Craving for women

[luqqzr]

Hey,

most of the time in my life I spend looking for how to attract women. The physical attraction is my biggest issue, everytime I see a woman, mostly if I see their booty, I'm like hypnotized. But really more than other people. I'm addicted to that. After seeing that I'm always sad because I can't have sex with them right now.

I am lucky that I live in a small town and that there's not too much see. In the last few weeks I spent more time in larger cities and it hurt very badly inside, seeing all these beautiful women...

Even if I would have sex with them, I am sure that this wouldn't fix the root of the problem.

 

Furthermore what I feel I'm missing is the feeling of being loved by a woman. I don't think self love can replace this feeling.

All my life I was chasing women, I was even depressed because I couldn't do it. In therapy I stepped my communication skills up and even got into a relationship. Even though it being very toxic, I eventually got to see what real love felt like and I've never been more happy.

It was hard for me to let go until after like the 10th breakup it hurt so freaking bad that I had to break up with her. I was able to let go intrinsically, had no inner resistance anymore and it felt liberating.

Now I don't know what to do. I can't look away if I see a nice booty, why should I, isn't it natural? But at the same time I'm doing it TOO MUCH.

The most important point is to do the inner work, I know. It won't change if I only change the outer world. I was able to have sex with a random girl and it just means nothing to me if no feelings and no deep connection is involved.

But how do I do the inner work properly?!

I already asked myself these questions a few times, but I only found out that I am lacking love (only from women, I don't know why exactly). Why I'm so EXTREMELY addicted to sexy bodies of women, I don't know either.

[JohnnyBravo]

If you cant let it go, there is only one option. One single option- not more than one, only one.

Fulfill your desire.

If you find the bodies of women hypnotising, great. When I worked as a pickup coach one of the biggest sticking points was that guys felt lots of shame and half-in half-out with there sexuality. That was the only reason I would tell my clients to stop porn and wanking temporarily; purely as fuel for the animalistic man in them that desired sex with women and wanted to have fun with them (and those women wanted the same thing).

Generally the difference with men and women on sexual conditioning (the taboo against sex) is:

- Society can successfully brainwash women that sex is bad as an intelctual idea. However many women, even if they believe this mentally, the sex energy flows in their body regardless. Hence why its easy to convince women into sex and get them over hickups about how sex is immorale

- Society is VERY successful at brainwashing men that sex is bad BOTH intelctually, and also in their body. Sex energy rarely flows through a mans body in this day and age in a healthy way; it gets stuck in the lower chakras and doesn't flow whatsoever.

So Im complimenting you because it sounds as if you have not got that problem.

Allow the sexual energy to move in your body, feel free to enjoy the curves of women, and talking to em is easy on this level. Talking to women is QUITE TOUGH when a man has a mixed agenda. That is the only concept I agree with early RSD (I don't like them at all)- that to have a clarity in your intent is massive.

Clarity of intent, a strong intent, a single intent, is what culture robs us of. It is what Leo is trying to insitll in people rightefully through the harping on to get started meditating.

Have single intent to convey sexual interest in women and you'll be questioning why attaining sexual gratification was so hard in the first place.

And also to correct a common myth that married men can easily get more women; well, yes but not for the reasons people think. People think that "oh its because he is pre selected, and women are trying to compete for him" and all that bullshit. No!! It's usually because a married man that has lots of sex is USED TO having sexual energy flowing through him easily.

PLEASE NOTE YOU DO NOT NEED A GIRLFRIEND OR WIFE TO PRACTISE ALLOWING SEXUAL ENERGY TO FLOW. And a brute way of saying that is; just get extra horny and allow the horniness to be comveyd in your intent.

African men and primitive cultures are good at this.

Western culture- which is pretty much all culture now- is horrible at this. Hence the phrase why white men cannot dance is very true. It's that the Western mind has barriers against any kind of expression.

If you can learn to dance- not skilfully as in taking classes- but as in letting the energy flow, women will love this. NOT THE DANCE SKILL! But the expression of ooziness and sensualness. That is why I find bellydancers so hot compared to other women like gymnastics or modern pop song girls- its too rigid and calculated. The bellydancer lets the sex flow...….its turning me on right now as I speak lol.

I got complimented numerous times on my ability to dance. I was a CONFIDENT dancer, not a skilled one. Big difference. Let the energy flow and the moves come by itself. This was my personal go-to. I would dance just for the fun of it, and girls were dancing near me and I could feel wanted to kiss and that's how things evolve. It's cheatcode easy.

That's why pickup need be taught- how to catharsis. How to let things happen. How to let energy flow. And the pickup is a upside down, perverted way to try and get men to get hot girls; to get girls just get your sex energy flowing strong in you and stop holding it back out of some bullshit cultural taboo that it is wrong and sinful to be born with a penis.

[luqqzr]

@JohnnyBravo Thank you, good to know. Now I know how to act when I'm for example at a club dancing and that it's good to feel this sexual energy. I'm just thinking that all these hypnotising booties are distracting me from really living. But I know women are a part of life...

What about being on the streets? Let the sexual energy flow through me and then?Should I try to talk to every woman I find attractive?

Let's say that I am going with a friend, we have a destination, for example going to nature. Should we stop every time when I see a hot woman so I can talk to her? We would never arrive at our destination and my friend would just always have to wait for me.

What about being at home? Letting the sexual energy flow, and then? Masturbate? Use dating apps? Do nothing and just sit there with that energy? You may say that I could go out to approach women, but the city I live in is too small for that. Do I have to drive half an hour or an hour to approach women every time I get horny?

Maybe the best solution would be focusing on finding a girlfriend again to satisfy my high sexual drive?

I would've just hoped that with self discipline or meditation I'd be able to stop this neediness but it's probably my mind's way to escape the fear of picking up women.

[Hellspeed]

Is normal, go and meet some.

[JohnnyBravo]

@luqqzr

Look, sadly you only got two choices.

The first is to 'try and get to the core issue' whilst still having a sex drive but refusing to fully- totally- tap into it the way YOU want to.

The other is to 'try and get to the core issue' whilst having all the sex, porn, dating and women you want.

DONT HOLD BACK!!! Don't make an ego game out refusing to not hold back- that is ego. Only ego is half in/half out.

Believe it or not, there IS a point you will exhaust yourself with this.

Honestly this nofap stuff is bullshit **only to the person who has not first gone on a sexual rampage.** Do it with integrity, respect the woman and make sure she is not just having sex with you whilst compriminsg herself (yes there is a bit of care I am suggesting). Do not have women you feel 'off' about even though the sex is there.

GO FOR IT!!! You will not regret it one bit.

You WILL regret postponing this phase of your life.

Exhaust this cycle to move to the next level. This stuff will always be secretly in the back of your mind; until it is not. Exhaust yourself.
 

I will not ping-pong with you or debate you or anyone else on this for today because I will just robotically be saying the same thing. Do sex with a level of awareness, but beyond that, stop justifying to refuse it.

Culture has tabooed sex.

Man deprived of sex becomes dangerous to other men and other women and children.

Man who DENIES HIMSELF sex will turn the danger in on himself......God help your fate deem you don't go there.

 

So enough of the computer, go out and dance, or enjoy Said with best of intent

[JohnnyBravo]

Also cause you dared to ask, and yes, I dare to rebuttle! And I stand by this big time!....

Try masturbating with awareness, 12 times in a day.

-With awareness- (but don't complicate this).

This is actually quite a healing experience. It sounds so tacky so who would dare try it? Isnt that just making my sex problem worse? Actually for a short while you are not- because you are teaching yourself it is ok and healthy to let the sex energy flow.

Once it flows in that way, you can get comfortable flowing it in many different means.

Once you can flow sexual energy, then nofap because a walk in the park because you are not SUPPRESSING anything, you are redirecting it.

Nofap is a violent, aggressive, cold activity the way it is described on most forums. Nothing but a host of shame and guilt and further guilt for men not having the willpower to refuse to look at a woman.

If men were encouraged and allowed their sexuality, porn would have a place still, but a very different one with very different intent.

There have been porn statues and paintings 1000s of years back. Sometimes in religious context. The intent is different to porn today because porn today, and the internet, to me is about a way to keep suppressing an individual and refusing to meet women.

Rant over! Im off to dance

[Emerald]

6 hours ago, luqqzr said:

Hey,

most of the time in my life I spend looking for how to attract women. The physical attraction is my biggest issue, everytime I see a woman, mostly if I see their booty, I'm like hypnotized. But really more than other people. I'm addicted to that. After seeing that I'm always sad because I can't have sex with them right now.

I am lucky that I live in a small town and that there's not too much see. In the last few weeks I spent more time in larger cities and it hurt very badly inside, seeing all these beautiful women...

Even if I would have sex with them, I am sure that this wouldn't fix the root of the problem.

 

Furthermore what I feel I'm missing is the feeling of being loved by a woman. I don't think self love can replace this feeling.

All my life I was chasing women, I was even depressed because I couldn't do it. In therapy I stepped my communication skills up and even got into a relationship. Even though it being very toxic, I eventually got to see what real love felt like and I've never been more happy.

It was hard for me to let go until after like the 10th breakup it hurt so freaking bad that I had to break up with her. I was able to let go intrinsically, had no inner resistance anymore and it felt liberating.

Now I don't know what to do. I can't look away if I see a nice booty, why should I, isn't it natural? But at the same time I'm doing it TOO MUCH.

The most important point is to do the inner work, I know. It won't change if I only change the outer world. I was able to have sex with a random girl and it just means nothing to me if no feelings and no deep connection is involved.

But how do I do the inner work properly?!

I already asked myself these questions a few times, but I only found out that I am lacking love (only from women, I don't know why exactly). Why I'm so EXTREMELY addicted to sexy bodies of women, I don't know either.

Look into Anima integration. 

If you feel like your desire for women is out of measure compared to what is normal, it could be because you're disconnected from your Anima. And your desires to be with women and to have sex with them and the pain you feel as a result, is really a reflection of Anima disintegration and the pain you feel from having that internal split. Then, you imagine that communion with women in the form of sex will help you get that sense of integration and communion with your feminine side (the Anima)... and it may help but it will only help but so much unless you're working toward integrating your own Anima. 

Now, there is a degree to which this is just a natural biological drive. So, you will still feel attracted to women and have these thoughts and feelings afterward. But it will take away the obsessional nature with it and give you a sense of detachment from outcome with women... which will actually help you attract more women and have better exclusive relationships as well.

Here's a video that I made on the topic...

 

[JohnnyBravo]

@Emerald

Im attracted to women that have a more masculine edge to them. Not masculine behaviour or traits but energy.

What does that mean? (Sincere asking)

[Emerald]

16 minutes ago, JohnnyBravo said:

@Emerald

Im attracted to women that have a more masculine edge to them. Not masculine behaviour or traits but energy.

What does that mean? (Sincere asking)

Your feminine side is attracted to their masculine side.

I'll write more on this later, but that's it in a nutshell). It shows that you have a desire to connect with your Anima and integrate your feminine side. 

[GromHellScream]

11 hours ago, luqqzr said:

 Why I'm so EXTREMELY addicted to sexy bodies of women, I don't know either.

We are programmed to impregnate the the most suitable women possible. We can't help that they are usually young with fit bodies ;o 

[XYZ]

11 hours ago, luqqzr said:

if I see their booty, I'm like hypnotized

 

[Aeris]

find one that is suitable to your sex & spiritual needs.

the rest is all egoic programmation from monkey insecurity kind of thought.

I cannot put my hands and modulate on this concept, meditate on the idea of addiction, it's probably more rooted there.

the desire for woman is real in each man, as it is in each womans, though, there is a difference between a toxic need like a spoiled children, or a let's see reality unfold and let me follow passion.

that is a better attitude

I find in my own self experience. when I started having no need for woman and addictive sex ( needyness ), that's when I started dating and caught very quickly girls ( and suited for my kind of mindset ), and now I m with a real perfect match, we will see how far it goes

nothing that I would have imagined before shifting my mind

Edited April 16, 2019 by Aeris

[GromHellScream]

3 hours ago, JohnnyBravo said:

@Emerald

Im attracted to women that have a more masculine edge to them. Not masculine behaviour or traits but energy.

What does that mean? (Sincere asking)

Stage orange says : YOUR GAY

[Aeris]

once I masturbated while touching my butt part ( not with a finger, more like with a woman masturbating herself ) Because biologicly, mans are "pre" before woman in the shaping form. ( I suppose )

it was so awesome that I understanded how female could enjoy sex just as much as me, if not more !

I m jealous now, woman orgasm seams so infinite. Is there even an end to their gasping, they seams to enjoy it like 4x more than myself ( and though I do enjoy )

most woman are as addicted to sex as you're, many of my friends got connected with really big nymphomaniac, and they were themself sort of addicted to sex.

best way to beat addiction is see it's end, with mind or body, mind is always a better choice though.

[luqqzr]

Thank you all for your answers. I know that I still want to get more experience with women, I just didn't have enough until now because I've had too much anxiety in the past and still have it a little bit but not in a degree that it will hold me back anymore.

I just finished watching Leo's "overcoming addictions" video and I'm pretty sure that I'm addicted to women. I think by doing the techniques explained in the video I can overcome this issue and all the other addictions that I have. Sure I still want to be attracted to women but not as extremely anymore.

In all my teenage years through puberty I was heavily addicted to skin picking (on my face). With being present, conscious and most importantly mindful, I was able to see how my hand was going to my face unconsciously. That was my breaking point. After that I was hearing this voice in my head saying "Just pick this one hair, it doesn't matter, after that I can stop".

From there on it was important to stay conscious, watch the hand go up and put it back down, watch the thoughts, seeing these coming from the ego and let the thoughts go.

And most importantly I had to feel this feeling, this heavy energy flowing through my body while resisting the skin picking. This was the feeling of the ego being hurt, sometimes it was such a hard feeling that even tears came up. Strength and will was needed there.

So yeah I'm going to try this stuff for all my addictions and see how it goes

[Leo Gura]

On 4/15/2019 at 11:58 PM, luqqzr said:

Why I'm so EXTREMELY addicted to sexy bodies of women, I don't know either.

You and every other man on the planet. LOL

[oMarcos]

karma to waste

[Eric Tarpall]

Typical sex addiction. You need to pull away from women and immerse yourself into non sexual hobbies.

[Aeris]

On 23/04/2019 at 4:28 AM, Leo Gura said:

You and every other man on the planet. LOL

Don't stole my style, I pushed effort to look yellowish