GF getting back with her narcissistic Ex

[LaucherJunge]

@bejapuskas It was clinginess when I still wanted something that she didn't. But she said multiple times that she loves me and want out heart connection, of course based on a friendship, which is what I also feel like the right thing at the moment, friendship to start reconnecting our hearts, I really don't need to be physically with her, to love her and to enjoy our relationship of whichever nature, if our hearts are both ready we will get together if not they won't but we will still be loving friends and I am completely fine with this.      @Toby of course it does, this is exactly what your heart is here for to truly know what your soul desires and what it doesen't desire and if there is a one sided thing involved all I can say is, there is no better lesson in life than such relationships.

[LaucherJunge]

@Consept You are a little overboard with this interpretation, in my opinion most of the advice in here was pretty helpful and the ego part I was talking about was referring to a few comments. The reality of the situation is that you don't really have the insight into our connection. As I said I am not in those dreams anymore I was in a few days ago. I am in the heart now and I know that she was in her heart all along, because that is what women are good at, of course there are exceptions. Anyway I am really happy now with the situation as it is and don't feel like a need a relationship at the moment, first I kinda need to cool down from all this.

[bejapuskas]

@LaucherJunge  Don't be disappointed if this honeymoon phase of your friendship suddenly ends, don't bullshit yourself  It feels like there is nothing more you can get from this post, you are just dodging the answers. Keep in mind, that if she left you as a partner, she could as well leave you as a friend, there are many people, that could benefit you more than this girl, there is nothing special about her. 

[Forestluv]

Relationships can have complex dynamics. They can be a mixture of unhealthy aspects and beautiful magic. Sometimes one has to ask themself if they are willing to continue playing the dynamics game they are in to keep it going. 

[now is forever]

once i realized that every relationship is intimate in the sense that it is only between two people always, even if there are three or four in a family/group/room we can give advice but what really is, is always between only these two people. so even if it might have unhealthy aspects it might be their challenge to resolve them in what way ever, but it’s their dynamic.

@LaucherJunge just stay aware of your feelings and find out what’s healthy for you!

[hundreth]

4 hours ago, LaucherJunge said:

@bejapuskas It was clinginess when I still wanted something that she didn't. But she said multiple times that she loves me and want out heart connection, of course based on a friendship, which is what I also feel like the right thing at the moment, friendship to start reconnecting our hearts, I really don't need to be physically with her, to love her and to enjoy our relationship of whichever nature, if our hearts are both ready we will get together if not they won't but we will still be loving friends and I am completely fine with this.      @Toby of course it does, this is exactly what your heart is here for to truly know what your soul desires and what it doesen't desire and if there is a one sided thing involved all I can say is, there is no better lesson in life than such relationships.

Damn, I fell for this so many times... So I don't blame you. She's going to betray your friendship as she did your relationship and hurt you even worse next time. It is what it is, I guess you have to go through it to learn. 

The spiritual bypassing doesn't just clear out psychological dynamics you both have developed throughout your entire lifetimes. 

[stevegan928]

@bejapuskas I love you. <3

[bejapuskas]

@stevegan928  Love you too! 

[LaucherJunge]

For anyone who still cares, I kinda had another insight about all of this.
Now I understand that Women are simply not loving you for your logic, how much you convince them, how good you are to them.
They really love from their heart and the chemistry you make them feel.
I see now that the porn really was an even greater obstacle than I thought, it really took alot of exactly this masculinity that I needed to keep attracting her, also a big aspect of masculinity is this self directed energy which is typical for narcissists, which of course attracts women, especially empathic ones, also they are masters in causing exactly those chemical reactions in women, which they need to fall in love.
Anyway, now I am on 23 days of nofap and it was really easy honestly, with all the heartbreak I wasn't really focused on it at all and that's why it was so easy and I will continue going forward with this.
So I guess, the red pill comments, had some truth to them after all, even though I think you really can stay a very decent human being and be kinda still nice to women, just in a very special way, I guess there is still lots of time to figure this out..

Edited February 14, 2019 by LaucherJunge