I'm 30f, single, never been married and no kids. I admit I'm feeling the pressure to settle down due to age. I have an OKCupid account, and I've noticed that by the time guys in my area hit 36, they're either divorced with the extra responsibilities of young children/toddlers and a baby mama (I don't think I want kids), or "way out there" (very strange, or to put it nicely maybe, "not my type").  Fact is, I never cared to find a partner until I met a guy at 24 who became my ex-fiance when I was 28. While it didn't work out and we broke up, I found that I really enjoyed sharing my life with a partner/SO. I realized I'd really like to find that kind of relationship again, but I'm feeling like my window of opportunity is slowly closing (the dating pool of good quality relationships/compatible men is shrinking). The sad part is, I'm in a transitory phase in my life. I recently lost my house, car, beloved pets (could no longer care for them), job, went bankrupt, and gained a significant amount of weight (stress eating). I'm working on improving all these things at the moment, but that does mean I may have to move far away to different cities, likely more than once within the next 10 years, to obtain opportunities/move forward. I'm wondering how to best proceed with my love life. Looking down the trajectory of my life from here, I'm genuinely worried at the real possibility that I'll end up alone despite not wanting that.
I'm also fairly sapiosexual in that I need a mental connection to feel attraction and I have no idea where to find intelligent men.