Perhaps our Fears are not Ours?

[Forestluv]

19 minutes ago, SQAAD said:

@Nahm True.Thank you.

@Serotoninluv To be honest after reading your 1st reply on this topic i got anxious and obsessional again because my mother indeed suffered a lot of stress when she was pregnant with me & apparently she got hit in the belly once aswell (while carrying me).

Now i am extremely anxious about how this event might have permanently affected/altered me in some way. I know it's irrational and stupid but still i worry about it. 

I would spend more effort in what is actually happening now than worry about what might have happened in the past. I think you are hyper analyzing and that’s the biggest fish to fry. It’s as if your favorite futbol team missed the first shot on goal  in the first game and you are hyper analyzing that missed shot and are filled with worry that your team will lose the rest of the games and finish in last place. It’s just one shot on goal. Come back to what’s happening in the game right now. 

 

[Nahm]

@SQAAD That’s not pain. It’s not actually happening. That is thinking, overthinking. You’re in such a habit of fast thinking from avoiding emotions that you’re assigning the sensations (via thinking) to anything and everything. 

Stop being afraid. It’s just sensations. Tears, writing about feelings, and sensations. But that’s it. Nothing to be afraid of. The passed is passed. It done. Don’t spend another day running on this treadmill. Seize your life right now. Sit on the cushion, have discipline, keep your spine straight, relax head to toe over and over. Breathe from your stomach. When thought stories get your focus, just return to awareness of breathing from your stomach. 

Don’t believe thinking which suggests you can outsmart this discipline.

Be aware of breathing from your stomach all day everyday. Give it a few days. You will have glimpses of how good your life is going to be. I guarantee you.

You are incredibly worthy and completely deserving of a full happy life. You are as capable as anyone need be. 

Stop routinely underestimating the power of Nothing. 

Set alarms to meditate. Use a timer. 

Write reminders. 

Ask someone to get you started with some disciplines. Ask them to set a timer and call you to tell you to meditate. 

Write down why you want to, what you want out of life. Inspire yourself to be disciplined. 

This may sound wild to you, but you do not need to think you’re way to a happy fulfilled life. Matter of fact, that can not be done.

You just have to meditate twice a day, to slow your resistant thinking, allow emotional purging. Thinking is getting in your way. Reduce it with meditation. 

 

[SQAAD]

@Nahm @Serotoninluv Thank you a lot both! I really appreciate your time & effort into helping others on this forum. I take notes and will do some serious changes otherwise its not going well for me.

I need to break this stupid cycle of thinking/obessing & overanalyzing.

16 minutes ago, Nahm said:

 

This may sound wild to you, but you do not need to think you’re way to a happy fulfilled life. Matter of fact, that can not be done.

 

Great point. I constantly get the urge to overanalyze, to think about something that causes me anxiety in order to "fix" it somehow. 

Edited May 2, 2019 by SQAAD