Sticky behaviour patterns

[Haenir]

Hello everyone,

I've been meditating and working on myself for the past 9 months now. I've been improving substantially in all areas of my life, but I cannot seem to break the anxiety patterns that come up when I put myself in any kind of social situation or when I have to perform.

Meditation has helped a lot, but even though I'm getting more equanimous in my day to day life it doesn't seem to help for the situations I mentioned.

The symptoms are not extreme, but they don't allow me to be genuine and authentic, which means I struggle to connect with people. This is incredibly frustrating, as connection is a value I hold very dearly (as I discovered from Leo's course)

I can be totally at peace for days, but whenever a triggering event comes up I get IBS symptoms, adrenaline rushes and I become restless, this can all be going on while my mind is not producing anxiety thoughts.

Does anyone have any useful insights that they can throw my way? Especially if they've experienced something that resembles what I talked about and overcame it completely.

 

 

[Sahil Pandit]

@Haenir Are you doing Kriya? That should really calm your nerves. 

Also, have you discovered any tight muscles in your body that need to be worked on? Perhaps you're having stomach pain or tight shoulders, etc.

Priming yourself before entering a key social situation is a good strategy.

I did this yesterday before i had to talk to someone who stirs up resistance within me. Before i met them, i put my hands of my head and made sure i was breathing completely up and down my whole spine as well as feeling my feet on the floor. 

 

[Haenir]

@Sahil Pandit I'm not doing kriya at the moment, but I will for sure start a practice soon.

I'm pretty sure I don't have muscle tightness as I go regularly to the osteopath. 

I do tend to prime myself before a social situation, by meditating for example, and it does help somewhat, but the effects seem to be temporary.

Thank you very much for your reply and your tips.

[DrewNows]

@Haenirgooday man. Commend you for your personal growth of quieting the mind and understanding yourself. All I can say is keep at it, whenever you know you’re not being authentic, see if you can admit this to whomever you’re with

speak your mind and observe it at the same time. Be brutally honest with yourself and others. This will bring you to the destination of being in the NOW and expressing yourself 

the fact is you gotta give yourself permission to be a vulnerable imperfect human, Its the name of the game 

 

Edited February 2, 2019 by DrewNows

[Haenir]

@DrewNows thank you for the advice, this sounds exactly like what I need to be doing