how do i know which personality is authentic?

[SageModeAustin]

there is so many different ideas of me and my personality that i don't know which one is actually authentic

Edited December 11, 2018 by SageModeAustin

[SoonHei]

Whatever you ultimately decide upon will be the authentic personality... But you don't control what you decide so there's that.

 

 

[SageModeAustin]

@SoonHei Maybe when you are completely present you are being authentic

[ivory]

The authentic parts of your personality require zero effort to uphold. An inauthentic motive leads to struggle. You've heard the term "try-hard"? If you feel yourself trying hard (struggling) it is often because your motives must be examined.

[Sahil Pandit]

 

31 minutes ago, SageModeAustin said:

@SoonHei Maybe when you are completely present you are being authentic

When you aren't resistant to the present moment,  you are authentic indeed. 

[SageModeAustin]

@ivory good point.

[Hellspeed]

You will know when you will be able to control your reptilian bran. 

[Aquarius]

Personality is a flexible thing. Just be more assertive.

[Forestluv]

When I act in a way that is not need-based it feels geniune. For example, if I give a compliment to someone with no inner motivation for attention, people-pleasing, validation, looking good, get a date etc, It arises from simply appreciation and it feels authentic 

[SageModeAustin]

@Aquarius “just be more assertive.” Why? How is that authentic 

[FoxFoxFox]

14 hours ago, SageModeAustin said:

there is so many different ideas of me and my personality that i don't know which one is actually authentic

Neither one is authentic. This "I" which you have taken to be your "self" is an illusion. 

[Aimblack]

Personalities in of themselves aren't authentic. Asking what personality is really authentic to me is like asking what style of clothes is authentic for me.

[EternalForest]

Once you spend a lot of time journaling, talking to yourself, meditating, examining yourself and creating, the answer will be clear.