Sister cut me off her life

[Arcangelo]

How should i proceed?

I was thinking about writing her a letter telling her how i feel about she cutting me off her life. I am saying she cut me off because she never ever picks up or calls me back when i call her, she is not answering to my whatsapp messages, and she is not answering my facebook messages through chat. Technology nowadays allows me to know if she read the messages, and she did.

On facebook i saw a cartoon where a woman is at the psychiatrist telling him -:''He says he never gets my messages'' and they show the 2 blue check marks. The psychiatrist tells the woman: -''Maybe it is YOU who is not receiving the message.''

One would think: she is my sister, she is obligated to at least say hi, but nope.

The letter would be something like this:

 

Vee:

''I want to let you know that you and i are no longer family. I got tired of trying to contact you to just say hi. These letter is not to make you apologize, this letter is more for me than you. This letter is to give closure to our relationship.''

 

 

Leo was right in his lifestyle minimalism video: ''...cause these people will leave you, they will die on you, they will divorce you, they will get angry at you.... ''

All that time, financial and emotional investments are not gonna pay off. What's gonna pay off?: Meditation, psychedelics, SOLO TRAVELING (my favorite), journaling, doing pick up and writing.

 

Any advice is appreciated

Arc

 

Edited April 28, 2019 by Arcangelo
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[Arcangelo]

Bump

[Forestluv]

She isn’t obligated to respond to you, that is your own expectation of her.

I would take some time off with no contact and look inward into myself. It sounds like you are placing too much focus on her. 

After a week or so of introspection, I may write her briefly describing my feelings - perhaps something like “I’d like to be in contact with you and other family members and have been feeling rejected and unloved” (if that is what you discover internally). I would also write a supportive message and leave the door open - something like “I realize you desire some distance from me and I respect that and hope you are doing well. Perhaps sometime in the future we can get back in touch. The door is open if you would like to contact me. If not, I wish you well. With love, xyz”. If she doesn’t want to reestablish contact, I would not try again for at least 30 days. Then, depending on how I felt about it after 30 days of no contact, I may reach out again in a genuine way. 

I don’t have all the details on the situation. Yet based on what you wrote, that’s how I would handle it. To me, it sounds like there are some control issues going on to work through.

[Arcangelo]

Thanks. Yes you are right. Your letter is MUCH better than mine.

[Angelo John Gage]

I would write how you feel and expect nothing. you must respect her wishes, even though they are a sign of an ego-based person who needs attention. The reason I say do it is because you want to do to, but do not be attached to the outcome if it doesn't go in your favor.

In your letter you should also include that you respect her wishes and do not expect nor need a response, but wanted to let her know that your door is open when she or if she is ready to reconnected again.

[flowboy]

Don't do anything until you understand why.

You haven't mentioned what her reason is for ignoring you.

If you have no idea, chances are you are in denial about some stuff, that you will need to dig up and work through, in order to have a better relationship with her.

People don't block people for nothing

Edited April 30, 2019 by flowboy

[Eric Tarpall]

I would only send one message and if the message doesn't get a reply then I never send a message again.

[d0ornokey]

how longs it been? there's a chance you might be overthinking it? 

[Arcangelo]

Thanks for the replies.

 

On 4/30/2019 at 9:37 AM, flowboy said:

You haven't mentioned what her reason is for ignoring you.

She is my half sister. I think she is just siding with her dad because i hate my step father, and she knows it.

5 hours ago, d0ornokey said:

how longs it been? there's a chance you might be overthinking it? 

I am in meh state. I don't care. The least relationships the better. My grandma has a saying: -''Whoever doesn't love me is making me a favor''

I am just practicing self acceptance. If i ever see her at a family reunion i will just say hi indifferently, and stay out of her radar.

I used to care, now i don't. That's just how us human beings are.