My Gran is going to die soon

[Druid420]

I want to have a very straight conversation with her about death, as I feel our culture makes it this horrible taboo thing that it just is absolutely not!!

Any suggestions on what I should bring up and points I should hit?

I hope to leave the conversation having learned something and I hope she will leave the conversation excited at the prospect of her death.

[Paul92]

That's a difficult one. Because does anyone really know what happens afterwards? I'd say let her handle it how she wants. And if it isn't the end for her, then she will find out soon enough. If she is gravely ill, perhaps she has enough to contemplate at the moment.

If, indeed, she is gravely ill, I am very sorry and God bless her.

[Forestluv]

@Druid420 When my Gran approached death, I was simply present, supportive and loving with her. I allowed her to talk about what she wanted to. She tended to talk about her memories in life.

[Druid420]

6 minutes ago, Paul92 said:

That's a difficult one. Because does anyone really know what happens afterwards? I'd say let her handle it how she wants. And if it isn't the end for her, then she will find out soon enough. If she is gravely ill, perhaps she has enough to contemplate at the moment.

If, indeed, she is gravely ill, I am very sorry and God bless her.

I feel quite strongly I do. Kind of just feels like melting into everything else, the bed or the ground you are on. All that actually dies is ego.

She has lived a very epic life, is a brave age and a happy woman. She is not 'ill' per say, she's just on her way out.

Edited April 23, 2019 by Druid420

[Paul92]

@Druid420 Same with my gran, actually. She's 93 and everytime I see her she's looking worse. She has had a tough life. She went through the second world war. She could here Sheffield being bombed in the Blitz and that sent her dad crazy. Her dad who later coughed his guts up in front of her and died on her 21st birthday. Her mother died on her 17th or 18th. She's a tough old cookie. 

Don't make them like they used to do they? Haha

Well, I hope you are right and she has a smooth ride she does pass on. I can't say what happens because I simply do not know. 

 

[Rilles]

Let infinite intelligence guide her. She will be fine. 

[Druid420]

Just now, Rilles said:

Let infinite intelligence guide her. She will be fine. 

Yes exactly, I just want to be sure she is ready to embrace it and does not feel any anxiety about it. I also just think it will be a very good conversation to have, and one that is not had enough or in the right spirit. 

You know, she is close, so she may have some very valuable insight of her own to share too!