My life is getting better, but...

[Alexo45]

Lately my life is becoming amazing. I’m starting to be authentic, doing the things i’ve always wanted to do etc. I’ve changed a lot as an individual, but this is affecting the relationships i’m having with my family. My sister is basically just laughing at me for doing the things i’m doing ( eating healthy, meditation etc). My mom is projecting all her fears onto me, when i tell her what i want out of life. It’s becoming so annoying that i’m starting to hate them and that i don’t want to visit them anymore. What do i do?

Edited November 29, 2018 by Alexo45

[Shadowraix]

36 minutes ago, Alexo45 said:

Lately my life is becoming amazing. I’m starting to be authentic, doing the things i’ve always wanted to do etc. I’ve changed a lot as an individual, but this is affecting the relationships i’m having with my family. My sister is basically just laughing at me for doing the things i’m doing ( eating healthy, meditation etc). My mom is projecting all her fears onto me, when i tell her what i want out of life. It’s becoming so annoying that i’m starting to hate them and that i don’t want to visit them anymore. What do i do?

Your life is starting to gravitate away from the average person so you will definitely get a lot of backlash about that, but remember to center back in with yourself. With your own self acceptance. They can have their thoughts on you. But the map is not the territory. They are stuck in their own perspective while you have expanded yours. I would of laughed at this kind of stuff even just a year or 2 ago. Understand their outlook. Think of a kid calling you stupid over eating healthy. They don't know any better and you understand that. Or maybe they are reacting to some kind of problem in themselves that you display (lack of fulfillment, healthiness etc) could be a lot of things. 

First come to terms with their opposing view and accept that and also accept your own path which continues based on your desires and not anyone elses. Don't let that ego grab hold and get upset by other thoughts. 

If you want to try and reason with them then tell your mom you are happy and that you need to follow your path. You have to be the one that learns. She surely doesn't want to be taking away that happiness does she?

Understand, love, and accept those who do not agree or don't understand. If they are meant to grow to the lengths you have they will.

Edited November 29, 2018 by Shadowraix

[zambize]

My mother knows zero about my acid use or any mystical experiences I've had.  I know its nice to talk about yourself to others, but if you are going to hate them as a result of it, leave it be.  They may be ignorant, but they also weren't as lucky as you to stumble upon such a beautiful path.  Love them, or leave them be, this path ends in love from what I can tell so far, dont expect to get there hating 

[ZZZZ]

If they aren't receptive to your latest life choices, you don't have to share the details with them. It's nice to surround yourself with people that will accept you in your most authenti state, but others will never come around. It is good that you are realizing the projections and delusions of others, but you should not hate them or criticize them for what they are doing. Use this as a challenge or a learning tool. So what if they project on you? So what if they laugh? Just smile and enjoy life. It's such a wonderful thing 

[Sahil Pandit]

@Alexo45 "Don't rock the boat, because that'll make me have to look at myself"

That's what i observed when i first experienced what you are mentioning above.

Look, some people are wiser than others, and that's okay. If your Mom and sister saw the big picture, long term vision you were staring to create by doing this work, they would respect your choices a lot more... But they don't. So accept it, and accept yourself, and keep moving forward on the path.