Starting to think...porn is not THAT bad?

[Javfly33]

I want to know, for those how who have healthy relationship with your partner, and watch porn, how would you say porn affects you relationship and / or in sex?

It is widely known that abuse of porn can cause sexual disfunctions but I am talking about a normal use of porn. Not a daily 2-hour binge addiction.

 

I ask because since I discovered Nofap/NoPorn movement, when I abstainede from porn I felt pretty good , so I start blaming porn for everything related going bad in my "datelife". However after being in this state of quitting/not quitting for over almost 2 years, I'm starting to think that:

 

1. The positive effects when I abstain from porn some of them are placebo 

2. The negative effects (like how I feel socially after binging in porn the previous night) are some of them definitely "nocebo" .

3. And, mainly, that while obviously you don't feel very good after binging on a dopmaine session of porn , if go out running afterwards for a long time and I wait 6-8 I am already back at baseline of feeling more or less the same that when I peak into porn previous in the day.

 

Yes, I feel more healthy motivation speaking if I don't watch porn but if do it about 3-4 times a week, let's say an hour and a half each time, I more or less can maintain a functional life and still have sex drive. Yes, the sex drive compared to abstaining from fap+porn obviously is 100 times stronger but that sex drive for me really haven't benefitted me really rather than feeling all the time wanting to fuck.

However I see that I find myself blaming porn for stuff in my personality, and I cabt help but to think what if this tell me I'm full of shit. 

[Moreira]

Well, the positive side of porn is that you carn learn new exciting practices or positions. If I never watched porn I didnt make pleasure to my partner other than the pathetic missionary...

Edited June 15, 2019 by Moreira

[universe]

18 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

so I start blaming porn for everything related going bad in my "datelife"

What do you mean with the last part?