[Theory] What causes sex addiction

[Eric Tarpall]

@kieranperez I can talk about whatever I want. And I don't know how you came to the conclusion that I'm a victim. 

[kieranperez]

@Eric Tarpall incels are just playing this role of victim. 

Yeah you’re free to do whatever you want. Your choice. Stop being a victim or do something hard and challenge yourself to get better.

[Shadowraix]

10 hours ago, Eric Tarpall said:

@kieranperez I can talk about whatever I want. And I don't know how you came to the conclusion that I'm a victim. 

It was advice not a forced command. Isnt it funny how people try to shy away from hearing what is being said by talking about how much freedom they have and how they can flaunt going against the advice. 

Edited May 1, 2019 by Shadowraix

[Eric Tarpall]

13 hours ago, Shadowraix said:

It was advice not a forced command. Isnt it funny how people try to shy away from hearing what is being said by talking about how much freedom they have and how they can flaunt going against the advice. 

I didn't ask for advice in this thread. I was just sharing an insight. He made it seem like I was whining.

[Danioover9000]

Good post! I agree about the points you made on sex addiction and I think it's great that someone is talking about it at least!?

I think all users replying to you don't understand that their actually on the wrong because the real issue is not about your topic it's that it's not technically a theory: it's speculation that's unsupported. For example...

'A supposition or a system of ideas intended to explain something, especially one based on general principles independent of the thing to be explained.

"Darwin's theory of evolution"

synonyms:hypothesis, thesis, conjecture,supposition, speculation,postulation, postulate, proposition,premise, surmise, assumption,presumption, presupposition,notion, guess, hunch, feeling,suspicion; more

a set of principles on which the practice of an activity is based.

"a theory of education"

an idea used to account for a situation or justify a course of action.

"my theory would be that the place has been seriously mismanaged"'. Quote from Google.

Notice that your post seems to be just a hunch rather than a strong theory about sex addiction. I'm not attacking you or your post: I'm helping you develop awareness of your ideas about addiction and sex addiction. Because of this, the other users who posted have posted on assumptions of your original posts and the following replies made.

Also, I like that your post contains other issues that seem to correlate to your topic; scarcity of resources, increase in competition and social media addiction e.g a selfie. Feel free to add another issue or correct me if I'm wrong about my list.

I can agree that those issues can effect sex addiction, but I believe that the points you made to support you're 'theory' are assumptions. Scarcity of resources? We're in the 21 century, in the age of information. Increase in competition? Actually this is good! You're improving as you're dating. Perfect men on social media? There's also perfect women that men see on the internet which gives a false sense of expectation when it comes to real interactions with women while dating!

Now I'm going to give my advice to you based on my quick read of your posts. I can't avoid making assumptions about you and your specific problems with this topic so feel free to correct me if I'm wrong:

You're a virgin and are interested in sex but you don't know how to date.

You're a porn addict, regularly materbated to porn and is feeling insecure about dating women.

You were bullied by girls and you feel a deep insecurity to women yet you need them.

You were rejected by your crush and is now worried about reliving the pain of rejection

You were bullied by 'cool boys' a grade or so above, hated/jealous of how they were idolized by girls and now you're older you're worried about being more aggressive to women because of how that makes you a bully.

For point one: journal you're experiences with dating and sex and make a commitment to learning about your sexuality.

For point two: introspect about this addiction and learn as much about it and it's causes.

For point three and five: Shadow work, meditation and/or therapy.

For point four: Feel into the rejection, let it go and continue dating!

There you go! Hope this is really useful for you. Good luck on your journey to self actualize.

[rabbitat]

Another distraction (aka resistance). 

Book: The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

 

 

 

[UDT]

On 4/18/2019 at 5:12 PM, Eric Tarpall said:

I think most males are addicted to sex these days because sex is harder to get than it used to be. It's more scarce so it seems more valuable. In the past you could easily get a wife and get as much sex as you want. And now you're not just competing with the men in your village but also with perfect men that women see on their screens. What are your thoughts on this topic?

I was quite addicted to sex, while being in a long term relationship. 
Looking back it was a lot of trauma from my weird mother and how I grew up that I unloaded. Well best sex ever, but it didnt end well also.
Lesson: You cant have a working relationship with a women, until you didnt come to terms and reflecte upon and understand the relationship to your mother.

thats veeery important!