How do I love my sisters?

[Eric Tarpall]

With sisters I mean the females of the human race. I do have love for them but my love gets clouded by my sexual frustration. It's hard not to blame girls for my virginity because I know I'm attractive. But I'm not a celebrity. And that's a deal breaker for most girls. It's difficult to forgive that when I feel horny & lonely. Can I get over this somehow?

[Shroomdoctor]

6 minutes ago, Eric Tarpall said:

But I'm not a celebrity. And that's a deal breaker for most girls. 

I don't think that is true. 

[Eric Tarpall]

1 hour ago, Shroomdoctor said:

I don't think that is true. 

They love guys who are popular & famous because it elevates their own status.

[Healingheart]

Oow man,

I know that feeling of frustration. I had this for years. Still got these moments.

You need to learn what women want in a man. It is not only status.

 

The thing is, getting mad on how women are is just a waste of energy and it makes you unhappy. 

Become the best you for you.

[BjarkeT]

I have known a lot of girls that had boyfriends who didn't had celebrity status so you don't need to have that. 

My dad is not a celebrity and nor is my sister's husband for example. 

[Psyche_92]

I saw your post and it reminded me of something i saw today at the grocery store. There was this guy who seemed about the same age as me ( 20ish ), and he had a funny looking mouth, so he grabbed my attention. Shortly after a girl came to him, he started talking, and it all made sense now because he literally had no teeth in his mouth anymore. Turned out that the girl he started talking to was his girlfriend. Now i don't want to say that this guy was poor or anything like that, but he certainly didn't look rich to me, and he also didn't look like he had a lot of status. But he had a girlfriend neitherless. Maybe he was a drug addict? Maybe he got in an accident, or he had some sort of special conditioning surrounding his teeth. God knows. But he had a girlfriend.  

You can safely let go of the assumption that girls only like status, money or fame. Some of em do, just like some of em smoke and some of them don't.

[sgn]

@Eric Tarpall Have you tried to get sex?

[Eric Tarpall]

2 hours ago, Psyche_92 said:

he literally had no teeth in his mouth anymore. Turned out that the girl he started talking to was his girlfriend.

Maybe she's his sister. 

1 hour ago, sgn said:

Have you tried to get sex?

I've never tried to get sex because I don't know how. I had a girl on my bed once and we were playing video games but I didn't know what to say to her. 

[zambize]

1 hour ago, Eric Tarpall said:

Maybe she's his sister. 

I've never tried to get sex because I don't know how. I had a girl on my bed once and we were playing video games but I didn't know what to say to her. 

I don't know if you need to say too much, unless you are getting like zero signals.  Next time that happens try and like sit side by side, just a bit of touch, and see how she reacts and go from there.  This could turn into cuddling and watching a movie, and from there it would be less awkward to talk about having sex, or at least there should be a lot of signals as to whether she wants to continue or not, but yeah, going from a girl on your bed playing video games to talking about having sex COULD be a huge step, I don't have any details so I can't say too much, but I'd try breaking the touch barrier and being really aware of how she takes that.  As far as the how do you love your sisters, you don't have to force yourself to love them, I would just be aware of the reasons you don't love them and those reasons you don't love something tend to be silly and arbitrary as you are more aware of them.  But yeah, don't force love/compassion where there isn't any, next time you think some girl is being a bitch or you don't like them, don't repress it, find the roots of why you dislike them, in your case this seems to be sexual frustration, and I think that just being aware of this over time will cause it to dissolve.  Wish you the best of luck

[Hellspeed]

Become a MAN, learning the secrets of in-jack and Tantra. You will not have problems with any women, no matter the social status, in fact the sugar mamas will be constantly on you  

[eleveneleven]

So many threads like this in this forum:

Innocent Young Man: "Girls are [a certain way]. This is a problem. How can I [date/marry/get my penis sucked], when they are [a certain way]? It's very frustrating. They only like [jerks/assholes/celebrities] because [insert dubious theory of how the female mind works]."

Me: "Oh really? How did you come to these conclusions? How many girls do you know that are this way?"

Innocent Young Man: "Oh, I don't know any girls. I've never had a girlfriend and I have no female friends."

Me: "..."

I swear to God, every kid these days is getting all his information from frustrated virgins on the MGTOW subreddit before he is even old enough to get laid. Why are there so many threads like this? Go date some women for Pete's sake! Stop poisoning your mind with bullshit on the Internet. There are plenty of women who will date you if you just get your head out of your ass long enough to take some emotional risks and make real-life mistakes.

If you really do need some information to start with, I recommend "Models" by Mark Manson. It's a pretty neutral, down-to-earth dating guide.

Edited December 26, 2018 by eleveneleven

[iGhost]

You are suffering because you don't understand women. Type in Alpha Male Strategies in YouTube, think about me when your dick is getting sucked:)

cheers

[Odysseus]

@eleveneleven Great post, great book. Thank you.