The importance of remembering bad things that people do to you

[Eric Tarpall]

You might want to keep track of bad things that people do to you in your commonplace book. This will prevent you from getting emotionally attached to bad people. I'm going to do this because I keep forgiving certain people. And I let my guard down. And then I'm surprised when they lash out at me again. That's pure stupidity.

People say that forgiveness is hard but it's very easy. That's why most people allow themselves to be abused repeatedly. The emotionally difficult thing to do is to hold a grudge. & Be conscious of the fact that bad people do exist.

[kira]

I find it way too exhausting holding a grudge.. i have to carry it around in my heart. And its truly unnecessary anger/pain that you are draging with you.. 

How can u really live an actualized life when u are so "mad" and you are holding so many things against so many different people ? 

Let go

[Eric Tarpall]

33 minutes ago, kira said:

And its truly unnecessary anger/pain that you are draging with you.. 

This idea that anger is a negative thing is completely wrong. Anger is energy. And you need this energy to be able to stand up for yourself & defend yourself. And sometimes offense is the best defense.

[kira]

On 17/12/2018 at 2:47 PM, Eric Tarpall said:

This idea that anger is a negative thing is completely wrong. Anger is energy. And you need this energy to be able to stand up for yourself & defend yourself. And sometimes offense is the best defense.

 In what part of my comment did u read that i said that anger was a bad thing?

Is not either good or bad.

Its just what it is 

 

Have fun holding up to all your anger ?

[Eric Tarpall]

37 minutes ago, kira said:

In what part of my comment did u read that i said that anger was a bad thing?

I didn't say that you said that.

38 minutes ago, kira said:

Have fun holding up to all your anger ?

I don't hold onto anger. I hold onto memories of people mistreating me.

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