I Failed... Did I ?

[Maximillien]

Hi,

I failed.

I'm a student. It's my third yeard, and I failed it. Last year I was given the choice between different types of studies. I'm passionate by programming and I could choose to study to become an engineer in programmation. But I wanted to learn new things so I chose the hard way, something I'm not that attracted to...  I like it, but I'm not good at it. And now I'm there, marking A+ in programmation but D, E or F in other fields. The classes are interesting, but I just suck at it and it's hard for me to learn and progress... I already know this year is a failure but I continue to study as before, because I love to learn, but I'm bad at craming for exams. I have a hard time to swallow my failure. I try to listen to what people say and not caring, but everyone is making it sound and look  horrible. Okay, I failed then what ? I'll start again the third year and this time I'll succeed it... So what, what is the problem ? Why am I feeling guilty? Why is that bringing so much anxiety in my life? How to relieve it? Please help me to Overcome and find a new point of view upon my failure.

Thanks.

Sorry for my English, I'm French.

Edited April 23, 2016 by Augustin

[Saarah]

@Augustin our ego doesn't like it when we fail because it wants to look good, to present a favourable self-image to other people, you mentioned how people are saying its horrible, so now that other people are attacking your self image, you feel vulnerable and guilty about not having success

Just knowing this can help you realise that it doesn't matter if your ego is hurt or if people think you're a failure, you just have to think about what is important, and that means to try again, remember that it's ok to fail and that's just your ego that is giving you those bad feelings

L'ego est blessé, c'est rien 

 

 

[Maximillien]

9 hours ago, Saarah said:

you feel vulnerable and guilty about not having success

 

 

What is very disturbing is that, knowing that, knowing that it's okay, and without thinking what over people may think about it, I'm stil feel bad. It's something that happen to me, not somthing I inflict to me.

[JAYTE]

I think you should try to find peace about the situation regardless of the opinions of the people around you.

You can only accept what's happened up the the present moment.

You can't change it, so you're best to find peace with it.

Come up with a plan for how you'll begin doing better.

I think you know deep down what needs to change or be different- if not, find a quiet place and try to search it out within yourself.

Make the changes,

and you will be well.

Just my humble opinions,... 

I hope you find peace!

[Falk]

I think better than giving you the reason why you feel bad now ...take 15minutes and do work: Write down very fast without thinking and revisting it ...

I´m a student and this semester was a failure because .... 

I feel bad now because ....

The ultimate goal i want to achieve by studying those topics is ...

Next semester i will....

[charlie2dogs]

On 4/22/2016 at 7:18 PM, Maximillien said:

Hi,

I failed.

I'm a student. It's my third yeard, and I failed it. Last year I was given the choice between different types of studies. I'm passionate by programming and I could choose to study to become an engineer in programmation. But I wanted to learn new things so I chose the hard way, something I'm not that attracted to...  I like it, but I'm not good at it. And now I'm there, marking A+ in programmation but D, E or F in other fields. The classes are interesting, but I just suck at it and it's hard for me to learn and progress... I already know this year is a failure but I continue to study as before, because I love to learn, but I'm bad at craming for exams. I have a hard time to swallow my failure. I try to listen to what people say and not caring, but everyone is making it sound and look  horrible. Okay, I failed then what ? I'll start again the third year and this time I'll succeed it... So what, what is the problem ? Why am I feeling guilty? Why is that bringing so much anxiety in my life? How to relieve it? Please help me to Overcome and find a new point of view upon my failure.

Thanks.

Sorry for my English, I'm French.

the only reason this is a problem for you is because you are seeing it from the fictitious identity of i and not your higher self. Your higher self feels no guilt.  find the real you inside of your body, it will let you know what succeeding is and can enable it. It will give you the passion you need to succeed, it will also give you peace to do it.

[Veggies]

I imagine you will be more successful than your other classmates in case you will keep on fighting the ail and self-developing your shelf. All you need is mastery in one field and you can become amazing success.