Can you be vulnerable in a masculine way?

[F A B]

Looking vulnerable and showing your weaknesses seems a feminine trait.  

Being aware of your weaknesses without denying them seems a masculine trait.

[ajasatya]

@F A B you can actually be straightforwardly vulnerable and express it. i wouldn't say that's a feminine trait. it's actually an advanced masculine trait, achieved by very few men. that's how you get into the most deep relationships.

everyone needs to completely embrace emotional vulnerability and work hard to heal it. everyone! men and women.

[ivankiss]

@ajasatya I agree.

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable is an act of courage. 

It makse you even manlier.

The autenthic feminine will recognize this act as well.

Whoever misinterprets honesty for weakness is merely unable to recognize purity and transperency.

 

[LeoBacca]

@F A B Have you watched this? I think it answers to your question in a certain way

 

[CreamCat]

On 12/31/2018 at 9:22 PM, ajasatya said:

@F A B you can actually be straightforwardly vulnerable and express it. i wouldn't say that's a feminine trait. it's actually an advanced masculine trait, achieved by very few men. that's how you get into the most deep relationships.

everyone needs to completely embrace emotional vulnerability and work hard to heal it. everyone! men and women.

Like telling a woman how small your penis is and how poor you are?

Edited January 3, 2019 by CreamCat

[Hello from Russia]

You definetely can. I'd even say that it's not masculine to run away from vulnerability

[ajasatya]

5 hours ago, CreamCat said:

Like telling a woman how small your penis is and how poor you are?

no, that's too superficial.

emotional vulnerabilities are related to the way you deal with deeper wounds, like the feeling of rejection, daily anxiety, bad episodes with parents, having hard times with loneliness etc.

[CreamCat]

4 minutes ago, ajasatya said:

no, that's too superficial.

emotional vulnerabilities are related to the way you deal with deeper wounds, like the feeling of rejection, daily anxiety, bad episodes with parents, having hard times with loneliness etc.

Can you cite some examples?

[zambize]

I embrace my emotions but I'm not always open about them, it's not like I'm hiding them its just not always the time to be sharing.  Be vulnerable with yourself, and be able to be vulnerable with yourself to others if need be, but I wouldn't go out of your way to do this to seem masculine 

[ajasatya]

1 hour ago, CreamCat said:

Can you cite some examples?

it depends on the kind of conversation you're having.

personally, i don't like superficial conversations. i'm not the alpha male type of guy and i am very introverted. if i can't connect with people on a deeper level, the conversations just end very quickly.

when i was single, i would talk about how i used alcohol as an attempt to run away from my social anxiety and how i couldn't handle my relationship with my parents. i made LOTS of good friends. shared intimacy with a few of them. and then, after another period of 5 months of celibacy, i was able to find my wife.

this strategy won't work if you're just trying to get lucky. it requires a serious commitment to honesty.

[Sahil Pandit]

I've been letting myself be a lot more vulnerable in social situations and i'm surprised how many people are quick to ask for help or start up small talk or a friendly dialogue.