An alarming dating trend?

[Emerald]

10 hours ago, Lynnel said:

@Emerald  Please tell me it's just a orange type thing and we're gonna get trough this as a humanity.

A lot of people are already past it. 

But if it really bothers you, then it does so because you're thinking of things in Orange terms... in terms of value hierarchies. 

And the really negative thing here is that we start thinking of ourselves in relation to where our position in the value hierarchy is. And since you feel like you're not up in the particular hierarchy that you mentioned (and a very specific one at that), then you feel bad and want to retreat from society.

But a lot of women don't care about how many Instagram followers someone has. That's the most random thing ever, to be honest. It's an arbitrary thing. 

In fact, anything that you could potentially even have value relative to is an arbitrarily chosen value... including success with women. 

So, notice why you feel bad about this social pattern... because it writes a narrative in your mind based around imaginary hierarchies that makes you feel bad about yourself and your place in those imaginary hierarchies... and shallow women are the arbitrarily chosen judges of your worth and status within that hierarchy. But this is all a projection.

You have deemed that women in contemporary society exist in such a way that you can never "win" their affections and thus climb in the hierarchy. You feel like the hierarchy is rigged against you because of your lack of value. But this hierarchy and value are both illusions.

Only people in Orange feel intrinsically bad about their position in the Orange hierarchies. Just like Blue people are the only ones that feel intrinsically bad about breaking a social more that harms no one... like wearing a hat on a Sunday in May when you're not supposed to.

So, the solution is to develop yourself more, and get out of the delusion that you're somehow low down on some imaginary hierarchy that a most people don't even know exist. 

Life is not a meritocracy or a zero sum game. Life is just living. Just allow yourself to be.

Edited December 17, 2018 by Emerald

[billiesimon]

10 hours ago, Emerald said:

A lot of people are already past it. 

But if it really bothers you, then it does so because you're thinking of things in Orange terms... in terms of value hierarchies. 

And the really negative thing here is that we start thinking of ourselves in relation to where our position in the value hierarchy is. And since you feel like you're not up in the particular hierarchy that you mentioned (and a very specific one at that), then you feel bad and want to retreat from society.

But a lot of women don't care about how many Instagram followers someone has. That's the most random thing ever, to be honest. It's an arbitrary thing. 

In fact, anything that you could potentially even have value relative to is an arbitrarily chosen value... including success with women. 

So, notice why you feel bad about this social pattern... because it writes a narrative in your mind based around imaginary hierarchies that makes you feel bad about yourself and your place in those imaginary hierarchies... and shallow women are the arbitrarily chosen judges of your worth and status within that hierarchy. But this is all a projection.

You have deemed that women in contemporary society exist in such a way that you can never "win" their affections and thus climb in the hierarchy. You feel like the hierarchy is rigged against you because of your lack of value. But this hierarchy and value are both illusions.

Only people in Orange feel intrinsically bad about their position in the Orange hierarchies. Just like Blue people are the only ones that feel intrinsically bad about breaking a social more that harms no one... like wearing a hat on a Sunday in May when you're not supposed to.

So, the solution is to develop yourself more, and get out of the delusion that you're somehow low down on some imaginary hierarchy that a most people don't even know exist. 

Life is not a meritocracy or a zero sum game. Life is just living. Just allow yourself to be.

Great advice, and very reassuring.

People are valuable for their own uniqueness, not for the position they embody in society.

Of course they have to find their own uniqueness and their own path in life and follow it to embody their true value.

[Emerald]

26 minutes ago, billiesimon said:

Great advice, and very reassuring.

People are valuable for their own uniqueness, not for the position they embody in society.

Of course they have to find their own uniqueness and their own path in life and follow it to embody their true value.

Wrong!!!! Bomp!!!!  j/k

Uniqueness is just another arbitrary hierarchy, and one that is strongly valued in Orange by some individuals and not by others.

The point is that hierarchies aren't real, and reality is empty of value as a quality. So, reality neither has value nor lacks value. It is simply empty of it.

So, a person is not valuable... but neither are they lacking in value. Value on the existential level is just an irrelevant concept created for practical functioning in the human intellect.

So, a person is valid without the concept of value needing to be applied at all. 

So, if we think of a person's validity as relating back to arbitrarily chosen values in terms of success, Instagram followers, uniqueness, kindness, goodness, edginess, intelligence, money, etc., then we are always creating a situation that is in resistance to unconditional love.

And since unconditional love is the Truth of existence, we are creating our worldview out of alignment with Truth. And we will suffer and become unconscious as a result. 

[billiesimon]

4 hours ago, Emerald said:

Wrong!!!! Bomp!!!!  j/k

Uniqueness is just another arbitrary hierarchy, and one that is strongly valued in Orange by some individuals and not by others.

The point is that hierarchies aren't real, and reality is empty of value as a quality. So, reality neither has value nor lacks value. It is simply empty of it.

So, a person is not valuable... but neither are they lacking in value. Value on the existential level is just an irrelevant concept created for practical functioning in the human intellect.

So, a person is valid without the concept of value needing to be applied at all. 

So, if we think of a person's validity as relating back to arbitrarily chosen values in terms of success, Instagram followers, uniqueness, kindness, goodness, edginess, intelligence, money, etc., then we are always creating a situation that is in resistance to unconditional love.

And since unconditional love is the Truth of existence, we are creating our worldview out of alignment with Truth. And we will suffer and become unconscious as a result. 

 I was just being cheering. 

Well, yes, but I'm not at that level of development yet.

Now I tend to see everybody as valuable and unique. I guess it's typica for orange/green transition stage.

To me every human has their skills and perks and beauty inside themselves. He/she just has to discover it and cultivate it and bring value to enrich the world (not necessarily in a materialistic manner). It's still hard for me to see the world devoid of value.

Edited December 17, 2018 by billiesimon

[SgtPepper]

you need to relax. and step out of the echo chamber.

Date girls that aren't dysfunctional and are looking for a meaningful relationship, problem solved! There are plenty of girls looking for a long-term meaningful relationship and do not want to be a groupie.

The girls they're talking about in the video are not looking for a meaningful relationship.

A family friend, who's a girl, got out of long-term relationship (years) and found a guy on a dating website, who also got out of a similar long-term relationship. They are now together in a long-term meaningful relationship and just got married, all in this decade.

It is totally possible! date around a little, and find someone you trust, values the same things as you, and vibe with.

Personally, I do not like RSD's content at all. It's so dramatic, superficial, and one dimensional.

I think you would be better off reading books about this subject, seeing therapy, figuring out who you are, embodying your passions and deepest nature, and staying mindful all the while. Become a stronger version of yourself period. That is all you need to do. Women like men who are going places.

Practice talking to girls in a neutral setting. Try to understand the feminine. 

 

 

Edited December 18, 2018 by SgtPepper