Can't Love myself?

[SageModeAustin]

Long story short: I got surgery as a teenager and fucked up my face. Ever since then I lost all confidence and can't love myself and have serious self-esteem issues. I've been doing the Six Pillars of Self Esteem exercises and they are fucking bruutal. Either way I just feel like I'm not enough and Nathaniel Branden would say to this "accept feeling like your not enough." To which I am trying to, but Idk. Is this really as good as it gets? It is, isn't it

[Salvijus]

Your issue is not self-esteem but iferiority complex.

You need to work on your values. What is important to you? To be better then others?

If everyone looked the same way you'd feel just fine. Am I wrong?

Edited February 24, 2019 by Salvijus

[Nahm]

This shoe will never fit, because your experience is paramount. If you ‘place’ other people’s experience of you, as the primary focus, that which is You can not condone it, can not ‘go there’, because it is simply not True - it’s just overthinking against the Self. Your life is not an accident. You are you, this can not be confirmed or validated or justified, because You are.

Your ‘imperfections’ are precisely what makes you perfect. It is an inexplicable miracle, being you. I can’t explain the first thing about it. It’s impossible.

Yet, you are. 

How you think you are seen, is actually how you are seeing yourself. 

Loving What Is (Byron Katie) goes perfectly with The Six Pillars. Check it out. 

You can change actions, and change habits, etc, etc, but don’t hold desire to change who you are, that’s impossible. Instead, look to discover who you are - the impossibility of that will fulfill you in the most impossible ways. 

[SageModeAustin]

@Nahm Thankyou.

[SageModeAustin]

@Salvijus I think you're right.

[Nahm]

@SageModeAustin In acceptance, which is love, there can be a life of “Leapin & hoppin”.’.