what do you do in the evening?

[Viking]

I usually wake up at 7am go to sleep at 11pm. 

Most of the day im studying. The time I stop studying is at 8pm, then I have my free time, in which I relax. I usually watch tv shows, watch youtube videos or browse the internet. Though youtube and browsing the internet depends if there's anything in my recommended or if i stumble upon something. Mostly I watch TV shows, that's my default you could say.

I start finding TV shows a little boring and unfulfilling, so im trying to find something else to do.
I would read self help books but im afraid its too intellectually stimulating before bed, and it doesnt relax, i need to use my brain for it and i use it all day so its not a thing i should do in the evening. 
I would start reading regular story books, but isnt it like watching TV? im also mediocre at reading so it will be hard and I get bored easily, the meaning of sentences starts to make no sense and I start hating it. I dont know though, I havent tried it since a couple of years ago.
I also shouldnt just meditate because im not gonna meditate 3 hours. Also its not relaxing, it requires a lot of mental energy to keep focusing on the moment because the mind runs away.

What do you do in the evening and before bed to relax?
Should I even allocate that much time to relaxing? or should I be working all day and stop an hour before bed?

[Sahil Pandit]

@Viking Go for a walk before bed, reflect on things you learned that day, what obstacles you overcame, what difficulties you addressed. Connect with your higher self.

Another tip could be writing out the next day's To Do List. 

[ivory]

@Sahil Pandit Nice man

 

@Viking I replaced television with real relationships, making music, cooking, and doing yoga. Get clear on what you value and choose. Try to incorporate some of these into your life: relationships, career advancement, health, creative/physical outlets, education. You might need to focus on diet so you have more energy in the evening.

[Viking]

2 minutes ago, ivory said:

@Viking I replaced television with real relationships, making music, cooking, and doing yoga. Get clear on what you value and choose. Try to incorporate some of these into your life: relationships, career advancement, health, creative/physical outlets, education. You might need to focus on diet so you have more energy in the evening.

even though i said tv started to bored me, still, i feel like life without tv is empty, like theres no point to it.

[Sahil Pandit]

@Viking Who implanted this idea into your psyche? 

[ivory]

Based on your post it sounds like all you do is watch tv and study. Is that an accurate assessment? What about hobbies and social life?

[Viking]

9 minutes ago, Sahil Pandit said:

@Viking Who implanted this idea into your psyche? 

i dont talk to people much so it kinda got there by itself

4 minutes ago, ivory said:

Based on your post it sounds like all you do is watch tv and study. Is that an accurate assessment? What about hobbies and social life?

I also meditate and work out.

[Elisabeth]

1 hour ago, Viking said:

i feel like life without tv is empty, like theres no point to it.

 

To answer your question, usually I'm also hooked (on the internet), but I do go out with people sometimes, I do meditate right before sleep (do nothing, not the concentration types), and when I still lived with my parents and had a bath I loved to relax in warm water. 

Find some variety, you could cook, go out with people, read, watch videos sometimes, go to the theatre, take a walk, skype your mom, make some art... it's no good to do the same every evening. Even reasonably activating things are ok, just shut off everything an hour before bedtime (no phone, dim the lights, take your shower, meditate...) if you're having any trouble falling asleep. 

[ivory]

I spent a good deal of time doing nothing but working and working out. Life felt totally empty and meaningless. I personally need a variety of relationships, creativity, and play. This will always be a priority for me. You need to find out what works for you and make a commitment.

[Joseph Maynor]

On weekends I'm free.  But on Mon thru Fri I have a schedule.

This is my schedule for Mon thru Fri

First 8 -- Devoted to making money

Second 8 -- Devoted to the following:

• MEDITATION ()
• WASH DISHES ()
• LYON STEPS ()
• CODING ()
• WORK ON WRITING PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT BOOK ()
• EXERCISE BIKE ()
• DO PUSHUPS/ SITUPS ()
• SHOWER ()
• COLD SHOWER ()
• BRUSH TEETH PM ()
• EVENING STOMACH MEDICINE ()
• MAKE TOMORROW’S SCHEDULE ()
• PRINT AND SIGN AGREEMENT TO COMPLY WITH NEXT DAY'S DAILY ROUTINE/SCHEDULE ()

Third 8 -- Devoted to sleep

 

Edited November 29, 2018 by Joseph Maynor

[Equanimitize]

5 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

PRINT AND SIGN AGREEMENT TO COMPLY WITH NEXT DAY'S DAILY ROUTINE/SCHEDULE ()

I like this, and may incorporate it. Thank you

5 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

COLD SHOWER ()

I have to get back into doing this as well-might as well make good use of your shower, sometimes I even do bioenergetics while taking a cold shower and get my chimpanzee on. 

[Dan Arnautu]

@Viking Options include:

• A mobile or desktop game that provides just the right amount of stimulation and relaxation
• A fantasy book that keeps you connected to beauty, the magic of life and the hero's journey.
• Listening to music mindfully (doesn't require as much concentration as meditation, just sit back and take it in)
• Reading news 
• Having a chat with a friend
• Commenting on forums, like I'm doing now
• Doing Tai Chi
• Picking up an instrument
• Doing visualizations/hypnosis/affirmations 
  • What's more relaxing than picturing your perfect life in your head at the end of the day?