confidence

[theking00]

How can I be more confidence with girls. I am 27 and  I never had girlfriend .

Edited December 31, 2018 by theking00

[Hellspeed]

Meditation and Relaxation. Learning to be yourself in any situation. 

[daniel695]

contemplate. you have a limiting belief about yourself, the world and how you see girls.

why do you want a girlfriend? contemplate that

[F A B]

I think you become really confident when you can handle rejection.

[NoSelfSelf]

By learning and applying things with girls approaching talking etc. If i tell you are you confident to lift 150kg right now without training you wont be you need to train and have also confidence you can do it just like with girls...

[tenta]

It doesn't matter if you are confident in yourself or not, the girl you want has to be confident in you. You need to have qualities that make that happen, such as high social status.

Edited December 31, 2018 by tenta

[Moreira]

what makes you confident is experience. expose you in lot of situations interacting with girls and youll find confidence.

Also in a physical level, learn to breath into your stomach, diafragmatic breathing, this will automatically make your body calm and cool.

[ajasatya]

42 minutes ago, tenta said:

It doesn't matter if you are confident in yourself or not, the girl you want has to be confident in you. You need to have qualities that make that happen, such as high social status.

this is complete BS 

you become confident when you let go of confidence. even though it sounds paradoxical, it's actually very simple. you gotta let go of your mental self-image and be present with the other person, be it a man or a woman. make eye contact, relax your body and pay attention to what they say. listening is an extremely rare skill.

Edited December 31, 2018 by ajasatya

[aurum]

20 hours ago, theking00 said:

How can I be more confidence with girls. I am 27 and  I never had girlfriend .

Go out, go out, go out.

It never ceases to amaze me how much guys will avoid the obvious answer.

[Shin]

20 hours ago, Hellspeed said:

Meditation and Relaxation. Learning to be yourself in any situation. 

Won't be enough, he needs to be around them too, frequently.

[Hardkill]

On 12/30/2018 at 4:08 PM, theking00 said:

How can I be more confidence with girls. I am 27 and  I never had girlfriend .

Hey man, you situation sounds very similar to mine. In fact, despite having been always considered to be an extremely good looking guy my whole life I lost my virginity when I was 27 turning 28. Even though many girls would flirt with me middle school, high school, and college, and even a few of them asked me to be their girlfriend, the reason why I still waited so long to lose my V-card is because I had ridiculously high standards for finding the "right one" to lose my virginity too, was too much of a germaphobe when it came to actually making out and having sex, got too addicted to watching porn and jerking off, and lacked both the social skills and confidence to get laid with a girl I really wanted to bang (like one whom I thought was at least approx. a 7 out of 10 in my eyes). Hell, I never got a real solid girlfriend until I was 30 (which actually happened as of this year).

Eventually, I got tired of waiting, feeling unbelievably frustrated sexually, and feeling like I couldn't do anything about my social and sexual situation. Therefore, I eventually decided to do something about all of this by working on both my social and seduction skills along with having done a ridiculous amount of research over the years on how to improve these skills that I really needed to work on. My first year consisted of actually putting in as much work (as I could afford to do time-wise) on improving my social confidence, improving my social skills/charisma, learning to become more masculine around women, building the guts to approach random women in virtually any venue, doing A LOT of online dating, getting over my fear of catching germs when kissing, making out, and having sex with girls, making realistic standards (though still always high) for the girls to possibly get physical with, going out with some wings to hit on girls in various places during various times of the day, continuously doing more research on building social and seduction skills, communicating with many dating experts and others who have good game with women, learning from the mistakes I made along the way in my interactions with women, and cutting out a little bit of the porn and masturbation all to find a reasonably cute girl to sleep with. As a result of all of this, I made outs with several hot girls I met in bars, clubs, online dating, etc. and I ultimately was able to lose my virginity to asian girl (who I found out cheated on her bf with me) whom looked cute enough to me to want to have sex with. A couple weeks later, I had sex with another girl. Afterwards, I was able to get more a lot more dates, some more make-outs with more girls, and get laid with about 2-3 more girls per year on average, for 2 years. Finally, I got a girlfriend whom I've been with for over 8 months now.

Now, I am not saying that you had to necessary put in this much work on your self to get the results I got with women, my social and sexual confidence, my social/charisma and seduction skills, etc. In fact, if I actually truly had the time before to devote myself to go practically everyday to a really large city and/or college campus population-wise for me to approach at least 10-20 cute/hot girls a day everyday during the past few years, then I am very certain that my results would have sky rocketed to the point of having very little approach anxiety around girls and probably would have ended up sleeping with at least 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, 90, or maybe more than that. 

Btw, A LOT of dating, sex, romance, approaching random girls, even getting girls you like from your social circle(s) is a numbers game. Check out this link below. These stats holds true for practically every man out there in the world, regardless of how high of a social status he has in the whole world, how good-looking and sexy he is, how rich he is, and/or how socially and sexually charismatic he is, how confident he comes off to women and even people in general, etc.: 

 

Edited January 1, 2019 by Hardkill

[theking00]

1 hour ago, Hardkill said:

Hey man, you situation sounds very similar to mine. In fact, despite having been always considered to be an extremely good looking guy my whole life I lost my virginity when I was 27 turning 28. Even though many girls would flirt with me middle school, high school, and college, and even a few of them asked me to be their girlfriend, the reason why I still waited so long to lose my V-card is because I had ridiculously high standards for finding the "right one" to lose my virginity too, was too much of a germaphobe when it came to actually making out and having sex, got too addicted to watching porn and jerking off, and lacked both the social skills and confidence to get laid with a girl I really wanted to bang (like one whom I thought was at least approx. a 7 out of 10 in my eyes). Hell, I never got a real solid girlfriend until I was 30 (which actually happened as of this year).

Eventually, I got tired of waiting, feeling unbelievably frustrated sexually, and feeling like I couldn't do anything about my social and sexual situation. Therefore, I eventually decided to do something about all of this by working on both my social and seduction skills along with having done a ridiculous amount of research over the years on how to improve these skills that I really needed to work on. My first year consisted of actually putting in as much work (as I could afford to do time-wise) on improving my social confidence, improving my social skills/charisma, learning to become more masculine around women, building the guts to approach random women in virtually any venue, doing A LOT of online dating, getting over my fear of catching germs when kissing, making out, and having sex with girls, making realistic standards (though still always high) for the girls to possibly get physical with, going out with some wings to hit on girls in various places during various times of the day, continuously doing more research on building social and seduction skills, communicating with many dating experts and others who have good game with women, learning from the mistakes I made along the way in my interactions with women, and cutting out a little bit of the porn and masturbation all to find a reasonably cute girl to sleep with. As a result of all of this, I made outs with several hot girls I met in bars, clubs, online dating, etc. and I ultimately was able to lose my virginity to asian girl (who I found out cheated on her bf with me) whom looked cute enough to me to want to have sex with. A couple weeks later, I had sex with another girl. Afterwards, I was able to get more a lot more dates, some more make-outs with more girls, and get laid with about 2-3 more girls per year on average, for 2 years. Finally, I got a girlfriend whom I've been with for over 8 months now.

Now, I am not saying that you had to necessary put in this much work on your self to get the results I got with women, my social and sexual confidence, my social/charisma and seduction skills, etc. In fact, if I actually truly had the time before to devote myself to go practically everyday to a really large city and/or college campus population-wise for me to approach at least 10-20 cute/hot girls a day everyday during the past few years, then I am very certain that my results would have sky rocketed to the point of having very little approach anxiety around girls and probably would have ended up sleeping with at least 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, 90, or maybe more than that. 

Btw, A LOT of dating, sex, romance, approaching random girls, even getting girls you like from your social circle(s) is a numbers game. Check out this link below. These stats holds true for practically every man out there in the world, regardless of how high of a social status he has in the whole world, how good-looking and sexy he is, how rich he is, and/or how socially and sexually charismatic he is, how confident he comes off to women and even people in general, etc.: 

 

i am boring person so it will be difficult for me 

[universe]

@Hardkill you need to write only one sentence per post

[Hardkill]

17 hours ago, universe said:

@Hardkill you need to write only one sentence per post

lol. says who?

[Hardkill]

19 hours ago, theking00 said:

i am boring person so it will be difficult for me 

That's the beauty of working on your social skills/charisma and being more masculine and feminine. Practically everyone can improve there's significantly to the point of being to the level of people who have always had an above average ability to connect with others, captivate them, and project their inner masculinity/femininity (depending upon your gender and perhaps sexual orientation). Now, this doesn't mean that everyone can reach the level of the top 1% of people in the world who were naturally gifted with the potential to become one of if not the GREATEST OF ALL TIME legendary leaders (within the field of politics, business, religion, and what have you), inspirational orators, phenomenal actors, top salespeople, devious con-artists, daters/players/pick-up artists, popular/famous people, heroes, etc. Unfortunately, not everyone will be achieve to achieve that level of Magnetism. However, if the average man wants to have a very happy life including having a great fulfilling sex, dating, romance, and social life and having a very fulfilling career and life/purpose that he has a passion for and makes him wealthy then he does need to have the level of charisma/social adeptness of Julius Caesar, Henry VIII in his prime, Clinton, Obama, JFK, MLK jr., Jesse James, Don Corleone, Jesus Christ, Muhammed the muslim prophet, Daniel Day Lewis, Matt Damon, Heath Ledger, the most well-known dating/player/seduction gurus, Casanova, Marcus Luttrell. He just needs to work as hard as he can to becoming a charismatic, popular, and sexually attractive man who also has a highly successful and very lucrative profession. 

I totally understand how guys like you feel. Believe me, I used to feel so hopeless over the idea that the women I want will never really like me or be truly attracted to me because I have Asperger's and I am not so fun. However, I changed that situation positively A LOT over the past few years by working extremely hard on my social skills/charisma, masculinity, and self-confidence. I still have ways to go of course, but I know now that if I continue to work hard at all of this and actually be even more consistent with practice I put in to improve overall, I will eventually get even dramatically better overtime than I am now.

Edited January 1, 2019 by Hardkill

[theking00]

to be honest I lost interest girls. I think its better to seek enlightenment 

[Hardkill]

5 hours ago, theking00 said:

to be honest I lost interest girls. I think its better to seek enlightenment 

Then why did u come on here asking us how to get better with girls? I understand that you feel lost and confused. I was too until I finally began to truly crack the code to life. 

Also, are you 100% heterosexual? Furthermore, how high is your sex drive?

Edited January 2, 2019 by Hardkill

[theking00]

6 hours ago, Hardkill said:

Then why did u come on here asking us how to get better with girls? I understand that you feel lost and confused. I was too until I finally began to truly crack the code to life. 

Also, are you 100% heterosexual? Furthermore, how high is your sex drive?

Yes I am 100% heterosexual but my sex drive is low. It used to be high when I was younger.

[Hardkill]

7 hours ago, theking00 said:

Yes I am 100% heterosexual but my sex drive is low. It used to be high when I was younger.

Oh okay. Well, that might explain why your interest in girls is low, let alone your desire to work on getting better with women. Let me ask you this? How's your overall physical and mental health? Also, do you wish to increase your sex drive? If so, have you seen a legit medical doctor (Ideally an endocrinologist who specializes in diagnosing, treating, and possibly curing any problems related to your hormones) to check to see how high your testosterone levels and the levels of other hormones in you pertaining to your libido are? If yes and if you and your medical doctor(s) have judged with 100% accuracy and confidence that all of your hormones are within the normal range of levels, then have you talked to a psychiatrist or psychologist with either an either a Psy D. or Ph.D in psychology?

[theking00]

20 hours ago, Hardkill said:

Oh okay. Well, that might explain why your interest in girls is low, let alone your desire to work on getting better with women. Let me ask you this? How's your overall physical and mental health? Also, do you wish to increase your sex drive? If so, have you seen a legit medical doctor (Ideally an endocrinologist who specializes in diagnosing, treating, and possibly curing any problems related to your hormones) to check to see how high your testosterone levels and the levels of other hormones in you pertaining to your libido are? If yes and if you and your medical doctor(s) have judged with 100% accuracy and confidence that all of your hormones are within the normal range of levels, then have you talked to a psychiatrist or psychologist with either an either a Psy D. or Ph.D in psychology?

i am physical healthy. I think it could be my social anxiety.