How To Stop Judging Yourself

[Teags]

After watching Leo's "how to stop judging yourself" video, I have noticed how much I judge other people constantly throughout my day. 

I did the exercises and I have become very mindful of my judgements but, Frustratingly, I just can't seem to stop judging!

So I have started using the technique learnt in Leo's recent video "The power of self acceptance" so whenever I catch myself judging others I give them love instead. 

Had anyone tried this? or does anyone have any other helpful ideas on how to stop judging others? 

 

[charlie2dogs]

Is seeing the real nature of other people judging them? No it isn,t, if one becomes self realized you will see those around you very clearly.  The I am  which observes, sees through all the nonsense and bs, it is normal, seeing that real nature allows you to not be involved with  people who have a destructive nature.  Many would accuse me of judging in this statement, it is not judging, it is and observation of those who function as the identity and ego, based on living experience, do i dwell on this, no.  There is too much religion and newageism involved in this subject, and it is normal for religion and newageism to basically destroy the meaning of things with their insane philosophies that accomplish nothing but only imprison.  A self realized being should be able to know the other person better than that other person knows themselves, their life should be an open book before you, do i focus on this as something special, or pretend i have something that others don,t, no,  it is the reality of being self realized to see through the illusions,  when you know yourself well enough you will know all others.  Judging is a term used by religion and newageism and humans in general  as a protection mechanism from truth and reality and keeps them feeling secure.  If you can see through the nonsense and illusions be glad for it, use it for yourself and others benefit and in a way that doesn,t bring consequences to yourself or others.  When you attempt to give the reality of a thing to others in an attempt to help them in their personal growth that maybe you have experienced, it requires the use of the of identity and its abilities to to type these words here, also it requires the use of language that you hope some will understand, often many look for something to challenge because of their own belief system, rather than trying to grasp the real meaning of what is being said and often becomes nothing more than a debate of huge egos rather than something constructive. I hope helps you in some way about judging Teags but the real understanding and meaning will have to come from the I am.

P.S.  to see the reality of things is not passing judgment.

[oschi]

I still keep on judging people. Not that easy for me to change. But I got ways to handle this judgement stuff:

1. I judged people since I was little. So did I ever feel any better when judging people? Actually no. Because by judging I intensify topics that I usually don't want to think about. So I should show myself a little bit more love and stop judging others because it gets back to me. It is only me who is getting harmed when I judge others. 

2. It is freakin distracting to judge others. I totally lose myself when judging others. Life is all about you. Think about what you want.

Let's say there is a discussion going on and it just gets totally out of hand. There are 3 people talking about another person, without any serious reasons they just go so hard on that person, judging all the time. 

It is not your task to participate in this. You don't have to judge all 3 persons for judging someone. You also don't have to tell them how they are supposed to behave. It is about respecting each other. So you just take an aspect of this conversation that you can rather define yourself with and ask questions or say something smart. This is just the most noble way of handling this kind of situations.  

[Nathalie]

@Teags You don't have to stop it, it's the job of your mind to analyse things and people, simply don't take it seriously, it isn't real, it's just your opinion, based on your experience, knowledge etc which are (don't take it personally please ) limited. So if you know it's not the reality, you still be open minded and the judging part of you will lessen. It' a matter of acceptance. So you judge people, cool why not? I also do but I don't trust the opinion that emerged out of it.. Let it be a game 

[Teags]

Thanks for your replies. I have a long way to go in the self actualisation world. I judge people so much, a lot on their looks. It consumes me! I realise the way they look is not who they are but I've been doing it for so long. I'll try not to take it too seriously from now on! Thanks guys 

[Natasha]

On 4/10/2016 at 6:00 PM, Socrates said:

@Teags Judgement is good if you know how to use it to your advantage.  It's called projection.  In holistic therapy (see human potential movement) projection is used by the higher self to judge "unconsciousness" in others.  Pointing the finger is actually healthy if used as a way of discovering how not to behave.

This and also Leo's http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-exploit-people-to-grow-yourself