Social anxiety solved

[Eric Tarpall]

If people make you nervous that's because you're trying to impress them. Impressing people is a social thing. So basically you're too social. You care too much about what other people think and feel. The solution is to start caring more about your own thoughts and feelings. Stop trying to impress people. And stop trying to make people happy.

[BjarkeT]

I don't have social anxiety because i try to impress people in fact i don't try to impress people but I am afraid of people because of past bad experiences. The real key to solve social anxiety is to face your fears and fully feel it a 100 times until you feel comfortable with it.

Its true that you can have social anxiety for a lot of other reasons but in my case it isn't because of trying to impress people but you can be right as a case for other people.

Edited March 14, 2019 by BjarkeT

[Shadowraix]

  On 3/14/2019 at 10:46 PM, BjarkeT said:

The real key to solve social anxiety is to face your fears and fully feel it a 100 times until you feel comfortable with it.

Comfort is very interesting. I had a slump freshman year of high school and since being sad was my default state, I was scared of when I felt genuinely happy it was very uncomfortable to be happy.

[improvementedward]

  On 3/14/2019 at 10:46 PM, BjarkeT said:

The real key to solve social anxiety is to face your fears and fully feel it a 100 times until you feel comfortable with it.

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I 100% agree with this. It's one thing to recognize that you have social anxiety because you care too much about what other people think, and to see that it's not a successful mindset. It's a completely different thing to actually internalize new beliefs around social anxiety, and the only way to solve that is to get the reps in.

[GromHellScream]

For me the key was realizing that we are all insane. And I wasn't about to allow myself to feel insecure from about a crazy persons thought.

[Shadowraix]

  On 3/15/2019 at 2:17 AM, GromHellScream said:

For me the key was realizing that we are all insane. And I wasn't about to allow myself to feel insecure from about a crazy persons thought.

Interesting outlook when all you've done is played a label game. That won't hold up for long when all your labels come crashing down.

[Good-boy]

  On 3/14/2019 at 6:36 PM, Eric Tarpall said:

If people make you nervous that's because you're trying to impress them. Impressing people is a social thing. So basically you're too social. You care too much about what other people think and feel. The solution is to start caring more about your own thoughts and feelings. Stop trying to impress people. And stop trying to make people happy.

Good job.. now solve the biggest mystery of reality. ?

[Commodent]

I would say the key to solve social anxiety is not to spend more time being social but less, and that includes social media like this forum. Lack of solitude can be incredibly anxiety-inducing. Also, facing it "head on" can very quickly exasperate the problem, because you essentially end up re-traumatizing yourself. Another thing, stop trying to "solve" your emotions, you're not getting anywhere. By overfocusing on the problem you're actually making it worse, as by focusing on it you strengthen its neural pathways which in turn makes the anxiety etc. more accessible. So you can quite literally think yourself into mental illness.

Spend some good time in solitude, be kind to yourself and after some time you will find yourself having "forgotten" the social anxiety. It really doesn't occur to you to become socially anxious, because you've given it so little attention. Listen to your emotions and be more social when you feel ready, don't gamble with your mental health and force yourself to be social.