ok to self reflect?

[cetus]

24 minutes ago, Nahm said:

If you’ve been eating candy bars, and you want to eat bananas - you can just eat bananas. You don’t need to “resolve” the candy bars, or “fix” anything.

@Nahm

[Charlotte]

25 minutes ago, Nahm said:

If you’ve been eating candy bars, and you want to eat bananas - you can just eat bananas. You don’t need to “resolve” the candy bars, or “fix” anything. You might experience withdrawal from sugar, but you don’t need to “resolve” candy bars & bananas or sugar. You might experience emotions about withdrawal, but you dont need to do anything with the emotions, candy bars, sugar or bananas. You might experience thoughts about emotions, but you don’t need to do anything, about anything. 

This is frigging ace ??❤️

[WelcometoReality]

1 hour ago, SoonHei said:

@WelcometoReality yes brother. Thoughts alone i can handle.. it's rather the karmic consequences of certain actions which were taken that I am worried about

 

Like being tied to a tree and seeing the forrest fire approaching...  the Thought that the fire is coming to be and will likely burn me... Is a thought but it's likely the case and "true"

So here there is nothing but its acceptance and surrender to the truth.

Become noone, truly.

Effortless becoming.

I've been the master of worry and anxiety so I know the feeling. Your actions might cause certain outcomes but what will the fruit of you worrying about it be?

Try to untie yourself or enjoy the grand view of the forest fire. The thought that it will burn you will only cause you more suffering.

[Telepresent]

@WelcometoReality ok, cool, thanks for the clarification. 

I figured that was probably the case but, as someone who has also fought with those issues, wanted to make sure they weren't treated lightly. I distinctly remember how opposite-of-helpful suggestions like "just stop worrying so much" were, & reacted to a perceived similarity in your comment. Apologies if I misconstrued and / or came across as aggressive (but I won't apologise for being protective!) ☺

[Skanzi]

What do you mean with being a "shitty" person? Because you are not fair, or a liar, or cowardice, or whatever...?

Why do you think you're a shitty person? You've already taken it for granted. What you're trying to accept now is your own idea of that you are a shitty person. You can accept the fact that you tend to judge yourself as a shitty person, but first look behind the label that you have imposed upon yourself.

Personally, I haven't met a shitty person; only people who are confused. Whether they do "bad" things or believe themselves to be "bad" or "unworthy" does not matter. I don't define "shittyness" by a person's actions. All I see is simply confused people, not "bad" or "shitty" people. I have never truly understood how people can regard themselves with so little self-worth. I simply don't believe the worthless person exists. I refuse to. You are all full of magnificence in my eyes. I can not look at a person and not feel a sense great awe for just the... the boundless perfection and enormity of this person's essence. I can only feel a great reverence, for whomsoever it is. I don't feel any distinction in our value. At least not as I'm typing right now.

Edited March 11, 2019 by Skanzi

[WelcometoReality]

2 minutes ago, Telepresent said:

@WelcometoReality ok, cool, thanks for the clarification. 

I figured that was probably the case but, as someone who has also fought with those issues, wanted to make sure they weren't treated lightly. I distinctly remember how opposite-of-helpful suggestions like "just stop worrying so much" were, & reacted to a perceived similarity in your comment. Apologies if I misconstrued and / or came across as aggressive (but I won't apologise for being protective!) ☺

I can see that my comment could be interpreted in such a way so thank you for making me clarify it. No apologies needed you did not come across as aggressive at all. 

[Telepresent]

@WelcometoReality ☺?

[Truth Addict]

@SoonHei

The reason why you're asking this question is because you think (believe) that you don't know the answer.

You think that being this is good and being that is bad. But who said that? That’s where you want to start.

After that, you'll become at peace with whatever you are, and change will become effortless.

Surrender.

[SoonHei]

@Nahm thank you like always. your words strike as lightning deep into me

16 hours ago, WelcometoReality said:

Try to untie yourself or enjoy the grand view of the forest fire. The thought that it will burn you will only cause you more suffering.

indeed. the way it happens in my case is

being identified as the person and worrying. just telling myself and feeling it out that i am not that and using past confirmations to address and confirm that it is not just an idea but i am truly not the person. then detachment occurs. and there is a bit of ease...

 

i was about to write that I kind of feel sorry for the character, being in that predicament.... but then realized who feels sorry but the character itself

 

16 hours ago, Skanzi said:

Why do you think you're a shitty person? You've already taken it for granted. What you're trying to accept now is your own idea of that you are a shitty person. You can accept the fact that you tend to judge yourself as a shitty person, but first look behind the label that you have imposed upon yourself.

@Skanzi yes. i agree with you. it's labeling myself first, and then furthering it by trying to "accept" it . kinda building your own story there so to speak

 

but yeah. shitty/mean/self-ish person... relatively speaking.. like, i was asked by a friend to be mindful about something which i did not end up doing... 

but as i see thru these habbits. the energy in them tends to ease

i like that video by Leo... "awareness alone is curative" - very much the case

54 minutes ago, Truth Addict said:

Surrender.

@Truth Addict and detach. the only "way" <3

 

[WelcometoReality]

15 hours ago, SoonHei said:

indeed. the way it happens in my case is

being identified as the person and worrying. just telling myself and feeling it out that i am not that and using past confirmations to address and confirm that it is not just an idea but i am truly not the person. then detachment occurs. and there is a bit of ease...

 

i was about to write that I kind of feel sorry for the character, being in that predicament.... but then realized who feels sorry but the character itself

Sure you can keep transcending the worry like that but it will keep coming up. Another way is to investigate worry. What is it and how do you THINK it is helping you? Is it really helping you?

Have you ever been worried about something and the later realized that why was I worried? This was easy, nothing happened like I worried it would happen.