What are the 5 best choices you have ever made in your life?

[123456789]

Same question as above. 

Here are mine:

1. Quit watching TV
2. Quit video game addiction
3. Quit p*** addiction
4. Started meditating
5. Made self-actualization my top value 

[Key Elements]

1. Travelled, immigration 3X, stepped outside my comfort zone and backyard

2. Found my calling (life purpose)

3. Saw 10 ox herding pics (actualized.org pointed this out in the beginning--earlier clip, thanks Leo)

4. Research and keep looking for opportunities

5. Transform LP into a startup, really understand what this means

[123456789]

@Shiva Have very good reasons for quitting your old habits (write your reasons down on paper!!!) and when you feel like you want to take part in them read the paper (even if you don't feel like reading it).  

 

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[Arcangelo]

1. Quit Smoking

2. Quit Drinking

3. Quit Porn

4. Quit Poker

5. Start my own biz

[fryingLotus]

I have a feeling the answers here will be very similar. (I added on a few bonus points as I'm greedy)

1. Meditation.
2. Vipassana retreat.
3. Travelling around Peru for 6 weeks.
4. Starting the gym/running.
5. Taking dissociatives/psychedelics (wow - the first breakthroughs are incredible).
6. Stopping drinking (I now drink moderately, enjoy it and go home once I've had enough. No guilt, no shame, reduced anxiety, and more money in my pocket).
7. Meeting my girlfriend - not really a choice but choosing to pursue the relationship was.
8. Starting guitar again.
9. Putting myself out there with photography.

 

More and more keep coming to mind...

 

[7thLetter]

1. Quit partying & drinking

2. Starting a regular gym habit

3. Commit to life-long learning

4. Let go of old negative friends

5. Starting a meditation habit

 

[Virtually]

1. Joined the self-actualization path, and (more recently) becoming patient with the process

2. Stopped playing videogames

3. Stopped worrying and caring so much about petty matters

4. Started taking action and breaking out of my comfort zone

5. Decided to organize my life and commonplace book in a functional way - if I hadn't done that I would be completely lost now

It ain't much, but it changed a lot

[SFRL]

1. Go to a professional to change my posture at 16. That was my first practical self-improvement practice. It also introduced me to fitness because it involved a lot of body weight exercises. Pushups, situps, leg raises, etc. 

2. Stopped smoking/smoking weed at 17. Had been smoking a lot ages 15-17. 

3. Started hardcore working out at 17. Boxing, fitness, running. 

4. Changed careers/got a second education after finishing college. The result is more money, more free time, more adventure. The alternative would have been predictable and boring to me. 

5. Moved to the USA from Europe. This went together with changing careers. Generally dedicating my life to travel and adventure. 

Edited May 1, 2019 by SFRL

[Sahil Pandit]

Great entries, everyone!

Here are 5 right off the top of my head:

1.) Starting a meditation Habit

2.) Deciding to be okay with being weird/ not "normal" 

3.) Becoming a Lifestyle Minimalist

4.) Removing Toxic relationships

5.) Improving my health habits! 

@ajasatya i choose u to go next. 

[ajasatya]

1. started meditating
2. quit porn & masturbation
3. ditched controlling mentality
4. quit alcohol & junk food
5. embraced emotional pain for healing purposes

[ValiantSalvatore]

1. Meditation

2.  Journaling

3.  Attending retreats

4. Going abroad to China for half a year

5. Going to uni/college

[kindayellow]

@7thLetter hey I noticed your profile picture on here

X passing was really a pivitol moment in my life, I also broke up with my girlfriend 2 days earlier, as well as turning 18 on the 15th as well as finishing UK College, I was also considering leaving my friend group as they were kinda toxic and knew they weren't good for me. I believe it made me re evaluate everything in my life, and gave me a push to stop wasting my time on stuff I knew wasn't good for me. Also I just went through a really strong mourning period, it wasn't until about September I stopped waking up thinking about him and how sad it made me. Getting through the grief has been overall an amazing experience and thanks to Leo, I learnt some great things about emotions and how to deal with them (which is to do nothing and experience them as they come).

Also I found his sub Reddit helpful, seeing people go through the same pain I felt, and also the same pain X felt in his life. 

I now think of him in a positive light, using him to guide me, and in uncomfortable situations, I think of the sound of his voice telling me that everything is okay, and enjoying the fact I know he'd be happy I'm no longer so attached to him and have found remorse for myself

[dinone]

I have chosen......Nothing,

Life is.

 

[7thLetter]

@kindayellow Same here. He definitely had a strong impact on my life as well. I instantly became a fan back in the day when I heard "Look at me!" and when I listened to what he was talking about on an old periscope live stream he had. He was very intellectually-minded which was what attracted me to his music and who he appeared to be. I admit I haven't been closely following him after not finding any new music for quite a while in 2016, but the day he passed was when I actually started to look into his new stuff. One night while I was checking out his music, the first time I ever heard "Fuck Love" with Trippie Redd was the time that I cried about X's death. It was the realization that "wow he's actually gone." Then for several months I also couldn't get over his death, I always thought about it every day listening to his music. I currently have three X hoodies I found online which are so awesome to me, I love wearing them. I was also trying to find the winnie the pooh jacket had on when he passed, but couldn't find it at a reasonable price. I searched for such a long time with no luck.

[NorthRise]

@7thLetter X was truly one of a kind. He was able to capture anger and emotion in his music in a way that was really comforting. It was so interesting to watch X go through his own self-actualization journey. It seemed to me like he had come to terms with his past and had turned over a new leaf. 

It's a shame that his life was cut short because I think he would have continued to make a huge impact on society. 

I found this thread on his subreddit a while back and I think you might find it interesting. It talks about how X used Solfeggio frequencies in his music. 

https://www.reddit.com/r/XXXTENTACION/comments/8v3t1a/is_this_what_he_meant/

[nistake]

1. Started meditating
2. Committed to self-improvement
3. Started reading everyday
4. Improved my habits and implemented new ones (exercise, sleep, etc)
5. Started practising making emotionally difficult decisions

[7thLetter]

@NorthRise Yeah I remember he talked about this in the DJ Akademics live stream. Its actually so interesting that he studied this and put it into his music, he was truly a creative genius.

Definitely would've continued on to make a huge impact on society. Unfortunately he seemed to always make himself so vulnerable by hanging alone, no bodyguards, no weapons, and he even let the public know about it. There's literally a video of him connecting with a fan in a Walmart or Bestbuy with no one around to protect him. He was such a genuine person.

[Alex]

1. Judge people as little as I can 

2.Taking LSD 

3 perusing higher education instead of an Job 

4. Getting rid of bad habits while installing good ones. WIP

5. Comiting to radical open mindedness and the persiute of truth. (probably the most important thing ) 

[kindayellow]

@NorthRise Wow... That's amazing I've never seen that post before. What an amazing guy. I also loved seeing him change over time, and I could see it was a genuine change, he had always been self aware but he just couldn't control his anger, and he was so passionate and caring for his people. And actually I found something very interesting to do with his indigo hair.

 

He described his hair colour as indigo to Denzel curry but faded to more of a blue colour after a while. I googled the spiritual meaning of the colour indigo and it is "Powerful and dignified, indigo conveys integrity and deep sincerity. The color meaning of indigo reflects great devotion, wisdom and justice along with fairness and impartiality. It is a defender of people's rights to the end."

Blew my mind reading it for the first time. 

There's also the butterfly theory

Black and blonde hair represents the caterpillar

Grey hair represents the cocoon

Indigo hair represents the birth of the butterfly

 

Also his tree tattoo may possibly represent his detachment from things. A leafless tree, no attachment to anything.

Elephant tattoo on his neck meaning that he feels like the elephant in the room or that he is calm and gentle until provoked.

 

 

[NorthRise]

@kindayellow That is super interesting!! I never really put much thought into the color of his hair or what his tattoos might represent. I certainly don't doubt it. X was certainly no stranger to symbolism and the deeper meaning of things.