What Practices Can i Do to Purify My Mind From Sexual Desires?

[SQAAD]

@whoareyou

11 hours ago, whoareyou said:

 

 Learn how to attract women, and how to build relationships. 

You are attached to beliefs aswell.

Why should i learn to attract women? Isn't that a cultural biased belief of yours?

What if someone doesn't want to attact women.

Be honest.

[Omni]

19 minutes ago, SQAAD said:

@whoareyou

You are attached to beliefs aswell.

Why should i learn to attract women? Isn't that a cultural biased belief of yours?

What if someone doesn't want to attact women.

Be honest.

Not going to back anyone else's post here specifically - but if you're not open to receive or accept help then a million solid points of advice will do you no good. 

Open your mind a bit, give other things a shot without judging yourself for trying, rigidity is not the answer and suffering comes from resistance.

[Shin]

The only men who genuinely doesn't care about attracting women are either gay, asexual (and even then they could want a relationship), enlightened dude (and even then might still want to experience women) and dead guys.

So it's important not to lie to yourself ?

[SQAAD]

@Omni Open your mind a bit, give other things a shot without judging yourself for trying, rigidity is not the answer and suffering comes from resistance.

[SQAAD]

@Shin It is important to not to project also.

I don't care about eating icecream yet at the same time i would eat 10 pounds of icecream if it wasn't for my higher values.

The ego wants/cares about all kinds of things but everyone decides what is best for themselves.

 

[SQAAD]

I don't like people projecting their own ideas/beliefs onto me.

Who says i should get a girlfriend? It that a law of the universe?

Nope. It's your ideas. Keep it for yourself your Shoulds statements. My post was about something different.

There are no Shoulds for me.

I know the suffering from having gf and i prefer to own a different kind of suffering.

You don't know what is best for me bc you are not me.

I am not telling you how you should live your lifes.

"You should have a girfriend" That is ridiculous. Go to  a celibate monk and tell him that he shouldn't be celibate lol.

 

Edited May 29, 2019 by SQAAD

[SQAAD]

This thread is over for me. I don't like bickering back and forth. 

Bye. 

Thanks for your advices.

Edited May 29, 2019 by SQAAD

[Shin]

6 minutes ago, SQAAD said:

@Shin It is important to not to project also.

I don't care about eating icecream yet at the same time i would eat 10 pounds of icecream if it wasn't for my higher values.

The ego wants/cares about all kinds of things but everyone decides what is best for themselves.

 

Yes, but in my experience, you can't ignore those desire.

Just having the knowledge that you don't need it is very different than having the experience, failing/succeeding at it, then losing it.

Very very different.

[whoareyou]

10 hours ago, SQAAD said:

@whoareyou

I have great relationships with people and i attact women. You project a lot of stuff buddy. 

I don't know anyone who becomes enlightned through sexual practices.

Is it extremely difficult to do so. Your mind will be thinking about them sugar walls all the time .

Even the most hardcore monks have said it that if you are super serious about this you can't mess around fking women. I can't find a quote now but i even think Dalai Lama said " i don't know anyone who becomes liberated through these sexual practices".

Anyways i guess it is possible but since i have tasted sugar walls before i know how much attached i become.

Obviously noone wants give up sex because they are chimps so they are trying to find spiritual ways to have their sexual apetites fullfilled. 

With your logic all these monks who are celibate they just can't form relationships with women so this is why they become celibate lol.

Just because you have great relationships with people and have the ability to attract women, doesn't mean anything. Deep, fullfilling, intimate relationships with women are a different level and that requires a lot of work on yourself. 

1) How do you know if "hardcore monks"or Dalali Lama are right? Would you just take their forth blindly without finding out yourself? How do you even know they are enlightened?

2) Being a monk is not the only way to liberation, yet some you think it is the only way. 

3) enlightenment is nothing something you can achieve or attain in the future moment. It is not something that you have to chase. Why are you trying to pursue something that you have no idea about? 

You have adopted a beliefs about what "enlightenment" is and  that if you have sex - you will never become enlightened. I suggest to really investigate those.

[bejapuskas]

On 28. 5. 2019 at 0:39 PM, SQAAD said:

@Preetom

I disagree . People underestimate the power of no fap. Refraining from ejaculation ALONE builds character and creates idenity level changes if done for a long time.

Noone can just stop refraining from ejaculation and remain the same. You are forced to build new coping mechanisms. You are forced to change or go back to your old chimp ways.

Spiritual growth can be also a byproduct of No fap. 

I get your point though.

You are bullshitting yourself here. You said you have a problem and others tell you about their experience, what works for them. But when you read that advice, you start complaining how they don't understand you and you start feeling superior to them. What's the use of this?