Masterbation - Good Or Bad For Personal Development

[Huz]

What are your opinions on masterbation? I see it as an escapism that doesn't delay gratification, and gives you pleasure with little motive. Anyone who has stopped for a long time noticed the any benefits?

Edited April 25, 2016 by Huz88

[Armand]

@Huz88 If you are in a relationship it makes sex feel better, but if not then masturbation a few times a week is something that I would consider normal. Sex is instinct. It's got to come out at some point. Pun intended. 

[A way to Actualize]

I have done it for a few months, and there happened some things. I got very sexual in every conversation with a girl, the libido was really high. I also saw more of a deepness in people, those two things are a bit of a paradox. It is just the question what will happen if the instinct gets so high that it becomes priority number one. It gives a false sense of confidence, you think you are more confident, but actually it is more of a effect that alcohol would have. It is not real confidence that is natural. If you are involved with pickup (I quitted), you will do insane things to meet girls. For example if you had to cycle for an hour to get to such a place, you would do it because of the libido. It may sound a bit weird, that is why I do not really recommend it. There are better ways to get of the addiction from masturbation if that is present. After those months, one will probably masturbate again and the cycle starts over again. Willpower increases enormously.

[Psychonaut]

I have stopped for almost a month now. I'll continue to abstain from it. For me it has become easy, I hardly think about Sex at all. It is less on my mind than when I was masturbating frequently. I also don't day phantasize about Sex anymore. Previously I would imagine how a girl would look when she is naked and I could undress them in my mind with no effort. All this has stopped and I have lots more free time. I used to spend lots of time searching for porn and masturbating every day. Seeing how this didn't help me whatsoever and was actually damaging I am very thankful and glad I stopped.

[Huz]

16 hours ago, Holdup said:

@Huz88 If you are in a relationship it makes sex feel better, but if not then masturbation a few times a week is something that I would consider normal. Sex is instinct. It's got to come out at some point. Pun intended. 

Bro if you are single, give NoFap a try. I am only 3 days in but as you can see here it gives people benefits. Might shoot your load quite quickly tho when with a girl... but fuck it haha. I was addicted to wanking which made my energy so low - probs contributed to low self-esteem. But it makes sense as it makes you work for your results instead of giving you pleasure at the touch of a button.

[Huz]

13 hours ago, A way to Actualize said:

 It gives a false sense of confidence, you think you are more confident, but actually it is more of a effect that alcohol would have. It is not real confidence that is natural. If you are involved with pickup (I quitted), you will do insane things to meet girls. For example if you had to cycle for an hour to get to such a place, you would do it because of the libido. 

Maybe the state you where before NoFap wasn't natural...Maybe you were living under masterbation for such a long time that you thought that was the natural way. Then when you stopped you thought the results were weird because it was unfamiliar. I think its down to the person. 

Very interesting though, I am going to give it a shot because i am curious of what happens

[A way to Actualize]

7 hours ago, Huz88 said:

Maybe the state you where before NoFap wasn't natural...Maybe you were living under masterbation for such a long time that you thought that was the natural way. Then when you stopped you thought the results were weird because it was unfamiliar. I think its down to the person. 

Very interesting though, I am going to give it a shot because i am curious of what happens

in My experience it was more of a neurotic way of living to hold yourself back and ignoring the survival system, by not using it for days it Will go away is a fiction. It is Both Natural but countering something that is present You are only fighting with a system in Your body, is not the most loving thing to do to yourself. The effects of confidence are easily made with Inner growth (loving yourself).

[QandC]

It's great.. what can I say. It turned my life around. And people who try and say it hasn't are assholes... fucking kyle man.. 

What I mean by this is that NOT fapping is great... Masturbation and porn makes you retarded 

Edited April 26, 2016 by Quizzer

[Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj]

I'm struggling with this right now. The longest I have reached is about 10 days, here are some effects from just 10 days:

-More energy

-More productive

-Deeper meditations

-More interested in girls

EMBRACE THE DARK NIGHT OF THE FAP!

[JevinR]

I have abstained for quite some time. To get into the highest spiritual realms you ought to abstain, but it really is to get to enlightenment. That's all orgasm is, is when the true self is revealed, hence you feel amazing. You get into that state and lock it in through life purpose/ enlightenment. Rather than spilling all your sexual energy for maybe 1-2 seconds of enlightenment

 

 

Edited April 27, 2016 by JevinR

[Huz]

1 hour ago, JevinR said:

I have abstained for quite some time. To get into the highest spiritual realms you ought to abstain, but it really is to get to enlightenment. That's all orgasm is, is when the true self is revealed, hence you feel amazing. You get into that state and lock it in through life purpose/ enlightenment. Rather than spilling all your sexual energy for maybe 1-2 seconds of enlightenment

 

 

How do you feel, how has it benefited you (in general and also spiritually)?

[Armand]

On 4/26/2016 at 5:18 AM, Huz88 said:

Bro if you are single, give NoFap a try. I am only 3 days in but as you can see here it gives people benefits. Might shoot your load quite quickly tho when with a girl... but fuck it haha. I was addicted to wanking which made my energy so low - probs contributed to low self-esteem. But it makes sense as it makes you work for your results instead of giving you pleasure at the touch of a button.

Going 3 days isn't that hard, but it's really hard (pun intended) to go an entire fuckin' week without doing it. Especially since I'm not in a committed relationship. When I was in one it wasn't a problem because I was laid almost every day. There are plenty of day's I'm not sleeping with a girl I meet online. Tell me how it feels after a week bro. I might try if it will help clear my mind about sex. Seeing as that sex is the reason I'm even on this self help forum. 

[Falk]

1.You wonder why your life isn´t going anywhere 

2.You feel empty and notice there must be a change

3.Don´t want to put in work 

4.Still wanna feel good! 

5.Masturbation! ...then repeat with 1.

[Huz]

@Holdup I had a relapse. I gave in after 8days, but going to stick to NoFap. I didn't really notice the effects. I felt more productive but didn't test it socially because i am revising all day now for my exams

Edited April 30, 2016 by Huz88

[Armand]

@Huz88 That sucks man. I'd feel weird af keeping it all trapped inside. It's not like watching porn takes up an extensive amount of time. For me it serves it's purpose. If people watched it all day then yea that's addiction. I do it about 4-6 times a week which heavily depends on if I have a girl around or not. No one critiques couples on this subject. They don't necessarily need it.. Unless the sex isn't good enough. So how does it make us single guys "disgusting", or people who "waste their time watching filth"? When really we aren't any different at all? Leo's an expert at sex, and I promise that if had enough energy or time on my hands to keep women around all day and night.. I'd just bang them and never need to fap again tbh. 

[Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj]

13 hours ago, Huz88 said:

@Holdup I had a relapse. I gave in after 8days, but going to stick to NoFap. I didn't really notice the effects. I felt more productive but didn't test it socially because i am revising all day now for my exams

Keep at it!