I don't want to live anymore

[abrakamowse]

@BjarkeT  It's Ok... no problem. I understand.

[Commodent]

This is probably the worst place to get emotional support lol.. Hang on in there brother, get off the Internet and give yourself a break

[theking00]

When I go to nature I feel happy. I don't know why that happens .

[Nahm]

@theking00 Have you read The Celestine Prophecy? (Odd name I know)  How long has it been since you’ve been in nature? Get some time in natural and read that. Give this a look too, try it...http://thework.com/en/do-work.   Have you read The Six Pillars? How’s the sleep schedule , fitness, diet? And what is the content of the troublesome thoughts?

[Good-boy]

Don't be a pussy man, go bang some hot chicks in the nature.?

[theking00]

19 minutes ago, Good-boy said:

Don't be a pussy man, go bang some hot chicks in the nature.?

I used to bang some escorts before lol but I am tired of escorts , I want to have a girlfriend. 

[Good-boy]

4 minutes ago, theking00 said:

I used to bang some escorts before lol but I am tired of escorts , I want to have a girlfriend. 

Wtf man, Pussy is a pussy. Gf or escort is the same.

[theking00]

@Nahm my diet is bad I eat a lot of meat and diary but I only drink water most of the time. Can a bad diet affect my mind? 

Edited March 17, 2019 by theking00

[7Masterkeys]

My life isn't half bad however I did loose the desire to be alive, not so far to kill myself, but just a desire to not live. 
Then I did LSD in a rainforest and EVERYTHING CHANGED. There is no escape, we are here to grow.

My advice to you is to responsibly try out a psychedelic medicine.

[Tony 845]

@theking00 gotta ask yourself who’s the “me” that nothing good happens to??

[Good-boy]

 

[Nahm]

@theking00 Yes. Diet is a huge factor for some people.

[Skanzi]

I'll give you another perspective. One that's in a way categorically different than what I see most comments be about here. But you do have to pay close attention, because it's easily misunderstood. This is a dangerous one I'm posting here if not properly understood, and I'm taking a great gamble by posting this. this is why I strongly urge you to read through the entire article before making up your mind about what my post is about.

People try to frame the situation in a positive light, or they try to encourage you to live. My feeling is that this is in many cases this is simply out of fear of death.

You can look at this situation from a different angle. Your title states you don't want to live anymore. Most people here want to prevent you in some way or another from having a self-destructive or suicidal attitude. I'm not that kind of person. 

Why would you even begin to post that you don't want to live anymore? Why even state it? If you don't want to live anymore, then simply commit suicide. Why would you start a topic about it? This is not because I want you to commit suicide, but I'm just arguing from your perspective.

It's clear to me that you post this so you can see if there are any reasons you can find to keep on living. You want to find encouragement. At least be honest about that. Don't create such a post about it where you constantly give a counterargument or negative reply to anything any other person suggests here. If you are really so certain that you don't want to live anymore, then why are you still alive? You would already have taken your own life by now

Start by being honest with yourself and others. Instead of pretending to be this person that doesn't want to live anymore, admit that you do want to keep on living and to have reasons for it —or certainly at least a part of you does. Reframe the topic and reframe the intention of it. Instead of taking on this life-negative approach, be honest with yourself and frame it like this: "Part of me feels like I don't want to live anymore, but another part of me definitely does want to keep on living. Can you guys help me to find reasons or reframes that would give me encouragement to keep on living?".

Start with this honesty, at least.

But even if you have all the reasons that have ever and will ever exist to keep on living, this wouldn't be enough. It would never be enough, because it would merely a fight against the part of you that doesn't want to keep living. It doesn't matter if you believe in reincarnation and therefore suicide would be useless, or that you would be condemned to hell if you would commit suicide, or that life has potential to be full of joy... It doesn't matter what you believe here. If those reframes and "positive thoughts" are simply repression against your desire for annihilation, the shadow of it will always keep on following you, no matter what you do or believe in.

If you are really sincere about your inquiry for truth, admit that no thought has a preference over the other. This means even that the survival drive has no preference over the suicidal urge. None at all. Suicide is just as relevant as life is. To choose suicide is just as a feasible, relevant idea as the idea to keep on living is. Consider it. Ponder upon it. Inquire about it with absolute sincerity. See how everything that is considered "Negative" or "bad" can be argued in such a way that it can become something constructive or positive. Just try it, even if it doesn't feel real to you and if it only appears only theorethical. Start with "theorethically", if nothing else.

Here is the interesting part about it: If you have absolutely no resentment anymore against the idea of committing suicide, it will lose its appeal. To be wanting to commit suicide, means that you want to escape life, that you want to escape suffering. If you are absolutely okay with death, you will be absolutely okay with life also. Because you are allowing yourself to step out of it at any moment, there is absolutely no problem, absolutely no struggle. Then anything that accompanies life, will simply be a fun game to you, like the way a child plays a game. Even physical discomfort and pain will be of no worry to you. Because for all you know, you could be gone tomorrow.  you have become okay with it, at least. Then why bother about discomfort? Life becomes so light, so worryless. Now, life will simply be an amazing game, an amazing play in which everything appears as a sort of holy perfection.

What I've described above is the realization I had about half a year ago on the topic of suicide. I struggled with the same kind of resentment I had towards the idea of suicide (which I feel like it's appropriate to assume OP must be having otherwise this topic wouldn't be here). Even though I wasn't actively depressed or suicidal, I still felt a certain fear and dread about the idea that one day it could happen that I would take my life, until I suddenly realized that it ultimately matters if I do or don't commit suicide. At that point, I suddenly felt very peaceful and life became suddenly so wonderful. It felt like such a big burden had been lifted off my shoulders. I took notes at that point to describe my realization. I still have it on my phone. I'll type it out:

"Relaxed. My problems appear no longer as something serious. Primarily, there's simply worrylessness and playfulness towardws everything. Everything appears as a silly, funny game.

Suffering is nothing more than a consequence of misunderstandings. Without misunderstandings, here are no worries. Without worries any form of physical and emotional pain is simply a light-hearted game to you, just like a child plays a game. Suffering is only there if you don't see the situation for what it truly is" (end quote)

I'll leave it with this.

Edited March 17, 2019 by Skanzi

[Musica]

If you can, go travel to a poor country or to latin America, you are gonna meet so many friendly people and you will see other perspectives in life !  And yeah don’t worry we all have negative thoughts sometime. Just let those thoughts go, don’t identify with them.? 

[Forestluv]

34 minutes ago, Musica said:

If you can, go travel to a poor country or to latin America, you are gonna meet so many friendly people and you will see other perspectives in life ! 

This is so true. I lived with local families in Honduras and Guatemala for a month - immersed in their culture and learning their language. Beautiful people with other perspectives of life. I highly recommend it.

[Zizzero]

On 17.3.2019 at 0:37 PM, Skanzi said:

I'll give you another perspective. One that's in a way categorically different than what I see most comments be about here. But you do have to pay close attention, because it's easily misunderstood. This is a dangerous one I'm posting here if not properly understood, and I'm taking a great gamble by posting this. this is why I strongly urge you to read through the entire article before making up your mind about what my post is about.

People try to frame the situation in a positive light, or they try to encourage you to live. My feeling is that this is in many cases this is simply out of fear of death.

You can look at this situation from a different angle. Your title states you don't want to live anymore. Most people here want to prevent you in some way or another from having a self-destructive or suicidal attitude. I'm not that kind of person. 

Why would you even begin to post that you don't want to live anymore? Why even state it? If you don't want to live anymore, then simply commit suicide. Why would you start a topic about it? This is not because I want you to commit suicide, but I'm just arguing from your perspective.

It's clear to me that you post this so you can see if there are any reasons you can find to keep on living. You want to find encouragement. At least be honest about that. Don't create such a post about it where you constantly give a counterargument or negative reply to anything any other person suggests here. If you are really so certain that you don't want to live anymore, then why are you still alive? You would already have taken your own life by now

Start by being honest with yourself and others. Instead of pretending to be this person that doesn't want to live anymore, admit that you do want to keep on living and to have reasons for it —or certainly at least a part of you does. Reframe the topic and reframe the intention of it. Instead of taking on this life-negative approach, be honest with yourself and frame it like this: "Part of me feels like I don't want to live anymore, but another part of me definitely does want to keep on living. Can you guys help me to find reasons or reframes that would give me encouragement to keep on living?".

Start with this honesty, at least.

But even if you have all the reasons that have ever and will ever exist to keep on living, this wouldn't be enough. It would never be enough, because it would merely a fight against the part of you that doesn't want to keep living. It doesn't matter if you believe in reincarnation and therefore suicide would be useless, or that you would be condemned to hell if you would commit suicide, or that life has potential to be full of joy... It doesn't matter what you believe here. If those reframes and "positive thoughts" are simply repression against your desire for annihilation, the shadow of it will always keep on following you, no matter what you do or believe in.

If you are really sincere about your inquiry for truth, admit that no thought has a preference over the other. This means even that the survival drive has no preference over the suicidal urge. None at all. Suicide is just as relevant as life is. To choose suicide is just as a feasible, relevant idea as the idea to keep on living is. Consider it. Ponder upon it. Inquire about it with absolute sincerity. See how everything that is considered "Negative" or "bad" can be argued in such a way that it can become something constructive or positive. Just try it, even if it doesn't feel real to you and if it only appears only theorethical. Start with "theorethically", if nothing else.

Here is the interesting part about it: If you have absolutely no resentment anymore against the idea of committing suicide, it will lose its appeal. To be wanting to commit suicide, means that you want to escape life, that you want to escape suffering. If you are absolutely okay with death, you will be absolutely okay with life also. Because you are allowing yourself to step out of it at any moment, there is absolutely no problem, absolutely no struggle. Then anything that accompanies life, will simply be a fun game to you, like the way a child plays a game. Even physical discomfort and pain will be of no worry to you. Because for all you know, you could be gone tomorrow.  you have become okay with it, at least. Then why bother about discomfort? Life becomes so light, so worryless. Now, life will simply be an amazing game, an amazing play in which everything appears as a sort of holy perfection.

What I've described above is the realization I had about half a year ago on the topic of suicide. I struggled with the same kind of resentment I had towards the idea of suicide (which I feel like it's appropriate to assume OP must be having otherwise this topic wouldn't be here). Even though I wasn't actively depressed or suicidal, I still felt a certain fear and dread about the idea that one day it could happen that I would take my life, until I suddenly realized that it ultimately matters if I do or don't commit suicide. At that point, I suddenly felt very peaceful and life became suddenly so wonderful. It felt like such a big burden had been lifted off my shoulders. I took notes at that point to describe my realization. I still have it on my phone. I'll type it out:

"Relaxed. My problems appear no longer as something serious. Primarily, there's simply worrylessness and playfulness towardws everything. Everything appears as a silly, funny game.

Suffering is nothing more than a consequence of misunderstandings. Without misunderstandings, here are no worries. Without worries any form of physical and emotional pain is simply a light-hearted game to you, just like a child plays a game. Suffering is only there if you don't see the situation for what it truly is" (end quote)

I'll leave it with this.

Sorry for commenting on a month-old post, but I just wanted to say that what you wrote here is brilliant.

[Musica]

@Serotoninluv  ?Nice! I’m from Guatemala, I was living in Amsterdam for 8 years and then I started to feel a bit depressed and I felt I was not being myself anymore. So,I decided to leave.  And I don’t regret, Guatemala has helped me a lot; after a year of living here, I’m feeling again happy and myself! ? people are so friendly and open here in Antigua Guatemala!?

[Forestluv]

16 hours ago, Musica said:

@Serotoninluv  ?Nice! I’m from Guatemala, I was living in Amsterdam for 8 years and then I started to feel a bit depressed and I felt I was not being myself anymore. So,I decided to leave.  And I don’t regret, Guatemala has helped me a lot; after a year of living here, I’m feeling again happy and myself! ? people are so friendly and open here in Antigua Guatemala!?

I spent a week in Antigua. I love your center square. It was sooo beautiful. The trees, the water fountains, the people, the colorful clothing. A little piece of heaven. 

[Javfly33]

On 15/3/2019 at 10:00 PM, theking00 said:

I care what other people think about me. How can I stop it. 

Tell me, what can of things you do try to solve that? (consciousness practices, medications...etc)

Or you are just trying to solve it through thought?

[Javfly33]

On 16/3/2019 at 10:19 PM, abrakamowse said:

That way in my experience creates another self that is confident. What I wanted to do is not to create another belief systems that is a "confident person"... I think is more powerful to be aware of what you are. What you really are is much more confident than anything. And it doesn't need a "personality that is confident" or create a belief of confidence or thinking you are a "confident person".

It's confident because that's what awareness is. It knows it IS.

 

 

The website you posted says "Self-confidence is believing or being sure about ourselves in some way."

In my opinion is not the same "believing that you are" self confident than BEING self confident.

 

 

But that's my opinion and experience...

That is SO TRUE.

With that approach, you are in for life of constantly maintaining a belief. Not only I think that is non-viable in the long term, but rather I think it sad because your should be confident just because [YOU... ARE!!!]. Being confident is not about believing what you are saying is true, good, cool, or the right thing. Is seeing that just because of the fact that you are alive and YOU are the one who is playing your life, just because whatever is being born within you at any moment, how could that be less valuable than other´s people opinion or agenda?