Question for men - How much masturbation do you feel is healthy?

[Shroomdoctor]

Hey guys,

I have the following issue:

I am a bit undecided on the topic of masturbation. I have a hard time finding the right balance. I have cut out porn, but I face the following issues with masturbation alone:

With regular masturbation:

- I loose part of my motivation
- It gets more and more and its hard to keep i in line, when I'm not strictly not doing it.
- I start to use it as an escape

With no masturbation at all:
- I get really motivated and my drive goes through the roof
-BUT after a certain amount of time I loose control of my sexual impulses and start excessively longing for sex, spending unhealthy amounts of times on Tinder etc. e.g. "not" porn or masturbation but some kind of stimulation. I become really really really one sided, and rash in my decision making, getting me into potential risky situations. 

Have you faced similar problems, and how do you handle them?

[Shroomdoctor]

@Maximus Thank You <3 

[universe]

I feel like 2-3 times a week is healthy for me if I dont have sex. Maybe once if you are busy. I wouldnt say porn is healthy but if you dont get addicted to it, its not too unhealthy either.

[Bluff]

On Thursday, November 29, 2018 at 3:39 PM, Shroomdoctor said:

With no masturbation at all:
- I get really motivated and my drive goes through the roof

the answer to this thread

 

On Thursday, November 29, 2018 at 3:39 PM, Shroomdoctor said:

BUT after a certain amount of time I loose control of my sexual impulses

your problem

 

go for what you know is right. 

[Sahil Pandit]

@Shroomdoctor Sounds like you still have options as in, distractions to keep you on edge. Can you eliminate them? If you can, the urge will still be there. That's when keeping yourself busy comes into place. Gym, going to the library, cook yourself some food. Basically do something that keeps you from your distractions and you should be good. 

Regardless, all the best. 

[iGhost]

Just do as many as you feel, sometimes I do 3 times a day, sometimes I go without having it for a week. 

Listen to your body, see if the ego uses masturbation as a distraction, if yes, then stop. Be wise about it.

[Michael569]

Nothing wrong with getting off when your body desires it. All man have sexual urges and if you try to fight it, it will kill you. Make sure you don't do it to distract yourself or from boredom.

When you feel like your desires are creeping up your brain rendering it unable to pass a sane judgement without imagining boobs 50 times in between, that's when its time to get it over with. 

I think also every time you ejaculate, you lose a bit more than bunch of minerals and protein, a bit of your vigour or life force if you will and this is not easy to replenish. The guy who wrote Tao of Healh, Sex & Longevity talks about this and says the older you get the less frequently should you ejaculate. He says masturbate as much as you want but don't cum and instead channel this buildup energy towards other actions. 

[ajasatya]

On 29/11/2018 at 11:39 AM, Shroomdoctor said:

With no masturbation at all:
- I get really motivated and my drive goes through the roof
-BUT after a certain amount of time I loose control of my sexual impulses and start excessively longing for sex, spending unhealthy amounts of times on Tinder etc. e.g. "not" porn or masturbation but some kind of stimulation. I become really really really one sided, and rash in my decision making, getting me into potential risky situations. 

Have you faced similar problems, and how do you handle them?

yes i have.

you have to channel that creative energy with wisdom. it's difficult for you because human culture in general is trash right now. but you can use that energy to perform asanas (hatha yoga), for instance.

a very wise yoga teacher once told me that it's possible to use the sexual energy to heal the cells of your body.

[Cortex]

As long as you have sex everything is great, sex actually boosts your testosterone levels even if you ejaculate, if the only thing that you're doing is masturbating and coming by yourself then you've got a problem and you will fuckt all of your energy and hormones and vitamins and minerals, after masturbation you will feel like a wasted piece of shit, but after sex you will feel like a great animal and everything will be amazing for your health, for me I like to drink a grapefruit juice after sex for better health and minerals, grapefruit is a superfood in terms of sexual health and semen 

[Hellspeed]

Learn to in-jack to skip all your sexual problems at any level. Is the art of relaxation, "no muscles"!

[eleveneleven]

On 11/29/2018 at 6:39 AM, Shroomdoctor said:

With no masturbation at all:
- I get really motivated and my drive goes through the roof
-BUT after a certain amount of time I loose control of my sexual impulses and start excessively longing for sex, spending unhealthy amounts of times on Tinder etc. e.g. "not" porn or masturbation but some kind of stimulation. I become really really really one sided, and rash in my decision making, getting me into potential risky situations. 

Have you faced similar problems, and how do you handle them?

Happened to me. Tried not to fap as an experiment and all my thoughts started being too sexual, and I found myself wasting time on activities such as dating sites.

So I struck a balance. I fap about once a week and generally try not to use porn while I do it. Basically, I don't fap as a way to have fun, BUT once I notice that I am getting "backed up" and it is affecting my thoughts and mood, I honor the urge and I fap. This turned out to be about once a week for me, but your frequency may vary. I'm a youngish adult still, but I am long past puberty; if you are in your early 20's you may need to do it more often than I do. If you can't fap with just your imagination (common problem), then you'll need to practice, but it is doable for most people.

Think of it this way: You know how some people eat for fun, while others eat only when they're actually hungry? It's like that. The solution for the former group isn't to just stop eating. It's to be conscious of how they eat, and learn to eat only when the biological urge strikes (rather than just the psychological desire for the pleasure of eating).

[Psychonaut]

Not watching porn greatly reduced the frequency for me. It's easy to masturbate several times in succession when watching porn. That drained me a lot. 

I like to masturbate about once every week or so. Sex also only about once a week, I don't enjoy it when I'm not really really horny.