My brain is like "You will fail eventually so why even try"

[saish]

Has anybody here drastically changed entire course of their life ? I mean like massive changes in life ? I want to change but I have tried in past so many times and failed that now my brain is like "I will fail anyways so why even try" and I just dont even try anymore. I want to quit porn I do that and then after a while I relapse. I have tried to quit it for last 4 years n failed. This has spilled in other areas of my life too. I just dont feel like working on myself or taking action cause it feels too much and I feel I will just fail anyways. I was a great student but now I am a mediocre I tried studying daily I did that few days n gave up . I can give many examples like that for exercising ,meditation ,reading etc. I meditated, exercised and reading for 2 years and gave up that too. I have seen so many failures that I just dont feel like doing anything cs I know I will fail.  How should I deal with this situation ? 

[OctagonOctopus]

How did you feel when you were meditating, exercising, and reading? How do you feel not doing those things? 

You will fall, you will fly. Hidden in success is a mountain of failure.

[saish]

4 minutes ago, OctagonOctopus said:

How did you feel when you were meditating, exercising, and reading? How do you feel not doing those things? 

You will fall, you will fly. Hidden in success is a mountain of failure.

I felt great doing all of this but eventually I noticed I wasnt having any of crazy benefits I was promised for doing that. I thought everything will change by doing all of that I thought it will create that snow ball effect in my life.when none of that happened my motivation died. I missed few days and then just gave up on it. At this point I just not satisfied with my life. I want more in all areas of life but the fear of failure just holds me down

[OctagonOctopus]

16 minutes ago, saish said:

I felt great doing all of this but eventually I noticed I wasnt having any of crazy benefits I was promised for doing that. 

But if you felt great why did you stop? What are the crazy benefits you speak of? 

Snowball effects take a very long time, and there are times where you are at a plateau and it feels as if you are not growing. Durring those times when things seems stagnate we must remain aware, feel out what to do next, don't throw down everything in frustration, it is all an adventure.

Why do you want more in all areas of life? What areas do you see? 

[ajasatya]

@saish You won't succeed if you don't try. So why not?

[saish]

2 hours ago, OctagonOctopus said:

But if you felt great why did you stop? What are the crazy benefits you speak of? 

Snowball effects take a very long time, and there are times where you are at a plateau and it feels as if you are not growing. Durring those times when things seems stagnate we must remain aware, feel out what to do next, don't throw down everything in frustration, it is all an adventure.

Why do you want more in all areas of life? What areas do you see? 

Specifically reading habit changed peoples life they became better persons it helped them became millionaire. It did help me but not much though. I want more in life because I am frustrated living like this. I dont have any passion I keep browsing the internet whole day. I spent around 7 hrs on internet just watching videos and nonsense. I want success in career ,women and other areas of my life. I want to become free from porn and internet addictions.

[OctagonOctopus]

Addictions are just habits, unwire the neurotic habits and rewire with healthy habits. You gotta do it slowly, feel it out. Observe yourself doing the habits you deemed as negative, try to understand why you do it, what you are trying to get out of it. 

What would you do if you were a millionaire? What do you love about life? 

[Jonac]

I use to try big changes too, and it doesn't work. Try little changes, star low. 

[Arcangelo]

Hi, I quit porn a while ago.

The way i did it was realizing that i was confusing the map with the territory. Those are not girls they are pixels in a computer screen forming the image of a girl.

The way i did it was realizing that when you watch porn you are training yourself to become a cuckold. You feel attracted to porn, actresses meaning that you fantasize about them being your girls then you go watch and jerk off to SOMEONE ELSE fucking your girl.

And finally the most powerful one was hearing horror stories about guys unable to get it up without porn

 

Watch the self deception series Leo talks about porn in those.

Watch 30 ways society fucks you in the ass

 

Porn has been fucking you in the ass @saish

Cut that shit off immediately. (If you want a better life)

 

[saish]

7 hours ago, OctagonOctopus said:

Addictions are just habits, unwire the neurotic habits and rewire with healthy habits. You gotta do it slowly, feel it out. Observe yourself doing the habits you deemed as negative, try to understand why you do it, what you are trying to get out of it. 

What would you do if you were a millionaire? What do you love about life? 

If I was a millionaire I would give everything to my parents that they deserved and sacrifised for. I will travel alot. Make a youtube channel to help others making same kind of change in their life. Give hope to someone as hopeless as me right now.

[OctagonOctopus]

@saish

Why do you want to travel? Where would you go? What would you do? 

If you had that youtube channel right now, what would you say to the people feeling hopeless? What is stopping you from making the channel now? What resistance do you feel? 

Create that hope yourself, its inside you, you just have to bring it out. Flesh out where your heart wants to go. Ask yourself loads of questions. Find out exactly what it is that you really want, and why you want it. Create a vision to motivate you. 

You are not a failure! Something happened to you that your ego mind called you a failure for. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, look around! When an animal out in nature falls over do they stay on the ground and cry about being a failure? No! They shake it off and keep going!

[Davidess]

When you realize that failure makes you successful than you will stop complaining. It just takes a bit of work. Because of my the most devastating failure I started the whole self-actualization thing?