Should I wait more?

[Ika]

Hi everyone, I will try to make this post as short as possible. If Leo is reading this you cannot possibly know how much I appreciate all your work!!!

I was raised in a terrible environment and in a very bad part of the city, it has caused a serious damage to my communication and relationship skills and my financial state was just miserable about an year ago, but last 12 months were very productive, I have made some serious career growth and I really feel that I am getting much stronger every day. One thing which I cannot decide is whether good or bad is that I became amazing at doing things on my own but I do not feel comfortable when I am working with others or just be with others for a long time. But the main problem is, I cannot decide whether I need a life partner or not right now, it scares me that I might stop my financial and career growth if I get a girlfriend or even get married, because I will probably drain my time and energy which keeps me moving, I am also afraid that being lonely might became my natural state and I do not want that either.. It may not make a sense to you guys but this has been troubling me for a while, any advice will be appreciated. 

[NoSelfSelf]

Wait for what? If you are psychologicaly ready then there is nothing to wait

[ajasatya]

@Ika are you financially independent?

[Ika]

9 hours ago, ajasatya said:

@Ika are you financially independent?

Not completely but I am getting stronger each month and I should be independent by the summer

[ajasatya]

4 hours ago, Ika said:

Not completely but I am getting stronger each month and I should be independent by the summer

i'd go for it first. becoming financially independent is hard enough.

engaging in a relationship requires attention and energy in order to overcome your emotional barriers. since you have a deadline (next summer), it's totally worth waiting.

[Ika]

1 hour ago, ajasatya said:

i'd go for it first. becoming financially independent is hard enough.

engaging in a relationship requires attention and energy in order to overcome your emotional barriers. since you have a deadline (next summer), it's totally worth waiting.

Thank you very much for that advise and I completely agree, that is what I really needed to hear from someone else.

15 hours ago, ajasatya said:

@Ika are you financially independent?

Not completely but I am getting stronger each month and I should be independent by the summer

Edited January 27, 2019 by Ika

[Consept]

13 hours ago, ajasatya said:

i'd go for it first. becoming financially independent is hard enough.

engaging in a relationship requires attention and energy in order to overcome your emotional barriers. since you have a deadline (next summer), it's totally worth waiting.

I agree with this, a relationship, especially one where you spend a lot of time together can take a lot of effort and take a lot out of you mentally, if youre worried about your finances at the same time its a recipe for disaster. So get that sorted and then if you want a relationship go for it, but be careful as a lot of relationships can stunt your growth, ideally you grow together but its not always the case as youre taking on someone with their own issues, so choose wisely 

[Spence94]

@Consept Man on fire?