Ok, here goes...   Leo’s recent posts about Pickup has got me really confused. He suggests to do pickup, but has a whole video about why pickup is terrible for spirituality and self actualisation. I can see straight through the pickup theory, it’s all about manipulation of women to get your own selfish needs met. I understand why men do this, because obviously having sex is awesome. But I can’t help but feel bad for these girls and feel awful about myself. It’s not in my DNA to manipulate people, in fact I fucking hate it. I can’t do it without feeling bad. I was sucked into looking at pickup theory because yeah, deep down I do want to get laid. However, I do want to connect with a girl properly without manipulating or controlling her. I don’t want to be selfish with this stuff. I want to like a girl for who she actually is rather than liking her for her vagina.    And I understand the whole ‘looking better and being more attractive and being more masculine’, but can’t I do this without pickup?   So my question is, can I skip this part of my life??? Or do I have to experience this before moving on to stage green? Can I just skip stage orange? To be honest I don’t know what stage I’m even in at the moment.   Can anyone help?