.
Everything else you mentioned is not.

Can still become an addiction
But the desire is natural and will always be there until you become a senior.

[CreamCat]

8 minutes ago, Shin said:

the desire is natural and will always be there until you become a senior.

Sexual desire is there, yes. But, the opportunities to have sex won't present themselves unless I put a lot of efforts into it. Unless the activation energy (a chemistry term) is lowered by a catalyst, it is not going to happen.

At this point of life, my life has been optimized without sex for decades. Homeostasis is a strong force. Unless opportunities to have sex present themselves, I'm probably going to be distracted by other things. I think it's possible that I go all out on my life purpose and forget about sex for the rest of my life.

I'm already busy figuring out how to launch my career.

Edited June 25, 2019 by CreamCat

[Psyche_92]

3 minutes ago, CreamCat said:

I think it's possible that I go all out on my life purpose and forget about sex for the rest of my life.

Why would you want to do that.