How to let go.

[Harikrishnan]

How to let go of neediness for love, neediness to have sex? 

[JohnnyBravo]

You cant.

That's the simple truth.

Connect with yourself first, then connect with others. The need to give and receive love is why we are here. Don't just dismiss it out of some virtue.

[Dumb Enlightened]

21 hours ago, Harikrishnan said:

How to let go of neediness for love, neediness to have sex? 

Look what this neediness is, it's a concept of your mind, if you are not able or don't want to go to this direction, just get the love and sex that you want,

either choice is alright

[SFRL]

I don't think you totally can. 

But you can choose to focus on your purpose/goals/passions. 

When you have a hobby/career that you are very passionate about putting work into that can be just as satisfactory as sex. Sometimes maybe even more. 

Let's say you win a martial arts tournament. No way that sex is more satisfactory then that. 

Then sacrificing sex for what you need to do to win that tournament is something you will be happy to do. 

You can swap out martial arts for any passion that personally fits you. 

[universe]

See where this neediness comes from.

There are 3 major factors that make you needy: Craving for safety, craving for perfection and craving for validation.

Really see where these come from and feel them in your body when they arise. Releasing is a technique to free yourself from these cravings. If you are interested in this, read "The Sedona Method". In this book there are serveral ways on how to do it.

Neediness makes you anxious. Because you fear that you wont get what you need.

When you interact with women these fears/needs will block you.

Without these you will hook up with women like crazy! This is so crucial for dating!

And be careful for the craving of not wanting to appear needy. It makes you needy as fuck.

 

Doing meditation and consciousness work will naturally get you better at this. As you become mindful of the underlying mechanism that produces neediness (thoughts & emotions arising in the moment). And also by practising to let go.

Watch Leos video on Love to get a better understanding of where to find love https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XdbcsRxDQvM

 

Edited April 15, 2019 by universe