Paradox - Victim Verses Letting It Be

[laurastarla]

How do you deal with this paradox;

Not being a victim - when feeling sad, angry, negative, making a decision to change your thoughts and be responsible for those feelings by empowering yourself verses

Allowing your feelings - when feeling sad, angry, negative, allowing those feelings and feeling them fully, go into them, be present, let them be and accept that they are there without doing anything, without trying to change them

Also how do you know when allowing your feelings has just become self-pity and a negative emotional trap

[WelcometoReality]

You have to choose which one to do. One is ego building and the other is ego dissolving.

Self pity is more thought than feeling. These self pitying thoughts will create emotions in the body, but seeing through those thoughts are the key to rid yourself of self pity.

@laurastarla

[Nic]

The question you ask feels legitimate but it makes you spin endlessly... this is a sign that there is something wrong with the question.

Identify those questions as we as human have the possibility to ask our selves questions that have no answers. Most questions we have about life are ego creations that only will satisfy your rational mind if you find an answer to it, but it won't bring you a step closer to the truth.

The best thing to do with bad feelings is to embrace them, so to go deep in them, look the resistance you apply on them and to be able of letting go of them by dissolving the lies that created the feelings in the first place. By lies I'm talking about the mind chatter, the righteousness, and in all, the false identification with the voice.

[Azrael]

On 11.4.2016 at 10:32 PM, laurastarla said:

How do you deal with this paradox;

You simply use these theories in different phases. When the actual "bad" feeling arises you just give it the most authentic experience it can have by feeling into it, amplifying it so that you can see what it really is and saying to yourself "It is okay that I feel ... because of ...". This is the exact way nature wants it to be so I give it the best grasp of itself it can have.

When the feeling went away and you are clear-minded you take the initiative and make changes in your life to reduce your suffering.

When you start to do this consciously this will go in your deeper psyche until you do it unconsciously and end up in a kind of flow state that intuitively creates action on the one hand but also authentically takes in all the results this action creates on the other hand.