Has anyone here found a way to overcome problems such as dyslexia or adhd?

[lmfao]

The two conditions put in the title of this thread were specifically mentioned by me since I think I have both of them, to whatever various degrees. I know that regardless of whatever the fact of the matter is in regards to what can be done about these conditions I should accept myself and move forward with what I want in life and be happy. But I ask this question regardless. The biggest source of frustration to me recently has been dyslexia and adhd because I feel those to be directly affecting me in my studies. Being slow at reading and having sub-par comprehension in combination with being distractible isn't a pleasant combination when I want to get something I find meaningful done.  Because ideally I'd be doing a shit tonne of reading of mathematics and science since I enjoy that but reading just a few paragraphs of anything feels like a strenuous chore. 

I'm just typing this because I know that as far as mainstream medicine has developed, there is nothing which can be done about these conditions besides getting some sort of therapy to cope with these problems. Maybe I have to just accept it. I know that meditation improves my focus and concentration overall which is obviously a bonus. What triggered me to type this is the fact that I've become acutely aware of the fact that I can barely read a small article or something without feeling large amounts of mental exhaustion and irritability. 

Edited February 3, 2019 by lmfao

[Charlotte]

@lmfao  I don't have any medical advice sorry. 

Do you read often? Or practice often?

[pixelwave]

@lmfao I understand what you are going through and have. I have ADHD myself and for my whole life I know it's harder for me to learn, to concentrate and to live a full-filled and succesful live. I have been through hell to find myself. SHIT! I'm even far from it. But the thing that keeps me going every single day is to babystep.

I found it fucking difficult to have a girlfriend. Now I'm together for 3 years with a lovely girl. For me it was hard to get a bachelor degree, well I'm almost there. You know for us it will be so much harder than neurotypicals. It's frustrating sometimes but these are some things I use to get me through my life.

Read books about ADHD & Dyslexia:

ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life by Judith Kolberg & Kathleen Nadeau  (is a good one to start)

It might be hard for you as for me... So what do I do? I push myself to read 5 pages every single day, a bad or a good day. When I have a wonderful day I try to do more. But make sure that you don't forget what's in the book so use a notebook, where you write things down about the subject. It helps you remember better and it also a good place to look back to. The one I use is Microsoft OneNote it is completely free and easy to use. Check out leo's video about commonplace book.

And please don't be mad at yourself of not doing shit. Be happy what you've achieved on a daily bases. 

Things we should try to avoid (I'm not saying I'm mister perfect but at least try to :') ):

- Overuse of technology (before bedtime), for me I installed an old alarm clock again. I also love to listen to music before I go to bed so I've started using my iPod shuffle instead of my smartphone. These are small changes that helps me get some sleep

- Skipping sleep

- Hyper focus gaming (I know it's awesome)

Thinks that really does help for me:

- Structure (Try to make structure in every thing, even if it takes you to hell), use a agenda (even if we don't look at it) for small things 

- Support (Don't be mad if you can't do something on your own, we need support)

- Strategy (The one you learn yourself, like use another room to charge, only read & study in a certain room, don't bring your phone with you)

Technology: Apps or websites I use:

Google Keep: For my thoughts, everything that come to mind.

Meistertask: To get my shit done (at least trying)

Google Agenda: To remember appointments 

Microsoft OneNote: To keep a commonplace book.

Google Assistant (To say : 'remind me' OR 'create an event')

Subreddit /adhd: To see how people with ADHD solve problems, to feel that i'm not the only one out there.

BLACK & WHITE: If you do computer work, try to put your screen in black&white, so that you don't get distracted by very interesting looking ads or images. I do that when I have a lot of work to do. It really helps me!

I know we always aim for a structured live, the one where we will read a book a month, but it isn't that simple. It's all about Babysteps. Read about it first, then therapy. I'm considering to do therapy myself just so I could talk about it with someone who knows a lot about ADHD, a coach that keeps me on track with my goals. And one thing we must do is exercise, it calms our brain and makes it much easier to read. I try to exercise at least 3 times a week.

Peace out brother.

If you need a person with ADHD to talk to don't hesitate to send me a DM. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited February 3, 2019 by pixelwave

[lmfao]

@Charlotte

16 hours ago, Charlotte said:

@lmfao Do you read often? Or practice often?

I wouldn't say I read often. I do little bits of reading here and there if I'm in a university lecture, or if I'm reading English subtitles for shows I watch regularly. I'm lazy and so I don't put a lot of effort into studying and the sort and so I procrastinate till the last minute.

@Marc Schinkel I just googled that guys name, it seems he's written a book on the topic. I'll look into it probably.

@pixelwave Yeah the problem I have is that I'm unconscientious. If this were not the case I'd have organised myself better to deal with it all better. But even so the whole thing is frustrating lol. 

[Charlotte]

The thing is though @lmfao is you have this frustrating problem on your hands and you seem to be excusing the work that needs to be done by calling yourself 'lazy' are you actually lazy or could this be a label you've given yourself to avoid putting the emotional labour in?

I definitely think more reading+ daily meditation = results. 

But you got to want this. No point a stranger over the internet telling you this, it isn't gonna change your mindset, ultimately it comes down to you. 

I understand what you mean by procrastinating until last minute, I'm hella guilty of that myself but we both need to prioritize this work and sit earlier. I've actually started to already and I can guarantee it fills you with relief and a sense of organisation. 

 

[lmfao]

@Charlotte

5 minutes ago, Charlotte said:

The thing is though @lmfao is you have this frustrating problem on your hands and you seem to be excusing the work that needs to be done by calling yourself 'lazy' are you actually lazy or could this be a label you've given yourself to avoid putting the emotional labour in?

Yeah you're pretty much completely right there.

5 minutes ago, Charlotte said:

I definitely think more reading+ daily meditation = results. 

But you got to want this. No point a stranger over the internet telling you this, it isn't gonna change your mindset, ultimately it comes down to you. 

I understand what you mean by procrastinating until last minute, I'm hella guilty of that myself but we both need to prioritize this work and sit earlier. I've actually started to already and I can guarantee it fills you with relief and a sense of organisation. 

The difference between having monkey mind and not having as strong a degree of monkey mind is like night and day for me. I can feel "adhd" like symptoms of to be significantly relieved after meditating. Even if the effects are temporary I'd like to think that the presence of positive effects in the first palace is an indicator of what could be permanently possible.

About procrastination. Like today my mind was ruminating non-stop about a deadline. But after meditation, I realised that my mind is just getting in its own way. I feel as though meditation makes me jump the gun less in all the decisions I make throughout the day. I've been inconsistent with my habit of meditation which is something I can mend. 

Edited February 4, 2019 by lmfao

[Charlotte]

28 minutes ago, lmfao said:

I'd like to think that the presence of positive effects in the first palace is an indicator of what could be permanently possible.

I totally understand what you mean. And your right, they are. 

30 minutes ago, lmfao said:

About procrastination. Like today my mind was ruminating non-stop about a deadline. But after meditation, I realised that my mind is just getting in its own way. I feel as though meditation makes me jump the gun less in all the decisions I make throughout the day. I've been inconsistent with my habit of meditation which is something I can mend

Seems you have your own answer there dude. Do you see it?

Your very honest and open. Brilliant foundations

[Johnny]

I removed my ADHD with a Keto diet

[pixelwave]

@lmfao That I can recall. What you mean is that you have no control over your mind. Meditating + going to a gym or doing some sport with a friend (to motivate you) is going to help a lot! 

I also used stratera for a month, it's quite expensive but it helps me during a period that I have very much on my mind, helps me to get a lot of things done. It gives me more control over myself. It's like i'm seeing more of the total image, which I think is harder for us sometimes.

But it's a good thing to try and create a commonplace book, because for me it's also some kind of mental meditation. I'm much more aware of myself when I'm adding stuff to my commonplace book.

 

[Leo Gura]

I would try EEG Neurofeedback Therapy, like this:

 

[pixelwave]

@Leo Gura Thanks this is very useful for me aswel!

[lmfao]

@Leo Gura I've heard great things about EEG Neurofeedback on this forum, something I should look into. Thanks.