Spiral Dynamics and Relationships

[Toby]

So I signed up by accident with integrallife.com ($1 for first 30 days) and there is a guy who applied Spiral Dynamics / Integral Model to stages of relationships: Tom Habib. It is quite amazing and eye-opening. It also more or less shows that Pickup-Lifestyle might be at red / purple and is actually caught in pre/trans-fallacy.

On integrallife.com:
https://integrallife.com/the-predictable-stages-of-growth-in-couples/
https://integrallife.com/the-higher-stages-of-couple-love/

On youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKcEYJUv348

[Leo Gura]

I see pickup as Red/Orange. There's also a variety of different kinds of guys doing pickup. The worst ones are Redish, the best ones are Orange but starting to transition into Green.

[joeyi99]

@Leo Gura What does green pickup look like?

[d0ornokey]

@Leo Gura would love to know this too

@joeyi99  

Edited January 20, 2019 by d0ornokey

[Leo Gura]

4 hours ago, joeyi99 said:

@Leo Gura What does green pickup look like?

An intimate honest relationship, lol.

Consider what it would be like to be in an intimate relationship with a woman with no sex involved.

Remove sex from the equation for just a minute.

[Sempiternity]

There is no 'green pickup'. Men at green or higher don't view women as goals to obtain. At these levels, you treat everyone around you with equal love, not just the one your ego wants something from. In you being a wonderful human being, people will naturally gravitate towards you (including women you now find attractive). And if a relationship/friendship went deeper into intimacy, it would just happen naturally, with flow. You'd want to flow into this intimacy with this person not for sex, but as an expression of the love, not because of how physically attractive they are to you.  Nothing needs to be forced, or manipulated, or owned, or conquered. Just people being love.

[Sidra]

On 1/16/2019 at 6:58 PM, Toby said:

So I signed up by accident with integrallife.com ($1 for first 30 days) and there is a guy who applied Spiral Dynamics / Integral Model to stages of relationships: Tom Habib. It is quite amazing and eye-opening. It also more or less shows that Pickup-Lifestyle might be at red / purple and is actually caught in pre/trans-fallacy.

On integrallife.com:
https://integrallife.com/the-predictable-stages-of-growth-in-couples/
https://integrallife.com/the-higher-stages-of-couple-love/

On youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKcEYJUv348

Wow I just watched the vid.. great work !!

Thanks for sharing !!